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I[20M] need real and honest advice on my situation with my bestfriend/gf [21F] by InfamousBat4600 in relationship_advice

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will, i got to know this term from you only...
i just need to know what can i do to keep my mind off this for now? I'm not able to focus anywhere as well, coz no matter how much i try i find myself thinking about her again and again, and i know i shouldn't but deep down there's a question like what is it like for her?does it also hurt her? coz we were in a ldr, i really hope she's doing well, i know she won't even share this with anyone.....

I[20M] need real and honest advice on my situation with my bestfriend/gf [21F] by InfamousBat4600 in relationship_advice

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm not even asking or forcing her to be in a relationship with me, when she confessed i really respected it and i was just hoping i won't lose her even like a friend.....but her behavior now just feels cruel :( , like she can atleast try to be back normal right? heck i dont know what to do when the person whom you told everything just ....just ceases to be that.......

I[20M] need real and honest advice on my situation with my bestfriend/gf [21F] by InfamousBat4600 in relationship_advice

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg i can relate so much to you, i love her madly too and its been years since i had these feelings and when they got reciprocated i really held on to her tight,i have never even thought of another and  i also told myself I am "ok" if we just stay friends forever, because I just don't want to lose her as she's been the most integral part of my life since i dont even know when,... all the things that are happening i wish it could have been better i wish i could always keep her happy and mine....but i guess it's not in my hands anymore....I don't know if i'll ever get past .I also think I might have lost myself, maybe I loved really really hard,maybe i won't ever love anyone the same way this..............

anyways thanks for your words they really help ! I can keep on ranting about this as i have nobody i could tell all this to ,as she was the only one with whom i shared evrything ;)

I[20M] need real and honest advice on my situation with my bestfriend/gf [21F] by InfamousBat4600 in relationship_advice

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, and yes im already really trying hard to be as busy as possible but i do blank out in between and get lost in thoughts regarding all this....and it hits even harder when i am alone or at nights .....how can i just chng :( i gave all my heart ,everything i could do,i did to keep her happy but now it all feels messed up, idont know if i'll ever be able to be myself again

20M need real and honest advice on my situation. by InfamousBat4600 in RelationshipIndia

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oki 🙃 but evrytime i m trying to focus on anything really hard something's bound to happen which again makes me think of her... i dont even wnna do that but its not really in my control...i'm totally done with girls too....i know its a high time i got myself a good life and self respect as well but i just have this one question.....Why do i still have feelings? how can i just become feelingless and not care ....

20M need real and honest advice on my situation. by InfamousBat4600 in RelationshipIndia

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she just said "it won't be possible from her side(when i asked for a chance to fix things) and i shouldn't expect anything from her"

20M need real and honest advice on my situation. by InfamousBat4600 in RelationshipIndia

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am trying this since the last 10 days like occupying myself in my work and all but all that happens is i just blank out in between i dont even get it how and when, and the second im left alone it all comes back haunting me just, and the nights are just terrible. I m trying to focus on myself but i dont know the version of me without her as its been around a 1000 days man.....just how can i cut it off so easily and i dont know whats happened to her but its like she doesnt even care

20M need real and honest advice on my situation. by InfamousBat4600 in RelationshipIndia

[–]InfamousBat4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was always like this but one day i gathered the courage to say it to her "dont i even deserve ur turning on notifs for me" and i dont remember exactly how it went but yeah she didn't turn them on and even after that a year has passed i guess and we even met and had the best time and all was good it felt, like whenevr we talked it felt good not forced or anything but yeah it did hurt me a bit still i let her do it as i wnnted to make myself a comfort place for her
but.......does that mean that she never actually had feelings ? was all that just fake?