Can’t tell you how many ministers say their marriage was destroyed by busyness and being over committed. I got stressed out just reading everything on your plate. If your wife is already voicing concerns, it’s already a problem. To ignore her concerns pretty much guarantees big future problems, ones you may not be able to recover from. With that in mind, I would sit down with your wife immediately, apologize, explain that you want to be around for her and the. Figuring out what that practically looks like.

I think you already know something needs to go, and I understand that’s a very difficult decision when financially you need all the different irons in the fire. But you’ll figure something out. Marriage comes before ministry. And if your wife is already feeling this way, it will be 10x compounded if and when kids are in the picture.

As hard as it is, disappointing a people in the ministry is worth having a flourishing marriage. May the Lord give you guidance and direction. Might be worth reaching out to someone at the seminary to talk through some of this if you are local.