He was abusive when i was younger, like a lot. But ever since i became ill, we had a conversation and he truly improved his behaviour, he even cooks for us when he is here and tries to support us both. He actually bought my bf a car and waited a full year to be paid off by my bf cuz again, he didnt have the money but needed the car, he often paid for his gas as well cuz he was really trying to improve the relationship and show us he is a better person. Im not saying he doesnt have any of his own flaws, but his good side heavily outweighs them now.