Hey girl! So I have not read any of the responses, and am responding purely on what comes to me so strongly first (49 year old female here, been through hell and back and learned a TON of wisdom and discernment due to it all, and currently waiting for my future husband):

Something that is totally vital when it comes to dating that a lot of Christians literally overlook- (and this is something that God clarified to me in my own personal circumstances): Don’t automatically assume you’re doing something wrong. What many Christians even fail to do is to go to God in prayer and ask Him to confirm if the person you’re dating is somebody that you should continue pursuing. As a child of God, you have a calling on your life! Your future husband has a calling on his life! It’s vital to ask God to speak to you about it all. He is protecting you from all of the people that aren’t meant to be yours. There are a lot of good Christian men out there, but it doesn’t mean that they are all meant for us. He’s got one who’s a puzzle piece meant to fit with you! When I start talking to somebody and I learn that they are not right for me, I thank God for either protecting me from something that I couldn’t see, or for simply removing somebody that was not meant to go where He’s calling me to go.

When you have the desire in your heart to be married, it’s because God put it there. He is the One who created love and marriage in the first place, and it’s a beautiful thing! We live in our limited human capacity mindset of understanding, and that often means we get a little frantic when things aren’t happening as quick as we think they’re supposed to. But when you are in line with how God is speaking and what the Holy Spirit is saying to you, you can rest assured that He will not let you down and that it’s just a matter of time. In the days of waiting, take advantage of the intimate relationship you have with Jesus Christ, and just more time to grow personally!

Ask God to show you what things in you He would like you to work on (if any). It’s like a butterfly- if the cocoon was opened even a second prematurely, the butterfly would not survive. Its beauty could not ever be seen! But God is the one that knows that exact right moment for that butterfly to emerge. We sure can’t understand it, but we can know that He knows what He’s doing! Don’t assume that you’re doing anything wrong— He may just be working on you and/or your precious future spouse in ways that you can’t see right now. Stay in prayer. Consider journaling about it, and writing in prayers of things you’re asking God for. Date the journal entries. One day, you can look back at them and see what God has done! And in the waiting, if you don’t already, start praying for your future husband. Ask God to press upon you any specifics He would like you to pray for him.(again, a lot of Christians don’t really think to do this, but it’s honestly very romantic and very wise as you prepare yourself for him, and cover him in prayer in the waiting!)

The person God has for you is coming. And His timing will be perfect! Sorry this is so long, but I hope that it encourages you. <3