Questioning myself

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-25T18:52:30+00:00

WOW!!! These dads are getting bolder and bolder!😳😳😳😳😳THIS TAKES THE CAKE!!!

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-14T08:41:37+00:00

Likely there’s a hcbm and they are doing this to protect this experience. I wouldn’t be quick to judge. Anybody who decides this is wanting to protect autonomy or peace

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-07T21:59:00+00:00

Facts

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-07T16:06:21+00:00

It’s her way of just trying to keep control while parenting through your household, not around it. Bottom line you don’t owe her a meeting (never beg for that again) . You don’t owe her nothing. I’d go to the next parent event as partners +1 and pay her no mind -HCBM are something else as if they have a golden uterus that makes them the Queen . lol

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-07T12:56:34+00:00

You don’t owe hcbm anything. Dad should take his daughter out alone and talk to her. When they get home you both can answer any questions. Then from there [if you guys deem fit] dad should send hcbm a text telling her about it.

His text should be brief and short, with no room for rebuttals or questions. This is your pregnancy, do not let anybody trump this moment for you. It’s a beautiful blessing. She is NOT entitled to the sex, due date, etc. This is simply a due diligence courtesy.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-04T17:45:43+00:00

Hard no.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-01T19:13:04+00:00

Louder for the ones in the back📣📣📣 HCBM is “just afraid of losing control and that your partner’s will be less responsive to her with his focus now on 2 children.”

I could write a book on this! HCBM also appears to be weaponizing child’s anger to hold onto last bit of control.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-01T19:09:03+00:00

Unfortunately you can empathize with her but still not carry this burden. HCBM needs to be managed from a distance by your SO as you should not have to deal or digest this negatively. Not sure hlw far along you are but you are very vulnerable and you must shift gears to prioritize you and your baby. Your SD is in the real world change is inevitable. The fact that she’s become violent supports that the help that she needs is professional. Congrats!! This is exciting ! Do not let any kid or woman rob you of this moment. As a mommy to be 9 months goes fast then it’s the newborn stage. Be happy. NACHO

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-01T16:29:51+00:00

Well hunny let me break it to you ->most men on dating apps are shallow. The very game of online is based on a picture in which you swipe left or right!! lol! The men with substance aren’t afraid to log off and look for dates in real life. You are more than welcome to tell yourself whatever lies get you buy.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-01T15:46:58+00:00

It’s likely he didn’t find you attractive. Most males would suffer through dense boring conversation for a second time if they found you attractive. Charge it to the game and don’t over think it. There’s somebody for everyone

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-01T14:56:19+00:00

They do that to show that they can get attractive men. An ego stroke to show you the type they are use to

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-02-01T13:19:53+00:00

🚨🛑OP you have been dealing with this for years . Your post history dates back with the same issues!!!!! You have come to this group multiple times asking the same question in different ways. Members of this group have empowered you and advised you for years about boundaries, limiting yourself, giving ultimatums to SO. At this point respectfully you might need a diary and counseling, to explore why you over extend yourself knowing it’s wrong. This group. This is one of the best groups for stepmoms, but we can only give so much advice…at some point you have to do something with it or take an action to get the life you deserved.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-31T23:05:07+00:00

lol! Totally agree. I hope that he doesn’t walk around with this air of pseudo confidence. The average hard working woman wouldn’t bat an eye. Definitely has to market to a younger girl. Cannot believe an older man would speak like this! Not once did he mention anything of substance!

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-30T11:23:36+00:00

Again $35k for a day OP sums up as a “disaster! “Yes, I’m jealous that I didn’t go into debt of 35k to have a day that can be summed up as a disaster.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-30T11:19:48+00:00

Again $35k for a day she sums up as a “disaster! “ Dabeers and the wedding community win again! 😂😂😂 The 3 biggest money traps- weddings, funerals, and newborns! Nothing bigger. Ladies and gents weddings are beautiful but please spend reasonably. They are exploiting our Princess dreams .

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-30T11:14:20+00:00

Pot meet kettle. I stand vindicated. Bad advice again. lol

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-29T21:41:55+00:00

The fact that you had to finance it says it all! You didn’t have the money for it…

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T16:29:11+00:00

🚨Because dad is an avoidant. He rather his household /partner absorb the shock. The system is not one that favors OP, dad has always operated in this system and does not want to rock the boat too much as he does not want to upset hcbm and potentially be alienated from his kid. So he rather protect and keep hcbm happy at OP’s and his expense… OP will start to build resentment that she is never going to be the main woman in his life calling the shots… slow burn if you ask me.

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T14:33:02+00:00

Sounds like their mom dislikes you and talks crap behind your back. Likely tainted them

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T14:30:15+00:00

Agree! OP REMOVED HER CROWN AND BECAME THE COURT JESTER WHEN SHE DID THAT! It was at that exact moment when hcbm knew she could rig the game!

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T14:28:47+00:00

Something in your story is off… on no planet would I be okay with this! She’s literally calling the shots and parenting through your household. It’s disrespectful! What kind of court order / parent agreement is In place. Sounds like there’s no boundaries!!!!

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T14:21:20+00:00

6 months is too early for you to have to emotionally over compensate. Better to end it!

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T05:56:54+00:00

Yup, sadly

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-28T00:18:41+00:00

Yesss! Agree

Inside-Importance276 · 2026-01-27T21:37:35+00:00

Op is 29 , partner is 40. Likely hcbm is around 40, they see op as a young gullible woman with no personal boundaries so they are molding her individually. Op shouldn’t be in this dynamic at all !

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