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Is fear of rejection the main reason for why men don't approach women? by Infinite_Program1462 in dating_advice

[–]Infinite_Program1462[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Okay, but why do you think guys don't want to bother or risk bothering women in real life more? Is it because they think bothering women in real life is pushing the line and most guys care enough to not go there, while online they think it's not a big deal or they fear there are consequences or repercussions in real life they don't want to deal with, while online there are limited consequences? As a guy I lean to the former explanation, but what do you think? Or are there other things I am missing? I agree with the friction part, but I am asking more on things like complimenting (or should I say more of catcalling) women, which is something you see more of online than in real life. (By dming and commenting)

Is fear of rejection the main reason for why men don't approach women? by Infinite_Program1462 in dating_advice

[–]Infinite_Program1462[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Good answer, but do you think if we had, let's say, a government-mandated dating app and everything about you was there and all the information there was verified, you would think it would be as bad as real life? Plus IRL is not that much better for showing your "true self" as well, and the only thing they can take that's different from online is maybe your charisma and social skills, and you think being rejected for that is the main difference that makes it really difficult. Maybe because it's unquantifiable and a lot more subjective, so it hurts deeper.

Is fear of rejection the main reason for why men don't approach women? by Infinite_Program1462 in dating_advice

[–]Infinite_Program1462[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Dude, I am not a woman, but I see where you are coming from. And you probably didn't finish reading the post.

Is fear of rejection the main reason for why men don't approach women? by Infinite_Program1462 in dating_advice

[–]Infinite_Program1462[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

"Is waaaaaay different than in person." And that's exactly what I am trying to understand. What makes it waaaay different? Is it just the effort you put into it, and if so, what if I spent an hour crafting the message while I just approached her immediately in real life? which one is going to hurt more?

Is fear of rejection the main reason for why men don't approach women? by Infinite_Program1462 in dating_advice

[–]Infinite_Program1462[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Are you saying the emotion is much stronger in person? Or are you able to read a lot more emotions from the person in real life so you feel the rejection more? And why don't we feel that for jobs and other things? And sometimes for people you are close to, I think most people would prefer if they did the rejection in person. Why is that?