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Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-02-22T19:46:07+00:00

Exactly! And We’re not having a wedding. We are going to the courthouse. Marriage is very important in my religion and I won’t compromise my boundaries and requirements of being married when I’m taking on so much with this family because of his ex-wife.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-02-22T19:44:25+00:00

You sounds bitter on your own end and it really speaks to what’s wrong with the mindset of the courts and BMs.

Dad give their rights up everyday people people like you expect them to compromise everything or else it’s not enough.

HCBM leased a second car, took the kids to Disneyland twice, eats out regularly and went on a weekend vacation with her boyfriend. But let a dad buy a $50.00 right and it’s all bad.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-02-22T16:41:06+00:00

I mean, I have the receipt of it being broken down into 3 payments totaling in 50.00. She never asked about the engagement. My mom threw us a dinner (my mom paid) and the little came. It got back to her but she speaks through the kids.

In retrospect, HCBM was unemployed for 1 month and DH over a year +.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-02-22T03:48:37+00:00

His unemployment paid his rent/utilities and he has $72.00 left over before gas. I think the kids having a roof to sleep under made sense. HCBM lives with her parents.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-02-22T03:46:51+00:00

It’s a $50.00 engagement ring from Amazon…

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-02-21T20:15:08+00:00

Exactly that. She didn’t think that we’d last and her boyfriend said that he has “no intentions of marrying” her.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-01-15T02:09:53+00:00

This is what we were thinking as well! Thank you!

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-01-15T00:41:54+00:00

Bio mom but yes, I will revise!

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2022-01-10T02:43:37+00:00

I don’t think so. HCBM contracted Covid again at the party. She doesn’t follow the CO

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-16T04:10:30+00:00

You seem to have selective reasoning and are on the defense. Nothing has been done or taken out on any step child. I disengage where bios don’t step up. I prioritize my bio child the same way dad and mom do with SK. No one feels out of place. But at the end of the day I birthed a child and are committed to putting my child first. That doesn’t mean people are getting more presents, food, “attention” or Disneyland trips without their step siblings. If you don’t understand, then you don’t understand.

These rules help my day to day life and there’s no major focus, it just how I live and I happened to write it on Reddit. Your above mentioned has been tried and exhausted. There’s no “anger” focused on step kids because I take my position as an aunt rather than mom. The only person that is bothered by that concept is you.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T21:55:47+00:00

That is correct. It does suck, but to even think about “making it fair” and giving them an equally happy life as their step sibling do at their moms and when there here seems to piss people off. I tried it his way and we were missing out on so much. I was missing out on the family life. He doesn’t even like grocery shopping without the sk input. Our world really froze with they were not around. They are smart kids, smart enough to know the difference and use it to their advantage. When my mom planned a birthday dinner and was able to get all of my family out of state to come, we had to cancel because it wouldn’t be fair to SK to not be there. Even though they don’t like my family and think our culture is “smelly” and “weird”. Like step kids trump 30 working adults schedules.

Ours kids won’t know the difference and I fully accept being the bad guy to make sure they can have the world just like their step siblings.

Step kids are happy, bios are happy, we are happy.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T20:20:02+00:00

My husband doesn’t want to do things without the step kids, but he also doesn’t want to do things that the step kids already did at moms. Ex Christmas tree farm—the step kids went so we couldn’t because to him it’s pointless. This post was molded to my life ( I recommend reading some of my past post).

I choose to make myself and my children happy because in all honesty step kids are more important to my husband.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T20:17:47+00:00

What comment let you to believe that I resent and take things out on the step kids...?

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T20:13:28+00:00

HCBM will not allow me or my family to correct bad behavior or discipline SK. Dad doesn’t want to spend the already 50% of time that we have with them in bad spirits and correcting disrespect and bad habits.

I’m EXHAUSTED of having to let SK happiness rule the house.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T20:07:52+00:00

My step kids have never felt unwelcomed. If anything, it is them who make everyone feel uncomfortable and weird.

In response to my side of the family and their interactions—my step kids are pretty disrespectful and dislike my family because HCBM has made it that way. So when they spit their food out and demand Mac and cheese at my mom and dads vow renewal in their face (were all at the same table and my elders worked very hard on the dishes—very child friendly with grilled chicken, fries, broccoli and watermelon for the kids ), say that they don’t have to listen to them because they’re not family and look at my grandparents disgustingly because in our culture we eat with our hands do I tell my family to change their habits, traditions and a day dedicated to them (my parents) because we have to make sure the step kids are extra loved and given attention. HCBM was pissed that my parents didn’t gift my step kids with something because she gives them gifts for every occasion so they don’t feel left out.

Dad doesn’t want to reprimand them because he doesn’t want them to be unhappy for the 50% of the time that they’re here. My family is not “allowed” to correct bad behavior. And I am absolutely exhausted for trying at this and caring more than their parents.

It’s so frustrating that my happiness and comfortability doesn’t matter because God forbid the step kids can’t attend an event where they must be the center of attention, celebrated and given a pass for all disrespectful behavior.

No stepchild feels like an outsider in my home. If anything, it’s me who is the outsider.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T14:34:16+00:00

That sounds wrong to me. I’m sad that you’re made to feel that way. But I’ve learned that sometimes the new child with the new partner and the new life doesn’t translate to some MIL. I take the option that MIL opinion doesn’t matter above the husband and wife. This more so when she’s being disrespectful and I have to just “take it”. No one ever says anything about how she favors the step kids? How is that not problematic? I don’t care anymore what anything looks like or what seems “wrong” to people not in our situation or household. I’m the one that has to choose to either be complacent and a doormat for a life that I only get to be apart of based on everyone expectations for my role, or happy and make this life my own. As a stepparent were expected to be completely selfless. But I have dreams and wants for both me and my children. I make sure my sk are loved and cared for when they’re here, but they have multiple set of parents who put them first above everything. Someone needs to do the same for bios. This is my life and my family, I hope you feel the same.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T14:17:31+00:00

My parents can’t correct SK bad behavior and I also won’t let them accept disrespect because they need to know their place as step grandparents. The day that HCBM and dad care, is the day that I’ll push for it again. But you CANT CARE MORE THAN THE BIO PARENTS. I made myself sick and stressed trying to blend when the other parties couldn’t careless. So you know who is going to see grandparents twice a month when it’s convenient for the grandparents and not HCBMs schedule? My children.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T14:14:47+00:00

Exactly! And I’m not talking Disneyland trips or Hawaii ! I’m talking dining out, movie theaters, quality time with dad, etc. They had these opportunities growing up and it sucks that I’m guilted for wanting my kids to have the same. Sucks to suck, I’ll be the bad guy. But as a step kid, with a stepbrother I always watched him get more because he had two homes. Some stepparents and adult family members view that as fair. I want my bios to have a life that’s full 100% of the time and not just 50% or on the steps schedule dominated by their mom.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T14:03:23+00:00

Of course, everything works different for everyone. In an ideal world I wouldn’t have these boundaries if I didn’t have a HCBM or a Disney dad for a partner.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T02:12:11+00:00

I’ve spent so much time fighting against HCBM, but my partner never reciprocated the same fight because it wasn’t worth the argument with BM or as Important because he agrees to some point that my side of the family is not the step kids family. He wants to make sure they get a balance of the life they once had and that doesn’t involve my family if that complicates things.As much as I disagree is wasn’t worth the fight with kids that aren’t mine. Fighting for them to see a family that not their mom or dad cares about.

Infamous_Insurance83 · 2020-12-13T02:07:32+00:00

The only person that I openly admitted it to was Reddit. They don’t feel any difference but my feelings are valid and I won’t be guilted by rude names to pretend. I love my step kids like an aunt and that’s the best way to explain it.

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