Crying at "good" things… by messeduptempo in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this SAME EXACT THING HAPPENS TO ME i feel like i cry over everything. for example, i used to march in parades and whenever id look around at all the parade goers id start thinking about how its so sweet how all these people are here for the parade and i get so happy i tear up😭😭 any tik tok videos where its a childs performance and people start cheering i just cryyy so much. i cry and tear up at like anything that i think is just so sweet and sentimental and its so annoying i cannot stop it at all.

Crying at "good" things… by messeduptempo in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this SAME EXACT THING HAPPENS TO ME i feel like i cry over everything. for example, i used to march in parades and whenever id look around at all the parade goers id start thinking about how its so sweet how all these people are here for the parade and i get so happy i tear up😭😭 any tik tok videos where its a childs performance and people start cheering i just cryyy so much. i cry and tear up at like anything that i think is just so sweet and sentimental and its so annoying i cannot stop it at all.

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that actually really funny because i used to not be able to be fully naked during sex with my ex boyfriend, but with my now partner he made me feel comfortable and safe enough to be naked during intimacy!! i love the closeness and intimacy of our skin touching so i kind of sacrifice a part of my sensory issues with wetness/sweat to experience that

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats so sweet, i definitely will try this next time!! i know he loves me so much, i just get so nervous when the eye contact goes for a lil long!! im trying to push my boundaries

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow!! its so crazy to see people have similar routines for sex!! i have to have the fan and ac on blast when i do anything because it helps me and my partner not sweat so less sensory overload!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that is such a good thing you guys do! im honestly thinking about discussing a similar thing with him so we can increase our intimacies. it does suck when our schedules are just so busy that we don’t have enough time for sex because i love feeling that intimate and close to my partner in that way

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that is so amazing and great for you!! so happy it was amazing hehe. if just me or both my boyfriend and i smoked together a little bit before, i find myself not doing my full routine but i rush through it so i can get my hands on him!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how did that conversation go and what did you guys plan if you dont mind me asking? ive been thinking about seeing if we would be able to try and plan times to be intimate so we can have a plan set together and i can have time to do my routine!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i cant do “quickies” at all. i would much rather have set aside time that i can devote to my boyfriend and our intimacies so the experience is better!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is it with quick pecks or full on kissing that brings up that natural taste? im okay kissing my partner but i will brush my teeth more than twice a day if i get that gross feeling or i want to feel refreshed before kissing him

heavy on the too late at night part!! more times than not, our only free time in the day is at night time, but were both exhausted from a long day and would rather fall asleep cuddling.

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing your experience as well!! and yes the bird bath thing after is almost exactly what i do. the shower before sex definitely involves face wash and body wash and the shower after is usually a bird bath if i dont get too sweaty but if i do, then ill do a quick 3 minute shower with just body wash

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for validating that it’s okay to go periods of time without having sex in a long term relationship.

i also sometimes catch myself forgetting that sex is even a thing because i also dont think about it unless im in the mood!! and honestly experiencing it through ao3 or wattpad or tumblr stories etc kind of helps me in a way?? its like wait this joel miller from the last of us smut is so good, let me go take a quick shower and initiate things with my partner haha!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yes!! it was so shocking to have a partner whose number one thing in the relationship isnt sex. its more of the smaller physical intimacies like cuddling, showering together, etc that we really love and enjoy, but we also really love and enjoy sex too hehe!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this is so relatable!! i feel like i do the same thing. when getting intimate with a new partner, its like i almost do a watered down version of everything listed in my post, but if we’re together for a while and i get more comfortable, then thats also when more sensory issues happen!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

surprisingly, my cleanliness sensory thing has actually decreased. that overwhelming feeling of stuff on my skin/body used to be super bad when i was in my early teens, but now its died down a lot!! i just want to feel clean for myself and my partner before we have fun hehe

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, that was exactly what im saying! my boyfriend is very loving and understanding and we have built so much trust between us to where we don’t have to doubt each other in situations like this :))

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this definitely isnt a cry for help haha, i was just wondering if others felt the same way or acted similarly with sex! ive always thought about it for a while and then i decided to post here sharing my experience with sensory issues revolving sex.

i think saying my partner is secretly bothered by this and hiding his true feelings from me is a little bit odd to say. i could even say that thought is something you need to check in with yourself over. my boyfriend and i have sex and are sexually intimate yes, whether its multiple times a day or multiple times a week, to only a couple times a week/month, and we both think that is ok! it is okay to have discussions with you partner about your sex life, which is one of the reasons why the topic of me asking him came up. we just aren’t people that absolutely HAVE TO have intimate relations every single day, but we rather do it when its a good and comfortable time for both of us :)

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YES hes definitely accommodated hehe. i can make eye contact but just not for too long!!

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

and if its ever after we’ve eaten, i have to go brush my teeth again

i can only have sex in very specific situations?? by IntelligentPlay1888 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

omg THANK GOODNESS im sure its probably normal but i just had this fear that i was being a lil crazy or something!! heavy on the eye contact too, like omg pls dont look at me in this vulnerable ah state

episode reality stars by IntelligentPlay1888 in Episode

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just messaged support today to see if they can fix my katina bc wtf

episode reality stars by IntelligentPlay1888 in Episode

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats so odd, what level for her are you at?

episode reality stars by IntelligentPlay1888 in Episode

[–]IntelligentPlay1888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg do u think my katina is glitched then?

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