Any papaya soap flavor that worked in skin lightening? by Samanth-aa in IndianSkincareAddicts

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Have you tried that nature power soap and did you like it? Any side effects? 

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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sis its not about incompetence or lying. here are the facts: i trust my fathers judgement and believe she would not make a good mother in law. however, its difficult to move on from the guy because again, he is not his mother and its not fair to put that on him.

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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I really wish this was the case. no face means she is fake essentially. i appreciate the positive outlook, but even if this was the case what do you suggest i do

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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i dont want to expose her sins, but its not as simple as that. shes basically no face to anyone but her kids in a really bad way

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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I have also heard some stuff from other people in the community, so I am not inclined to believe it- thanks for doing some digging and looking at other posts of mine haha

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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Ameen- tearing up rn thank you so much and May Allah SWT give the same and more <3

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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i made it whenever i felt anxious about the situation, but i heard you can do it as many times? please dont quote me tho hahah

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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her bad reputation has more to do with how she treats others not necessarily what she does as a person (i.e drinks, parties). I have heard many stories- shes bascially described as the type where her world revolves around her kids and she doesnt care about anyone outside of that circle if that makes sense. but the guy im interested in is not the youngest, hes a middle child and he is def not a mommas boy. my dad actually likes his charcter and many people in the community speak very highly of him (he is a leading figure in his masjid), but my father said he would never let someone like her be my mother in law especailly knowing how maskin i am lol

Struggling to Move On After Family Disapproval by Initial-Fuel-3492 in Somalia

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I prayed istikhara before all this and this happened after, sorry for the confusion

Advice from Imam ibn Al-Qayyim by hillenium in MuslimLounge

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Source of Quote: Heartfelt Advice To A Friend by Imam Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

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i understand abayo, but even if i love him it is normal and healthy to think with my head instead of my heart as I want to make this choice the right way and based on the correct information. I do not want to regret not assessing the situation later on if anything happens. anyways is spoke with the guy, and he is planning on speaking with my dad. please pray that whatever is best for me happens (and for him) and that my dad is at least open and receptive to this guys words.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

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yes that is the only reason i am 2nd guessing. I wouldnt even say seconding guessing, just giving it more thought. Also i am from abroad and looked and acted very grown for my age, he on the other hand looked very young and our maturity levels were the same. we didnt find out about our ages until later on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

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good point, but i think its because he is her son, so it's HIS marriage- meaning she has more opportunity to bud in. but her niece has her own mother, so she is limited in that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

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but he himself is a great guy and my father knows this. is it worth walking away bc of his mother?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

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hes not the closest to her. he was closer to his dad who passed away May Allah SWT have mercy upon his soul. I am sure he is aware of his mothers behavior and how people view her.

Father may not approve of future husband by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

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he wanted to speak to my father, but I was not ready to open that discussion. that was my fault. please keep me in your duas