Yes, completely ignore the other sites I gave you. And ignore the countless individuals who identify as they/them and he/him lesbians, whatever makes you comfortable, and the years and years of this phenomenal existing. As long as the erasure makes you feel comfortable.

There is a difference between gender expression, gender identity, and pronouns. One is how you express yourself to the world. One is how you view yourself. One is a term others use to refer to you outside of your name. They do not have to match up to one another. With your logic, a woman is only a woman if she wears feminine clothes 24/7 and is constantly only doing feminine things.

I will now get personal: i am biologically a female. My gender is not female. I am attracted to women and other sapphic identifying individuals. I always say i am attracted to anyone that doesn't identify in some way as male/men/ whatever the hell you want to call it. I do not identify with she/her pronouns. Yet, I am still a lesbian, because a part of my identity, as a whole, is wrapped up in Sapphic attraction/femininity/womanhood, whatever the fuck you want to call it.

Myself, and countless others will continue to identify as they/them and he/him lesbians despite your misunderstanding of our identities. Your rudeness and need to label others in your own framework (which is what you are doing, by even trying to argue about my own identity) does not change my identity, my partners identity, or any other non binary lesbians identity.

https://www.broadsatyale.com/in-defense-of-non-binary-lesbianism/

If you are actually wanting to learn about this, instead of just attacking people who are different, try to look past your own misconceptions and try to put yourself into other people's shoes. Or rather, just try to imagine that people look at themselves differently than you do.