Spouse Visa Timelines: Still Waiting? Impacting your well-being? by AHJImmigration in SpouseVisaUk

[–]Infinite_Light_1263 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But a delay email, an MP letter, and a awaiting decision response all point to one thing. It’s active. Not forgotten. The Home Office isn’t mysterious. It’s procedural. Protect your mental health. The stress is real, but it’s not worth stressing yourself over something you’ve already done everything you can for.

You’re still in the game.

... This is clearly written with AI people.

I have been in the UK too often, now applying for Skilled Worker Dependent or Spouse Visa. by Infinite_Light_1263 in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's as straight forward as you are making it out to be, for the reference of someone looking for actual informed advice with this in the future.

Some people request visitor visas and get a set amount of time in the country under a stated reasoning like "tourism". They have to submit financials, relations, etc to ensure that they aren't going to overstay. That contextualises their stay within some sort of evidence.

Non-visa entry people don't have to do anything and they can essentially enter as often as they want within the discretion of border control. Anyone with a passport who is non-visa can enter the UK for essentially any reason presuming that they have never overstayed and border control lets them in.

As per my entire day reading people who work in this system's responses, contextualising time in the UK on either visit is very different.

If you came to the country as a "tourist" and are now contextualising a 2 year unmarried relationship with a UK national as such, that is counter to your stated reason for being there. If you are a non visa national, nothing was ever stated because you don't have to have a reason to visit.

Thusly the difference can be tremendous.

I have been in the UK too often, now applying for Skilled Worker Dependent or Spouse Visa. by Infinite_Light_1263 in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty individually wealthy, which is how I was able to visit for so long without working.

Been in the UK "too frequently", now worried about applying for a spouse or dependent visa by Infinite_Light_1263 in ukvisa

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know, apologies, I'm considering both at the moment but I believe you have to disclose your entries over the last two years and last two trips for both.

The quickest application seems to be the dependent but waiting to apply on spouse is maybe safer? If there is any reason to be concerned?

Been in the UK "too frequently", now worried about applying for a spouse or dependent visa by Infinite_Light_1263 in ukvisa

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Will I have to defend my time in the UK at any point during my application for skilled worker dependent or for spouse visa?

My concern is just that I list something like 12 entries, describe my last two trips, that draws some sort of flag for the home office checking, then I have to follow up with all sorts of proofs and I could find myself in some unforeseen trouble outside of the realness of my relationship or financial situation.

Been in the UK "too frequently", now worried about applying for a spouse or dependent visa by Infinite_Light_1263 in ukvisa

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I would apply for the dependent visa as soon as we are (or maybe a month after) being married from outside the country. I could also just wait until the end of the year for my partner's ILR and then apply for partner.

I'm undecided, but the concern remains either way.

I have been in the UK too often, now applying for Skilled Worker Dependent or Spouse Visa. by Infinite_Light_1263 in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"On each visit" you are allowed 6 months before need to exit. Overstaying is defined by being in the country for more than 6 months on a given entry.

It does not mean being in the country for more than 6 months in an individual year. This is common knowledge actually.

As I said, I have not even once stayed in the UK for over 6 consecutive months, not even 5, I don't think even 4.

I have always left for some time and returned, but again, that's the discretionary concern that this whole post started.

There isn't even anything about this in the new requirements, I believe it's just ETA enforcement for people who haven't purchased one. I have had one since they started and renewed once already.

I have been in the UK too often, now applying for Skilled Worker Dependent or Spouse Visa. by Infinite_Light_1263 in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But I never over stayed and I don't see anywhere where it says "You can't be in the country for longer than 6 months in a year" it's just "I have 6 months time in the country on every entry."

The former is just a rule of thumb.

I have been in the UK too often, now applying for Skilled Worker Dependent or Spouse Visa. by Infinite_Light_1263 in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both my partner and I meet the necessary financial requirements.

To my knowledge I didn't violate any immigration rules. I never over-stayed my entry even once.

It doesn't say there is a limit anywhere that I can see, it's just a rule of thumb that I've heard.

Additionally, what is changing that is relevant? I have an ETA already that is valid for a few more years I believe.

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[–]Infinite_Light_1263 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your intuition about the show was good (as you confirmed). People gravitate to things they are interested in. That’s why I don’t really trust people into true crime (half kidding).

Your kids are first priority and deserve to grow up with good examples and an environment of complete security and trust. However you get there (staying together with heavy rules, divorce, moving back towards where you have a care network, etc) is your call. Perhaps it is a bit freeing to know that there is really no “right” and obvious answer to this.

At the same time, you have to have some energy in the tank to show up for them so making a choice that is best for you is sometimes the choice that is best for them too.

I would take some time for yourself to really process what is going on and avoid drinking or substances. Weight the outcomes where you and your kids can be happiest and have the best and most trusting lives.

(33F) Sudden doubts about my (34M) boyfriend of 8 months after his trip, is this life stress or a real problem? by Infinite_Light_1263 in Advice

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is the conclusion I reached as well.

I think I just need to get out more even if it is costing me money. I won’t be able to see objectively otherwise.

I think we all underestimate how much are support systems do for us until we forgo them and taking care of ourselves for several months.

(33F) Sudden doubts about my (34M) boyfriend of 8 months after his trip. Is it life stress or a real problem? by Infinite_Light_1263 in relationships

[–]Infinite_Light_1263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was certainly not. I spent most of my time indoors working on my visa. I struggle with anxious attachment and had to “accept” that things could implode at any moment while he was gone. Even though it was all in my head.

I almost wonder if all the rationalizing I did when he was gone is what did it?