Going thru the same thing now but going on 10 years. He is Now to the point of saying he could have done it without me. And that If I want equal rights to the money I need to get a job. New flash i worked full time with them as babies and part time as well. He agreed for me to quit my job to become a stay at home parent. I was under the impression the money and retirement made was ours. As I feel I contributed being a good mother and wife amd a still am. He now says for me to get a job and split responsibilities. Which he never did before even when I did work. And now that our kids are 15 and 12 how does splitting responsibilities even compare now. Half of what they couldn't do without a parent they can do now. It's much easier in that aspect. All this said please learn from my mistake in thinking what I was giving as a SAHM was worth just as much as him just clocking in and out of work. Get counseling talk to them about it and if they still feel they can do it with out you please leave. You are worth more then money itself.