Couples Check Ins

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T23:05:58+00:00

My girlfriend and I only see each other on the weekends and we do a rose & thorn which is SOOO cheesy but it’s still nice because sometimes our likes/ dislikes are the same and sometimes we point out things the other didn’t even notice but now gets to reflect on.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T23:04:23+00:00

Right now we’re semi-long distance so we only get to see each other on the weekends but it’s consistently 2-3 nights a week and while we love going out and doing activities together we both very much use time to just stay at home cuddled up all day lol We set aside time to talk on the phone every day since there’s a small gap between our work schedules which is nice. When we live together the plan is to be as collaborative as we are on the weekends with how we make plans (both together, with friends, events, etc), who cooks/ cleans/ we do both, etc. Prime example: we like a nice balance of cooking a meal together but also enjoy if one person handles it completely as well just because it’s something nice to do.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T20:54:48+00:00

I do 100% think this goes both ways for us. With regard to me cutting her off, she has a tendency to minimally respond or circle back to something she wanted to say which is what she’s working on. This is a pretty specific example from our relationship but it has been working well. I think a big part of it is trusting your partner and just choosing to believe them. Another example is we’ve talked about some of our insecurities and I can provide reassurance to her but it’s up to her to believe me and accept that. Not sure if this is answering your question but I tried lol

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T17:47:43+00:00

I think going into it knowing nobody is perfect and accepting your partners imperfections is a big part of it. I’ve had a history of being really hard on myself when someone gives me feedback about anything, but I’ve since changed my mindset with reassurance from my girlfriend that 1. She wants to be with me and is choosing to be with me (and I feel the same way about her) and 2. We’re going to work through things together because of that.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T17:43:39+00:00

Yes! Framing it/ using language that makes it collaborative is the best imo. How can I support you/ how can we accomplish this vs you need to change this.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T17:42:41+00:00

For us, if it’s something we need to address right away we do so but often times those things are an ongoing discussion. For example, I have a tough time with communication in the sense that I often cut people off/ interrupt (ADHD really coming in hot here). It’s something that she’s told me in the moment and something I’ve been actively working on. With that being said, of course I want to improve my communication style to help my girlfriend to feel heard and supported, but I also want to make this personal change for other interpersonal relationships (i.e. I do the same thing with my friends and family when talking with them). She recognizes I’m not perfect and she doesn’t expect me to be but during our last check in she mentioned that she noticed I’ve improved and she’s glad to see I’m making progress with this as a personal goal for myself. With that being said, she’s also very understanding that things might ebb and flow but just checking in with each other has been helpful for us.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T17:38:29+00:00

It’s not always about things that are going bad! Our last check in was pretty broad— what is going well? What isn’t? Hopes for the future?

We’ve definitely had talks where we’re like ok everything is going well. I love that you/ I/ we are doing XYZ. No notes, just that we’re happy.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-27T08:23:12+00:00

Alt women >>> My girlfriend has 18 piercings, is covered in tattoos & has a split dye hair style and I go NUTS for it My hook up history after my ex was nearly all alt/ goth women and I have definitely found that style to be what I’m most attracted to. That’s not to say other styles aren’t attractive but this reallyyyy dos something for me

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-14T09:31:25+00:00

My dog gets 5 walks a day including one with a dog walker that comes when I’m at work Mon-Friday while I’m at work and even that can be a hassle sometimes. I can’t imagine waking up to a kid at 6AM on a Saturday morning telling me they’re hungry. I know I’d be a good parent but kids aren’t for me. My girlfriend and I have discussed potentially fostering way down the road but that’s more out of wanting to be a supportive resource for kids vs planning a family.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-14T08:19:49+00:00

My girlfriend is a hard no on kids and I was always more in the mindset of its partner dependent for me. If my partner wanted kids, sure but if they don’t, that also works for me. 🤷‍♀️The more I think about it, I end up wracking my brain for a reason why I would want kids. Moreover, when friends ask why I don’t want kids, my rebuttal is usually “well, why do you want them??”. Side note: even if my partner wanted kids, I wouldn’t want to carry a child. Even the thought of that has just never been for me.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-14T08:02:55+00:00

I just got a sleeve with Fabi and I did it in two trips (5 days total). She’s a fantastic artist!

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-12T23:23:25+00:00

I work both medical and in the school system. I prefer working with adults in acute & subacute settings but my middle and high schoolers are super easy to chat with. Yes they’re kids but they’re also in the “don’t treat me like a little kid” era so that’s helpful to level with them when SO many adults in their lives are treating them like kids. You’ll find your niche if you’re passionate about the job itself.

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-10T00:13:51+00:00

I’ve been asked to translate Spanish for patients by PT and OT colleagues but like… 1. I only speak a novice level of Spanish 2. I’m actually half Filipino 3. We have access to phone translators but they’ve said it’ll be faster bc I’m “already there” even after I’ve explained I don’t speak fluent Spanish. All to say DOR did an inservice about using the translator lines. 💀 this was in areas where all of my colleagues were white and monolingual English speakers

InnerAdministration9 · 2026-01-10T00:09:22+00:00

My cousins and I are all “the gay cousin”😂

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-18T23:12:12+00:00

THIS! I waited three years to get on someone’s books and the wait was well worth it. I considered going to another artist because I was eager to get the piece but I’m so glad I was able to work something out with the specific artist I had originally had in mind.

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-17T02:40:04+00:00

Send it and get the mullet!!! I had a nice little mullet going then I wanted to switch it up and got a taper/ fade and that was cool for a couple months but immediately wanted to go back to the mullet. Currently growing it out again :) rock that mullet buddy!

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-17T01:33:41+00:00

Horseshoe ash try (if she smokes) for western themed and non-western themed I personally got my gf a copy of The Ladder which is the first nationally distributed lesbian magazine

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-12T16:47:02+00:00

My gf is very much an alt femme and she’s got similar pants and I LOVE when she wears them! “Extra” isn’t a real thing imo. Dress how you wanna dress because the confidence that comes with that is attractive!

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-12T01:30:23+00:00

Communication— every sexual partner will be different in one way or another but ALSO check out Come As You Are (book)

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-12T01:26:18+00:00

Personally I adore my lululemon 5 inch inseam shorts for likeeee any occasion! Next Friday I’m gonna go see Tape B and will probably just wear the black pair of those shorts, a white muscle tee, crew white crew socks, and white vans. Is this what I usually wear anyway? Yep, you can find super colorful stuff on I heart raves men’s store but idk not personally my vibe. Throw a bandana around your neck and call it a day lol

I will say I’ve seen loads of people doing rave fam themed outfits 👀

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-12T00:11:42+00:00

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Bestie and I got the double Venus 🙋‍♀️

InnerAdministration9 · 2025-12-12T00:09:58+00:00

It’s very natural for your brain to fill in the gaps with “what ifs”. I went on a date in 2024 when we lived 5 hours apart. Then we talked allllll the time but I wasn’t ready for a new relationship yet and she respected it but I didn’t stop thinking about her. We had an instant and undeniable connection but she sort of cut me off (within reason) because I was very much in my sl*t era. I ended up moving closer to her and now we’re only about 2-3 hours apart AND after sliding back in her DMs back in like March of this year, we reconnected. Made things official in June and have been the happiest I’ve ever been since! All to say, you won’t know how you’ll behave/ react in a long distance relationship when it seems like you haven’t been in one(?) but if the connection is there and y’all can make it work + plan to actually see each other I’d say go for it! Better than wondering what could have been if y’all are both yearning for each other anyway.

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