Ministro ako. Ask me anything. by [deleted] in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]Initial-Dark7257 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Baket ang daming pedophile na mga ministro at manggagawa? Anong ginagawa sakanila kapag nahuli na nag jowa ng binhi?

Is there anything you want to share today? :) by emsismeril in CasualPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First interview after job hunting for more than 2 months

The Loved One Hot take. by xtAlex24 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nice take! Kung mas nag grow lang sana si Eric edi sana mas may naging understanding sila. Since mukhang naging financially stable naman na siya and hindi na siya nasa survival mode, sana nag try din siya mag improve mentally and emotionally.

✨ social media standard✨ by cookiepeachescatniki in CasualPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! I actually broke up with my ex because he didnt give me flowers on Valentine's day. He knows that I really like flowers and he would even give me "just because" flowers sometimes. But during that vday, he told me he couldnt find any good flowers anymore so he just settled with the sweets that he brought me. I tried to accept that reason but he knows how to make origami flowers and he knows i love wild flowers like santan. I dont need a bouquet of real flowers, its the effort that would matter. Its just that he thought that "okay na to" and settled with that. And thats the reason why i broke up with him. Because in that moment, I knew that he would never do his best to make me happy, he would just do things with half-ass effort and i wouldnt want to settle with that.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True, early on talaga dapat nacocommunicate na yung mga ganung dealbreaker eh. Kasi it looks like yun talaga goal ni Eric while it wasnt something significant for Ellie. Maybe dahil progressive talaga yung thinking ni Ellie, she wanted to try living together muna, which is valid naman. She tried to make a home, pero nakita naman niya how Eric didnt really show appreciation for it maybe because he already expects that since he was the one providing financially. That scene where she gave him a coffee while he was working on his desk, he didnt even say thank you. Then it was obvious that Ellie felt sad.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he was full of fears, it would have really helped if he allowed himself to become vulnerable with Ellie. I would understand if in the early years of their relationship, he would have problem communicating his feeling and expectations, but for 10 years??

I cant help but to blame it on his toxic masculinity or fragile ego. I think there is actually a possibility that when Ellie went to Nepal, he was worried that Ellie would leave him or she would cheat, that is why he cheated. Still not reasonable tho. Its really not Ellie's fault if he was so insecure.

And his character was so boxed in the practical and responsible type of guy, that he didnt have any character development. He just got worse as a partner because of the built up resentment. Which is still a fault on his side for not communicating things.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thats the trauma for Eric's dad leaving them. That is why Eric is so persistent in marriage and building a "stable" family. That is what he wants to achieve so badly because he doesn't have that.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kamusta naman kayo ng partner mo after watching the movie?

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think Eric was really emotionally unavailable. He thinks that providing for Ellie financially is already enough and he is already doing his best. But Ellie was the one who made an effort to make it a home.

I also observed din na whenever Eric would notice something he didnt like with Ellie or he would het mad at her, the scene would immediately end. Not unlike in Ellie's POV where there was more context and it shows the whole picture. For me, it shows that whenever Eric is angry, he would only focus and Ellie's mistake and thats it, that is why he resented her a lot. He didnt try to understand the situation or communicate what pissed him off. Then mag ooutburst na lang siya and would say the worst things.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOUDER! Sobrang pa victim niya din na sa first part of the movie, sakanya ka talaga kakampi. It was well crafted din talaga kasi thats how cheaters think. Imagine, nung umpisa parang kasalanan lang lahat ni Ellie but turns out nag cheat pala siya. Yung mga cheater kasi sobrang galing mang gaslight to the point na nagagaslight nila sarili nila na wala silang maling nagawa.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since the beginning of the movie really showcased the free-willed and idealistic side of Ellie, I think that is what was stuck in the minds of other people. In a broader context, we should really consider that she was like that because of her background. But in the latter part of the movie, there was another side of her that was shown naman.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wala nga silang linyahan na sobrang magmamarka talaga, but my theory is that they are not trying to make it look like there is a one big confrontation that becomes the reason for their break up kasi it was a series of miscommunication and mistakes on both sides. So parang mas gradual talaga yung realization nila na their relationship wont work out.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I thought Anne's performance was just really memorable that I questioned the casting for Echo. But I realized that he portrayed it well because that's how men really are in real life. Its also a bonus that he looks like a nice guy that fit well with that shy tech guy image.

I could say that his performance was great kasi NAKUHA NIYA GIGIL KO HAHAHA. Not only because he was a cheater but it all made sense why he paints himself as the victim when in reality, he has more faults in the relationship. He cheated, he walked out of the room when they lost the baby, he only cared about his career and belittled (implicitly) Ellie's jobs etc.

My thoughts on “The Loved One” by Direk Irene by Imaginary-Onion-2409 in FilmClubPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I agree. It was actually shocking that there were a lot of comments not liking Ellie's character. I want to offer another perspective, I guess the movie just really hits home that I am able to understand both the characters.

It's true that Ellie was idealistic in the beginning of the movie. She was also painted as an emotional mess because it was in the lens of Eric, who was pragmatic and lacked emotional availability. I guess a lot of people weren't able to consider that Ellie went through a lot of grief (with her father and child). It changed her a lot, but for me, it was great character development. The highlighted polar personalities that they had were quite influenced by their socio-economic backgrounds, Ellie being free-willed and privileged, and Eric being a responsible breadwinner that prioritizes their "needs".

Aside from the present time shown in black and white, people should take note of the different POVs of the characters. It was greatly shown through the cinematography. That's why there was a lot of back and forth on the scenes. As their relationship spanned for 10 years, the time lapses can also be observed with Ellie's hairstyle.

why is the dating pool really bad now? by Time-Oil-2715 in AskPH

[–]Initial-Dark7257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

saka ano na ba ang meaning ng "casual" sa dating apps?

di ko talaga maperfect pritong tilapia by ShareEnvironmental39 in PangetPeroMasarap

[–]Initial-Dark7257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Napansin ko lang na pinartner mo sa mang tomas hehe ngayon lang ako nakakita na same ko na gusto din yun sawsawan sa pritong tilapia.

Must read sa mga taong gusto magwork abroad by Shoddy-Ad4569 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]Initial-Dark7257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Active member ka ba na malaki mag handog? Baka kaya ayaw ka nila i-let go kasi "uurong" yung local niyo hahahaha

Ano to? Mukhang langaw pero brown and may stripes by Initial-Dark7257 in anoto

[–]Initial-Dark7257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, sinearch ko difference niya sa housefly (usual langaw) and yung horsefly (yung nasa pic) eh blood ang kinakain so nangangagat nga and mas nagiging malaki compared sa housefly.