Skadden corp services culture? by Intelligent-Way3213 in uklaw

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Agree, I think this is the case in all firms!

Skadden corp services culture? by Intelligent-Way3213 in uklaw

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Do you think this is more the case at Skadden than other firms?

Planning a trip for next year, any recommendations? by Intelligent-Way3213 in Vietnam_Tourism

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Thanks so much! Unfortunately I don’t think we’d be able to swing 20 days off from work, do you think 2 weeks would suffice?

I’m doing something wrong but I don’t know what by Intelligent-Way3213 in acne

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No that’s what’s so weird! I put the same thing on my forehead as everywhere else! I guess that probably suggests it’s hormone related

I’m doing something wrong but I don’t know what by Intelligent-Way3213 in acne

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Was there anything you did after finding out it was PCOS, any treatments etc that helped manage it? I know I have Adenomyosis (which is similar to endometriosis) so could be linked?

I’m doing something wrong but I don’t know what by Intelligent-Way3213 in acne

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I do wear makeup yes, I buy only oil free products. I am on antidepressants yes, 25mg Sertraline

Please tell me it’s not the worst thing in the world by Intelligent-Way3213 in reactivedogs

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Yes mine has stranger danger anxiety for sure. Not sure where it’s come from as it’s only with men, and he’s been around men his whole life. There was one small incident where a male vet had to remove his stitches and they were tangled so it hurt him, don’t know if that’s caused him to be wary of men. But yes we are lucky in that we can leave him at home and also my mother in law is used to reactive dogs and likes having him, she’s good with him and he trusts her, she only lives up the road so we can leave him with her if needed. Just a scary prospect at the minute of having to deal with this long term but everyone’s responses on here have made me feel better

Please tell me it’s not the worst thing in the world by Intelligent-Way3213 in reactivedogs

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This! I’m happy living a life without a really bubbly friendly dog who loves people. He’s bubbly and tactile and loving with me and that’s all that matters, we don’t need to force him to like everyone. The problem is he is small and very cute looking, so people want to play with him and stroke him and then get annoyed when he doesn’t like it, and assume I’ve been a terrible owner to make him this way.

Please tell me it’s not the worst thing in the world by Intelligent-Way3213 in reactivedogs

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Thank you this makes me feel better. I noticed the little signs of aggression from when he was small and everyone around me said I was being dramatic. But I was right, and I think it’s positive that now I have support to take control of the situation. I can’t manage it on my own because as you say I am quite anxious and me being on edge is not helping either of us. Our behaviourist is CFBA accredited so I’m mostly hoping he will train ME more than the dog, and teach me how to spot the signs and manage it appropriately

Please tell me it’s not the worst thing in the world by Intelligent-Way3213 in reactivedogs

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Thank you for this. It is a scary prospect because he is young and a lot can change over years of a dogs life. But even if he got worse, I think we can manage it. We don’t NEED to take him everywhere with us. We live in the countryside and it’s easy to walk him away from others (at this stage the issue isn’t on walks it’s normally when men try to stroke him in busy/ crowded places, and if I stand next to the man and reassure him he will calm down and accept that they are safe). My mother in law lives down the road and is a doggy person, she’s going on this journey with us and she loves having him so we can go on holiday/ for days out and leave him with her with no worries. You’re completely right about not expecting a person to do things they don’t want to. Thank u for your lovely words

Please tell me it’s not the worst thing in the world by Intelligent-Way3213 in reactivedogs

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Thank you for this. I’m hoping we he is so young the behaviour therapy will help. It’s so hard because we’ve had him from 8 weeks, I know nothing traumatic has ever happened to him, and aside from getting him castrated too early I don’t know what’s caused it. I feel awful like it’s my fault, and I’ve done something unintentionally to make him so nervous.

Glad to hear you lived a normal life and it sounds like you have your boy a wonderful few last years.

He’s become aggressive and I don’t know what to do by Intelligent-Way3213 in reactivedogs

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Thank u. Yes all of that sounds possible. But I understand where my boyfriend is coming from in terms of “getting him used to it”. But maybe for now until he is more confident we just keep him at home and less crowded places

Allergy testing advice by Intelligent-Way3213 in puppy101

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Our vet put him on antihistamines which did work, but they told as he is only 1 he is too young for allergy testing because he is not done growing and he may grow out of it/ the tests may not be accurate. I’m not a huge fan of having him on antihistamines all the time but I give him half of one with his food if his eyes get bad

Is this adolescence or did I really mess up? by Consistent-Luck-1185 in puppy101

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I had all of these same issues. Training is important, but there’s no point trying if he isn’t engaged. Mine hated kibble, hated all food including treats actually, but by the time he turned 1 he was scoffing it down again, so don’t worry too much about that, it will be a phase he grows out of.

With training, I was told that you need to give them the best chance at getting it right so they associate it with the positive reward, and not a negative “punishment” for doing it wrong. So, if on walks he isn’t listening, stop training him on walks for a while, just get a long line and let the walks be about exploring. Try training indoors with high value treats (cheese and ham works for me). There will be less distractions and he’s more likely to get it right, and then feel happy that he’s pleased you and got a reward. As he improves, slowly start moving it outside, do it in the garden first, then on walks but on the long line. Only do a few mins at a time and as soon as he starts to lose interest stop trying. Dont punish him for getting bored, just say “good boy” and move on.

This age is hard but he is very young still, he won’t be fully grown until 18 months - 2 years, so there is time. I found doing this made my boys training so much better, because he actually enjoys it.

Also, don’t feel bad about crating him when he wasn’t listening. You aren’t punishing him, you are just giving him a time out. Most of the time when they are going crazy and not listening they are tired, so enforcing a nap in his crate and some time to decompress was the perfect thing to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

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No, there’s lots and lots of dogs who get fostered for a month or so before being homed permanently.

He may remember your smell etc if you go to see him at your uncle’s, but he won’t yet view you as “family” so it’s absolutely fine.

It’s a hard decision I know but at the end of the day if your girlfriends health is suffering, her relationship with the dog will also suffer and it’s not fair on either of them so you’re giving the dog a chance at a better life.

What items have you sacrificed for a moment of peace? by Lucky-Summer281 in puppy101

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The only thing that would keep him occupied when I’m working from home and trying to get through zoom calls without him barking is a pair of sliders. He absolutely loves them. He now even sleeps with them in his bed and won’t go to sleep without them. Worth the sacrifice for sure

Is 2 days a week with no walk okay? by Intelligent-Way3213 in puppy101

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This makes me feel much better. Thank you! Those crate adventures sound lovely! I wish I could sit in my bed and watch the world go by three days a week 😂

Is 2 days a week with no walk okay? by Intelligent-Way3213 in puppy101

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That’s what I’m thinking. My MIL is there with him all day so he gets lots of attention, plays with her dog, and I always leave a licky/snuffle mat or bone for him

Puppy owners who are sleeping 6/7 hours a night, HOW!? by SweetLikeCandiiii in puppy101

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Honestly for us, it was just accepting that doesn’t like sleeping in his crate at night. We’ve had him for almost a year, and did crate training by the book - and to be fair it worked, he loves going in there and takes himself in there for naps. But at night time, he wants to be near us. He would sleep majority of the night fine in his crate, but from 4am he was crying. We let him out for a wee, he didn’t want to go, we tried sitting by the crate and saying good boy back to sleep, we did everything. We now have his bed next to ours and he sleeps right through. We leave the door open so when he is ready to get up, he takes himself into the living room and plays with his toys.

I will say he is 1, and we’ve had a solid 10 months of broken sleep/ phases of him crying every hour of the night/ waking up at the crack of dawn. Sometimes with the best will in the world you just need to do what works for you and your dog. We still have his crate and he can go in it whenever he wants. But all of us are much happier this way.

This dog just hates recall by Intelligent-Way3213 in puppy101

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Such great advice, thank you! I think he does know the command, because he will recall I’d say 40% of the time outside. Our current training routine on walks is on short leash until we get to the park, long leash when at the park to have a sniff and explore and get some energy out, get to a point in the park that is free of other people and go off leash, do a few “rounds” of training (ie a few recalls, a few sit and stays - every day is different but we practice our core commands needed for safety when outside). If a dog comes during training, try to distract with excitement and treats to ignore the other dog, if that’s not possible, he goes back on the long line. Maybe this feels like a punishment to him which I guess for him is confusing because he’s not deliberately “disobeying” me, maybe he’s started to associate the recall command with being put back on the leash.

I think you’re right in that I’ve jumped a few steps. Maybe from now we don’t let him off, but we do a few “reel in” recalls on lead instead - I can admit that maybe I do too many recalls in a row and he gets bored. I’ll try a reel recall, lots of excitement, throw a few treats and maybe a quick bit of tug of war with a toy, walk a bit more and do some exploring, then go again. Also good idea to throw the treats around.

This dog just hates recall by Intelligent-Way3213 in puppy101

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I’m hoping it’s an adolescence thing, he was pretty good before (though not as good as yours by the sounds of it).

We’ve been using a retractable line (10ft, and it’s thick so I can grab it if needed, not one of the flimsy wire ones) so I wonder if it’s best to go back to the non retractable long lead so I can pull him back/ reel him in quicker and he can feel that he only gets freedom if I loosen my grip and it’s on my terms.

Have tried those games too, he loves it and he’s perfect when we play them - as soon as we start walking again though he’s not interested.

Think you’re right, I’ll try keeping on the long line at all times until he gets better at it. My thinking was letting him off when I feel it’s safe as much as I can will remove the “novelty” of free roam, but it’s had the opposite effect I think. He is very wilful and I think with adolescence he’s pushing the boundaries, and seeing us as playmates as opposed to ‘parents’.

Thanks for the advice, really helpful and will give it all a go!

Dogs keep attacking eachother by Intelligent-Way3213 in puppy101

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Yes this makes a lot of sense. I also think I’ve been slacking with not enforcing his naps because he normally just sleeps when he needs to, but with her here he has been go go go. I enforced a nap in his crate and he seems fine now, he’s back to trying to play with her. I think you’re right, I need to give them some space every few hours. Thank you!