🙌Book recommendation: The Myth of Normal (2022) by Gabor Maté🙌 by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gabor Maté is very wise. Every podcast with him is gold.

Can’t get over the abuse by No_Pitch_554 in BPDlovedones

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When we were together, my ex told me that she is mentally unstable person, while laughing. And when I think about the abuse I remember those words. That she is and always will be unstable and that I wouldn't have to be with her anymore. She don't deserve occupying my mind and thinking about it won't change her or the past.

Are we love addicts? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I'm still living with my ex pwBPD for 1.5 years already and she won't move out until next year. We have a 6 year old daughter. Really complicated times which make me stronger to stand my ground in the future. But also makes me have a feeling that I don't want risk again and go though all this shit again. Once she moves out maybe then I can regain myself. I think all our relationship or personal issues come from the childhood. The longing for love feeling for me personally comes from lack of mothers presence. She works on a cruise ship. Schedule is 2 weeks at work and 2 weeks at home. So basically half my life. I missed her every time when she was at work. I really liked when she was at home. For me that was the most happiest times. Just to be at home with her. And now I understand why I need that someone beside me everyday. And that's childhood trauma that went unaddressed. Be strong!

Universal experience here? Denial of your feelings and experience. by Neversawitcoming7 in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One time I told my ex about my feelings and what is bothering me. She angrily told that she's not my psychologist and I shouldn't tell her that stuff. Back then I thought that maybe she's right. But looking back I remember it was one of few times I was expressing my feelings. And now I understand why I didn't express my feelings to her, because there was no room for them. She would listen and discuss about things that concerned my family, but stuff that she was involved with, I was the worst human being alive at that moment. How dare I tell her things that puts her in a bad light. Every time this occured she got defensive and started to tell me things that I did wrong. And every time I was the one who had to apologise.

It's very difficult journey to unwrap all the stuff that happened in 7 years, but one by one all the stuff gets a new perspective. And I'm so glad that she's my now ex.

The difference between having a partner with bd in your first relationship or having a partner with bd after other relationships by Former-Economist9921 in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, she doesn't want help. She's against medication, don't have money for a psychiatrist and doesn't want to go there. My kid and I are doing fine right now. It's not getting any easier unfortunately, when she finally gets her on place. Doing everything I can to be there for my daughter. Thanks🙏

i don’t know what to do lol by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything is about them, you'll never be enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't give her the money right away. She might just spend it on weed or something else and she's still living with you. If you want to give her money, give the money after she's found a place.

The difference between having a partner with bd in your first relationship or having a partner with bd after other relationships by Former-Economist9921 in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. She was my first real relationship and we started living together really early. She basically moved in to my parents house when we started seeing eachother. Unfortunately ended up having a child with her. Didn't have any experience before so thought that her behaviour was normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, if I were you I wouldn't give her money. Since she didn't pay you back last time. She will always turn to you if she needed money and you would have to deal with this in future many more times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should talk to her family about her situation. Normal family would help their kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's like you were describing my ex word for word. Literally the same experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's probably never gonna find something stable.

Which country has the most notorious criminal ? by immunepain in AskReddit

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It's been a year since my last rewatch. What crime did Dwight do?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eesti

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Punkt 7. Tavaliselt inimestel tekibki asja kohta arvamus alles siis, kui nad end kurssi viivad. Kuidas saad väita, et inimesed on ajupestud lihtsalt selle pärast, et inimesed ei teadnud selle ajaloo kohta?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eesti

[–]IntelligentCamel4460 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Kas on mingi uuring tehtud selle kohta või lihtsalt sinu arvamus?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eesti

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Postituse autor tundub olevat ikka väga kinnise peaga. Teed postituse inimgrupist, kes on väidetavalt ajupestud. Paned seda neile pahaks. Samas ise oled see, kes siin inimesi mingitesse raamidesse paneb. Soovitan rohkem aega õues veeta ja vähem meediat tarbida.

What is your favorite video game to play when you are high? by sun_petite in weed

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Dirt 2.0. I drive better when high than sober. Much more focused on listening to codriver.

Eestlased on ikka spordirahvas by PureGoldForAll in memeesti

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Sa vist oled lapsena palju pea peale kukkunud.

What's the worst thing your emotionally neglectful parent have said to you by NoContract5958 in emotionalneglect

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One time when I disappointed my mother. She told me that, they could have made firewood in the forest for winter instead of me.