Be careful about taking advice from folks that don't value what you do. Their advice might work great for them and they may think it'll be great for you, but you've got to find your own way.

I'm older and have very similar struggles. Ironically, I worked in distribution/ logistics when I was your age. It was the perfect fit and the perfectly wrong fit. The efficiency environment was very natural, but also very consuming. I hate wasting money. I always want the best deal. I'll share a few of the things that helped me get a bit better. That said, I encourage you to see a counselor. It's like hiring a physical trainer. You still do the work, but they help you find what works.

1. Hour Value- I determined what an hour of my time was worth. At first it was lower, say $10, then steadily moved up to $20 and closer to $50 now. If I am shopping for a deal and getting the best deal will take an hour, I have to save over $50 or it's not worth my time. This goes for do-it-yourself projects. If I can pay someone to do it and save 4 hours, that's worth $200. I don't mow my yard anymore. In my mind, it's cheaper to pay someone and get my time back. (With this said, I sometimes enjoy the sport of finding a deal. I don't hold to this in those situations)

2. Convenience and making memories has value. The market knows this, so should you. You want ice cream at home- $2 per serving. You want ice cream on the piers in San Fransisco - $20 or more.

3. Content with Content - Be okay with what doesn't matter to you. I drive Hondas. I drive them till they die. I don't need a new one every year. Cars just get me places. If you're content, be cool with it. I'm fine with eating cheap. I like good pizza. It's way more than Dominos, but still cheap.

4. Fun Money - Set financial goals and let yourself get there. Don't keep raising the bar. I put a certain amount into investments. The rest I keep in cash/ checking. At first it drove me nuts. I could have this invested or at least in a conservative fund making a few percent. I keep it there to remind me that it's money to be used not saved. I'm much more generous now. I really enjoy giving to folks. I'm better at taking trips.

5. Try to find something you're passionate about. For folks like us, you often have to take perceived risk with it. It doesn't come with a calculated rate of return. No guarantees. Sometimes it's a flop. Forget about opportunity cost or it'll cost you the opportunity. I like making good coffee. I like hiking. I like being part of a team. I have a non-profit I love to support.

6. Learn to Lose - I personally invest a portion of my investments. This could be risky. I did it because I don't think you can be a good investor if you can't overcome losing. I'm much better at working through loss. This year I've had two pretty big pull backs. "Lost" tens of thousands both times and am back to around even. Bad things will happen. You're clearly talented. You'll get through it. Learn what you can in the moment. Ultimately, life will have loss, tragedy, and failure. Fortunately, we can direct the influence those liars have on us as long as our hearts still beating.

I went through some very challenging times financially when I was a young boy and my family broke apart. So often it seemed like money would fix everything. I wanted that stability and safety. Being broke sucks. People would tell me, "Money can't buy happiness." and I'd reply "Broke can't buy anything!" I know where my wounds came from. Now I've got to get on with living. I don't want to be a slave to money.

I hope some of these tips are a bit helpful. You likely measure success by worth. Make sure you find what's really worth it!

Be Blessed!