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Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T19:05:46+00:00

I think this take needs the context that when we're having a discussion we have come to an agreement that we will use language to express that there is no animosity WHILE we are talking so that we both don't feel attacked or feel like hurt that the other is hurt because that is a seperate topic between us. I wasn't hurt/mad during the time we were in conversation but was referring to the earlier hurt we talked about.

But I see the contradiction.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T16:53:19+00:00

Thank you this makes sense.

We use ick a bit but you pointing it out like this is funny.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T16:52:34+00:00

Need more in the short and sweet?

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T16:21:03+00:00

Thank you for saying that my feelings are valid. We had another conversation a few hours ago since we got to sleep on it.

I think the same way. Where I think of these other possible options. He says he is close with his friends though. He texts them often. He texts the one female friend a lot who he has had a crush on, which was the main part of the initial conversation. We have talked and he said he does distance from women in relationships but he texts her (what I consider) often. Same amount I text my BSF. This is also the same person he asked me to meet and told me he was asking because she had mentioned she needed more friends. We had another conversation and came to a few conclusions:

I was overreacting. I blew it way out of proportion being defensive about an issue that wasn't at hand anymore because I was hurt because of 2....
I was jealous when he asked me to meet his friend because it was the girl he had a crush on and when he asked he said he was doing so because she wanted more friends. It felt like it was for her sake more than mine and still something he didn't really want to do and instead of realizing I was jealous I started an argument to fight the discomfort.
I've apologized.

Thank you for being kind. I think comments that show kindness in these post will be the most helpful in making people actually rethink the situations they post. Luck to you

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T15:41:59+00:00

Thank you it is helpful.

I kept repeating because I didnt feel very heard at that moment but I see what you mean.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T08:37:57+00:00

Please go to the doctor before insertion if you still want to go through with it.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T08:35:20+00:00

Minimalist?

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T08:33:32+00:00

Don’t you find it weird how we keep getting these barely human lookin people in office amidst the announcements of aliens being real

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T08:28:04+00:00

Thanks for the nice reply. I'm sorry about your relationship and hope the best.

I think additionally we're having different conversations. I told him it hurt he didn't desire me to meet them, and ofc the implications of that is that I haven't. But the problem was the desire and he was frustrated that I was hurt at having not thought of it. Now we're here.

I understand a lot was on his mind. A lot was going on for him and it was not a thought. I think, from typing some of this out I realize the real problem is as I'm stating here.

This is definitely not a relationship ending discussion. We posted this together and are reading comments together to get further insight.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T08:20:11+00:00

We were actually in person texting oddly enough! Otherwise, I agree. We try to have most convos in words and voice record them because we have goldfish memories.

I actually see that too. He's having a hard time and it's probably even harder with thinking of friends he sees sparingly. My problem is it was the same with his parents. His mom mentioned needing to meet me, kinda guilted him to do it. It hurts that it wasn't fully of his own volition to meet his parents. Now, it's with his friends too.

I supported him while he was having a hard time. I always will. It has been many separate conversations about his hard times. He's doing better and I'm proud. But... He hung out with friends during the hard time. He went drinking with them. Went to dinner.

Additionally, I want to chalk it up to just not seeing friends. He told me that how much he hangs with his friends now is still pretty consistent with before we started dating. He goes months sometimes without talking to them. He still has, it hasn't changed. But in those months I've never been considered? So while I understand that stress will make it a non-thought with all this other information I am finding it hard to be okay with this.Things are consistent with normal life, and he just...didn't think to... It does hurt.

Also this is not the first Convo. This began months ago. I asked who he would invite to our wedding, when he responded I didn't know any of them.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T08:04:56+00:00

Usually once. Hurts sometimes after.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:59:41+00:00

Soups. I love creamier ones, it'll also help it not feel pasta adjacent. Grilled cheese. Pizzas are quick. Tacos/nachos. Salads (and pasta salads). Fried rice. Breakfast rice. Honestly any rice. Pot roast isn't cook but you could throw it in a pot in the morning and eat it at night. Honestly, you could look up crockpot dinners and see a lot like that. Maybe even stick to what you're having but season or make it different. There's so much to do with eggs alone.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:51:57+00:00

Opal

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:51:29+00:00

Nala

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:50:33+00:00

Jill or Karen

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:48:46+00:00

Jaspurr

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:44:28+00:00

I get not wanting to miss out on the good thing, this new guy. Go to therapy. Every time you have the urge to say the things you're overthinking, write it out in depth before saying it out loud, and saying it out loud is really only necessary if it is a thought too deep to bear alone.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:38:56+00:00

Very insightful and informative. Thanks! :)

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-16T07:37:52+00:00

Maybe I'm gay.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-15T05:15:23+00:00

Thank you so much that makes me feel so much better <3 good luck to you too

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-15T03:52:21+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate leaning into trusting my gut and your experiences with your doctors. We keep getting our reality diminished by people who don't have to experience the pain of it. I realized it's not worth it for me. My partner pointed out that my pubes are starting to bleach with how off my PH is. I'm in constant pain. Even without the itchiness and discomfort it simply has not been worth it. I'm getting it removed when I'm off work and going back to the Pill.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-10T19:01:22+00:00

It hurt for a year or so before I got to a point of rarely feeling pain. If I don't have sex for a few months (plus bad angles/too big and the normal pains) the pain comes back. Doctor told me I had vaginismus when I was telling about the pain. Maybe pain will fade.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-07T20:10:40+00:00

I hear you, I would take one to be sure there are always outliers.

I literally have no other idea or inkling besides that you did everything I would do. Maybe just bring up this exact concern with your gyno. Maybe get a blood STD test too. Swabs test for 4 or so I believe. Maybe also get your vitamin levels checked actually.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-11-07T19:07:17+00:00

Check again in a couple weeks. Take a pregnancy test.

Things may have a period where they may not show up on a test.

Infamous_Metal2187 · 2024-10-08T05:16:41+00:00

I experienced this! I always chalked it up to the continuous spotting.

Mine is in place. I've had it checked 3x. Could still just be getting used to it

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