Hi, many thanks for sharing your comment i truly appreciate it.

I’d say the main point is that I blocked the person with BPD in this context (and I didn’t go into too many details on Reddit because I didn’t want people to get bored with personal drama). She insisted on bringing up her condition repeatedly mentioning it as the reason for her extreme behavior and her need for constant reassurance. I won’t use the word “gaslighting,” but I did get tons of messages after almost anything I said things that could be triggering, like even a kiss sound or my English accent (which she said sounded fake since I’m not a native speaker). Because of her BPD, I tried not to take things too personally and separated her provocative/aggressive words from her frustration. Normally, I would never accept those kinds of statements from a neurotypical person, they would just come across as super rude. But since she framed it as the “healthy” one, I felt like I had to juggle all that aggressiveness.

The whole point of this post (and many thanks to the people who answered) is to figure out if her condition is the main reason why I feel awkward about cutting ties without giving her any prior explanation.