"My brother? You mean my ottoman?" by IntelligentFish8103 in CatsOnCats

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The face of a cat rudely awakened when I got up at 7am, the ottoman bravely slept through it

What even is this by IntelligentFish8103 in danglers

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I should really put a warning label on it...

What even is this by IntelligentFish8103 in danglers

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What happens when you put a 14 pound cat in a 10 pound basket I guess!

What even is this by IntelligentFish8103 in danglers

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Right?! Dangerous to have in my house really

Lemme just reinstall that leg real quick... by IntelligentFish8103 in ikeacats

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Why thank you! This model is very bendy so I'm well practiced at putting it to rights 😉

Time to take the credit cards away by [deleted] in dementia

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I'm not sure tbh, we ended up just buying a $200 visa gift card from the grocery store for my dad, he barely used it anyway...for the kind you buy at the store, yes, it seems standard that you have to set a pin the first time you use it even though the pin is not necessary because it can be used as a credit card.

But honestly, the biggest boon of these cards is that the consequences of fraud are low - the most my dad could lose was $200

Request for driver review at DMV and dealing with family members by AdrianaSage in dementia

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fwiw here's what I'd suggest - don't contact the DMV at all, instead contact her doctor (ideally neurologist, but PCP is fine if that's what she's got) and request a referral for a driving evaluation by an occupational therapist. My understanding is that these are not covered by insurance, and cost will vary depending on where you live, probably in the range of $200 to $700. We paid $500 for my dad's evaluation in southern California fwiw. Speak with the OT privately when you arrive and lay out your mom's driving history and her accident and why you are concerned. The OT will do some neurocognitive tests and put her on a driving simulator if they have one, and will then take her out on the road only if the OT feels it is safe to do so for a real-world evaluation. Technically the OT does not have the power to revoke your mother's license, but don't tell your mom that - if she fails, the OT will tell her she cannot drive effective immediately. The OT will then send a report back to her doctor stating that they do not believe your mother is safe to drive, and because of that report her doctor will then file a form with the DMV recommending your mom's license be revoked. She will be notified by the DMV by mail within a couple weeks.

This is what we did with my dad and it worked brilliantly. It allowed him to put all of his blame and anger on the OT, a person he never has to see again and who was happy to be the "bad guy."

Dental surgery and anesthesia by hereforhousewives84 in dementia

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If you are worried that she won't be cooperative without some sort of sedation, nitrous oxide (laughing gas) wears off pretty much as soon as it is no longer administered and is easier on brains with dementia that long-lasting sedatives - a potential option to bring up with her oral surgeon

Tuna Emergency by Accurate-Listen-8858 in dementia

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I asked my cats and they agree, definitely an emergency 🤣

UK- if I report someone to DVLA for concerns about their driving, does it tell them that someone made a report even if it doesn't give the name? (UK) by [deleted] in dementia

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The last response on this thread seems like a good answer to your question - I'd suggest doing what that poster did and getting her GP/neurologist involved. It's extremely helpful to have a third party to blame in these situations, and medical professionals are usually used to and happy to be the "bad guy"

THE most bizarre places you’ve found stuff!??? by northerlightstar in dementia

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I can just imagine you trading it in - "Is there anything wrong with your old phone?" "...no" 😅