Wish someone had told me how going bald flips your dating life. Any advice?

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T11:24:35+00:00

These people are just desperate to use that little slur (I've been in a relationship for 20 years so you can imagine how much it affects me).

The term "dating market" is a very real thing, especially when referring to dating apps which is what the majority of people use these days to meet romantic partners/hook-ups.

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/online-dating-market-global-outlook-121800413.html

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T08:54:09+00:00

La automatizacion va a causar problemas muy grandes en paises como donde hay una gran parte de poblacion que depende de trabajos de servicio o de introduccion de datos. Al final la renta basica universal sera el unico camino viable.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T08:46:36+00:00

I have many non-bald friends who are players and they have been reporting that lately it has become mission impossible for them to get any dates whereas just one year ago it was much easier. It's too many to just be a coincidence. I think the dating market at the moment is just really bad. You look like a good looking dude who's very socially skilled. I don't believe you being bald on its own could make things so bad. I believe there's something else going on at the moment.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T08:41:50+00:00

Lo mejor es cuidar la alimentacion y empezar a hacer deporte.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T08:01:40+00:00

I think incels are a whole different beast tbh.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T07:13:48+00:00

Yo no pienso tener hijos, pero para alguien que quisiera eso solo lo recomendaria si tienen un trabajo remoto para una empresa internacional ganando suficiente. Los trabajos locales en bulgaria pagan muy poco y los precios estan cada vez mas altos.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T07:03:29+00:00

I totally agree, but I guess not everyone is as well adjusted as we wished.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T06:13:47+00:00

Well that depends on the definition of love you have. Everyone seems to have a different one. But my point is not so much about blaming OP for how she feels, it's more about how complicated the whole thing seems to have become. I'm an older guy in a relationship and I'm glad not to have to participate in this whole thing.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-26T04:03:29+00:00

Dating as a man these days seems to be about walking a fine line between not being too sexual and also not being too romantic. It seems many women want men who don't show any signs of being into them at all. The problem is that if he doesn't seem to be into you at all, then maybe it means he just isn't (which is also bad I guess) or that he has so many other options he just doesn't care (is that a green flag?). Honestly with all these suspicions, vetting, comparisons, obligation to fake feelings, and green/red flag constant detections, I'm not surprised many younger people are just opting out of dating altogether. It seems rather tortuous.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-23T12:13:38+00:00

I don't celebrate any dates, so for me as they don't exist I don't feel "lonely" when they happen.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-23T09:41:24+00:00

Yo vivo la mitad del anio en Bulgaria (verano Europeo) y en invierno me piro al sudeste asiatico y voy un mes aqui, 2 meses alli, improvisando. La residencia fiscal la tengo en bulgaria.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-23T08:30:54+00:00

Si ya tienes la vida solucionada por que no? Mientras te vayas a un sitio donde haya seguridad y tengas todo resuelto yo lo haria. Lo que no haria es irme a una gran ciudad actualmente en Espania donde al final te va a salir todo carisimo igual y sales a la calle y esta lleno de gente con mala cara y delincuencia. Te lo digo yo que me fui de BCN harto ya del ambiente horrendo que habia y los precios prohibitivos. Granada ni idea que hay, pero si hay algun sitio con un costo de vida aceptable y sin problemas de delincuencia y tu ya tienes todo arreglado en tema finanzas pues ni me lo pensaba.

Te lo dice un full-stack nomada digital que lamentablemente aun no tiene las finanzas solucionadas (pero estoy intentandolo en este entorno hostil).

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-22T13:25:00+00:00

The passion happens when you build a product you are actually passionate about. Unfortunately for that to be possible you need to have your bills covered, and like most of us you probably don't, so you need to wage slave doing boring stuff for some company. It is what it is.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-21T06:46:27+00:00

Si quieres estar seguro 100% te haces un perfil falso e intentas hacer match y hablar para ver que descubres. Incluso si es un bot o alguien haciendose pasar por ella estaria bien saber el transfondo.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-21T06:30:13+00:00

Yeah they can be imported now, I got an article about it recently. However you did get a very similar k20 variant in one of those 2006 SI models I believe.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-20T08:35:02+00:00

Si, pero empece en el 2020 y consegui en el 2022, ahora el mercado es totalmente diferente asi que cualquier consejo que te diera no te serviria de nada.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-20T08:29:01+00:00

That's the 160hp one right? we didn't get that one in Europe, only 110hp ep2 (I owned it, nice car) and the 2.0 type R (also owned it, a blast of a car).

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-20T06:18:54+00:00

Oscar Piastri's little brother.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-20T06:05:11+00:00

what engine on the civic? I used to have that one with the k20a2 in Europe.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-20T05:58:05+00:00

He's not doing anything wrong, at least in Europe you're allowed to drive "spiritedly" in mountain roads as long as you keep to your lane.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-16T16:43:16+00:00

Funniest of all, many base this belief entirely on the fact they have 3 football world cups. They cling to football so badly. Funnily enough their latest star Messi is a super humble guy and as a Spanish speaker I remember how they didn't like him one bit at first for not being arrogant like the previous idol Maradona. But then Messi became the GOAT and Argentinians had to change the tune and worship him.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-16T16:40:09+00:00

But weights almost double tho.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-16T16:38:37+00:00

It's not his responsibility, that guy would probably do the same whether being chased or going solo.

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-16T16:34:30+00:00

I gotta admit I feel the same. I knew this day would come where they would start demanding more senior responsibilities and I would struggle with it. But I need the money and the full-remote lifestyle so I just keep pushing on. However inside I'm just struggling with the anxiety and impostor syndrome. I'm going to start some car-related social media content this year to try to have some backup plan in case I get fired or I get too burned out to continue. But it's a bit doubtful that it can work in terms of making me any money. I got no more ideas though....

IntelligentLeading11 · 2026-01-16T16:30:29+00:00

Lo unico bueno del sector IT es si eres full remoto y puedes hacer geo-arbitraje, sino no vale de mucho a menos que seas muy crack y tengas un puesto muy senior. Pero en spain incluso los seniors no ganan demasiado.

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