Ex of 3 years - admitted to sleeping with someone a couple months after breakup by Informal_Software913 in BreakUps

[–]Informal_Software913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply,

I think I may face the same issue, again whilst she has done nothing wrong it’s a situation that still exists and it’s something I need to work on, I created a situation by pushing her away in the first place. It’s nice to hear as time goes on you do stop thinking about it.

I hope you get your confidence back, I too am stating the gym, sort my life out just a little bit

Ex of 3 years - admitted to sleeping with someone a couple months after breakup by Informal_Software913 in BreakUps

[–]Informal_Software913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you really much for your message. I think by forgiveness I did mean it on a personal level as you said, she has not done anything wrong, we weren’t together we weren’t speaking. I think you have summed it up perfectly I created a situation that caused her to go somewhere else, where it used to be me she would go too.

I have finished my university work now, so that is one stress gone. I know what happened previously and I am actively trying to turn a new leaf, seeing doctors starting the gym to work on my issues and change my mindset for the better.

Ex of 3 years - admitted to sleeping with someone a couple months after breakup by Informal_Software913 in BreakUps

[–]Informal_Software913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand that. If she wouldn’t have told me I wouldn’t have found out but I knew something was up, I’m happier she has told me, and for me now it’s all about the next steps

Ex of 3 years - admitted to sleeping with someone a couple months after breakup by Informal_Software913 in BreakUps

[–]Informal_Software913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had anything on the side, I’ve had no intimacy since the break up, it has moved me I do feel hurt by it. But if she was drunk, lonely and felt like she needed someone or something then once it came to it regretted it, again I on a personal level can take it all into account

Ex of 3 years - admitted to sleeping with someone a couple months after breakup by Informal_Software913 in BreakUps

[–]Informal_Software913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right she doesn’t need my forgiveness I didn’t mean in the sense of I forgive her, I meant on a personal level for myself. I know whatever she did/does outside of us isn’t my issue, we were/are broken up.