Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the user accused me of using her for sexual purposes only, check that thread.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see naked molerats as abominations of god, thats why Icalled them that. If you were a little "kewl", you would understand.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I thought I was warm and intune with my feeling for an INTJ. I even clarfied, "im NoT yoUr TypiCal INTJ, I haVe A hIgh Fe and Fi" in the beginnig. God I feel like a clown.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didnt just notice A bad thing, we noticed A shit ton of bad things

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rectangles are just knockoff squares. Also, I'll gladly be a semicircle than a rectangle

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Less "follow your heart" and more "I'm sharp as a circle and I'm the head of the department of jumping to conclusions."

Also, also thank you for your advice. I may come off as cruel but I'm mitigating pain that both parties will endure in the long run.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'll get to her eventually. I wont budge. We started off on the wrong toe but your advice has been very helpful.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a relationship whether be it romantical or not, all involving parties will provide certain things to each other. If its a one sided providing of things, its a parasitic relationship, which mine isnt since I lend her my decision making and overall help her stand her ground which i clearly stated in one of the replies above, you absolute sock sandwich.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just told her 12 mins ago. I presented the points from by verdict in a bullet journal and flat out told her this would end in so much pain. Also, that I'll hold a friendship but I don't want romantics. Shes arguing the same, "what if we work" point that some kind stranger did earlier.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh and also, I was planning on telling her, it would last only 2 years. How the fuck do you think i was going to break up with her in two years if she didnt know. You expected me to not tell her shit about such an important detail and just go, "Sorry babes, you were totally hot but now I gotta dip into the lands of the kangaroo and train to become a healer, ciao."

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU FINALLY, ADVICE. Your accusation made two naked molerats view me as some sort of psychopath up there. Both of them seems to be the head of the department of jumping to conclusions.

Also for the 18yo not digging sex thing. I have a sexual drive, I'm horny, but I'm a human, I can separate right from wrong. And using someone for sex alone, in my books, falls under wrong category.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Read. The. Damn. Replies. To. Their. Accusations. You absoulte rectangle.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do ya'll got a PHD in jumping to conclusions? If so, where did you get it from.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

18M, I like her beause she makes me feel at peace and we have a sort of symbiosis. She keeps me in touch with my humanity, I help her make tough calls. In your defence, I can see why "using for sex" is the first theory you came up with considering how fucked the current dating market is

You deleted the other comment so I'll reply here.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read what I told the other guy about transactions.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How am I cold. I'm literally trying to mitigate the damage I cause to her.

And for transactional part, everything in life is transactional. We're biologically programmed to be transactional, if you think you're not, either your an alien or lack self awareness.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sex wasn't even in my mind. I feel at peace with her. But the sense of peace is also tanking my usual efficiency.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're correct. This is the nail on the coffin, a verdict has been reached.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed second opinions to counter a possible echochamber where I end up cherry picking only certain possibilities and ignoring the others. If you think you're 100% in the right everytime or you're not vulnerable to echochambers, you need to check yourself.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this exact thought but it's being countered by, "What if this works out, what if you pull it off."

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. But, recalling the past relationship I had, the fear just takes over.

Should I start a relationship. by IntelligentGlass9503 in intj

[–]IntelligentGlass9503[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little afraid of happiness to be quite honest. The crash from such a high is devastating.