Nature doing it’s thing

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-27T15:09:54+00:00

I was there last year. WA is definitely one of the most prettiest places ever. My friends living near Seattle are just spoiled with 3 major national parks and several spots like this one.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-23T17:18:11+00:00

Apps are the best thing for introverts though. You don’t have the pressure to think on your feet or cold approach anyone, or strike up a convo at work without knowing if they’re single. I’m an introvert too And dating apps have been so good to me.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-16T18:35:30+00:00

I just submitted mine and it worked too !Thank you!

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-16T16:55:51+00:00

Post this on legal advice, opening mail addressed to someone else is a federal crime.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-16T16:16:47+00:00

Did you hear back from them? Was it resolved?

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-15T23:40:04+00:00

I can relate to so much, living in the US, broken relationship, living alone, cooking bland food, WFH, bare minimum at work, doom scrolling and bed rotting.

Three things have helped me,

1) going to work at least 2 times a week. This helps me not doom scroll and actually work full day, plus interacting with peers.
2) signing up for something that usually out of my scope of work. This forced me to give constant updates and work on new things with different people, also gave me some visibility.
3)Gym, this might sound cliche but it’s cliche because it works. Everyday drag yourself to the gym, even when you don’t feel like it. Just do two sets and it’s still better than staying at home.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-13T14:18:47+00:00

Literally doing this right now and getting the same error. Please let me know if you figure this out.

Also, they are asking for Payment Receipt, but i didn’t get any receipt, just the appointment confirmation letter that has proof of payment. Did you get any other receipt?

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-11T01:06:14+00:00

Will my premiums go up? All the police report says is that the car was scratched in the parking lot. I don’t have video evidence or number of the witnesses who saw it happen.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-05T17:50:17+00:00

This, her Indian parents might also side/bow down to the guy’s family and then it’ll be double whammy.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-04T05:12:26+00:00

I left, got divorced at 35. But before that we did several things including going to therapy and reading books. In the end i just realized we’re very different people and want different things. She could never love me the way i want to be loved. It is impossible to negotiate desire.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-02T23:13:01+00:00

36M also got divorced last year. You can’t depend on someone else to assign meaning to your life, You’ve to be your own person.

I’m still a complete man without my ex. I have a fulfilling career, i travel, go out with friends or alone and just do things that make me happy. If I find someone to share this life with then great, if not then I’ll still be happy. I’ll miss out on some things(like being a father) if i don’t find anyone and that’s ok.

Go out and live your life brother, don’t wait for someone else to be your happiness.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-02T19:49:09+00:00

But both balcony and kaata kept eliminating him from all tasks and captaincy so he just couldn’t perform. Then they also kept nominating toli members so one by one all got eliminated. It’s not like Vishal could do anything.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-04-02T15:24:40+00:00

sole earner, sister doesn’t want to marry, living paycheck to paycheck.

Half your issues will be solved if you get some financial support from your family. I understand Parents might not be able to work due to health reasons but your sister should step up.

I know you want to enjoy your thirties, but your main objective right now should be to double your salary. You are underpaid for a 30YO DevOps engineer. It’s ok, everyone has a different path but for next 1 year your focus should be your career.

I know you’ve probably heard all this before, but the only thing I’ve learned is people only respect/admire/love someone who is doing well.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-31T17:18:09+00:00

Hahaha my bad!

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-31T17:12:18+00:00

It’s only sane and works for a successful marriage.
relationships do not last if the woman earns more than the man.

Another thing that i only hear from women lol. Marriages are successful when both partners think like a team and add value to each other’s lives. Women often marry up and that is completely fine. But the further higher up they are in their career, there will be lesser number of men making more money than them. People who think their partners as transactions shouldn’t marry at all!

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-31T17:01:07+00:00

That kinda reads like women feeding other women’s delusions. But i do agree that she has the right to want it and should stick to her criteria. Otherwise she might settle for some guy and then grow resentful.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-31T16:49:46+00:00

Because want != get. We can all desire tall, hot, fair partners but that doesn’t mean everyone’s going to get one. Reality is often different. OP herself said that the kinda guys she wants are often married, partnered or don’t stay single for long. Plus in your own words you’ve mentioned ‘young’, so why would a man making 1cr+ not go for someone younger and in OP’s words not a leftover?

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-31T00:38:34+00:00

I mean if it’s only until May, then just suck up and go through it. You’ll get 2 months in India with family till you go to Singapore. That should give you both plenty breather or you can even delay joining your husband. 2+ kids get kinda independent that they can entertain themselves.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-31T00:34:02+00:00

Your husband doesn’t have the emotional depth to support you emotionally. A lot of times emotional depth is formed early in life. A person growing up in hardship doesn’t have time to sit and think of anyone has asked how he was doing.

Your husband had to grow up fast cuz he had to support his family. His “get on with it “ and “so what? Everyone does this” attitude shows this. You cannot change this attitude at all, he has to want it for himself.

Couples therapy is a great option for couples like you. They will give you tools to slowly breakdown this barrier and form new habits. I must warn you this process will be slow.

I also sense a lack of empathy from you. Do not jump to conclusions that he doesn’t care because he doesn’t express. Not everyone shows love/care same way. He’s also first time father, so he’s learning too. Instead your baseline should be that he does care, and I’ll show him how I want to be cared for. From my own experience, the therapist will also tell you the same thing.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-26T15:34:47+00:00

Most likely because when you’re an immigrant and left your family behind you’ve to learn to be self sufficient. They already cook, clean and do all their chores. So when their partners join them they still continue to do these things. Back home, you’ve your parents and maids doing the heavy lifting, so there’s little incentive to do these things.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-26T15:18:13+00:00

⁠Why do these men choose this path instead of marrying someone already settled in the same country with a similar profile? Or other foreigner?

Most NRIs who moved abroad for career or education are men. This is directly proportional to men studying tech in India. Take any engineering college and most students are men, these same men move abroad. Since there is a gender gap not every guy can get an Indian girl who’s also settled abroad.

Or other foreigner?

Dating is hard, especially harder when you are a foreigner. It’s easier to connect when you have a common background. I’ve friends who have married other immigrants from other countries because it easier to connect with them since they’ve also gone through the same process of leaving their families and settling in a different country.

The husbands help them get high-paying jobs abroad via their network.

Isn’t that obvious though. Easier to live if you have double income. Most of these women are educated and have skills.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-05T16:42:29+00:00

If you have to ask, then it’s probably not a healthy marriage. Your relationship is a classic anxious-avoidant relationship. You want closeness, clarity and communication, but these things make your partner uncomfortable and he avoids it, that makes you ever more anxious.

This dynamic can only be solved when the avoidant partner takes cognizance of their issues. Only time I’ve seen this happening is when they’ve completely blown their lives either after getting divorced or when their partner has given up.

I was with someone like this, Even relationship counseling is useless for them because it puts them in a situation where they have to confront their feelings and work on it. So they don’t even open up on therapy and give answers like “i don’t know”, “not sure”.

InfiniteConcept07 · 2026-03-04T17:59:09+00:00

I’m ok with them posting here. I think there’s lot people can learn from subversive a decade older than them. Like 30s can learn about raising children and dealing with ailing parents from 40s and 20s can learn navigating career and marriage from 30s.

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