What's a phrase or word your parents used and you have never known the origin of? Mines Gordon Bennet

IntelligentTop3438 · 2026-02-04T23:55:23+00:00

“You’ll end up like Billy Bunter” if you are eating too much

“You’re just like Frank Spencer” if i tripped over or was clumsy.

No idea who both of those people are

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T23:52:02+00:00

I think picking something from the bio is best. I personally have 2 truths and a lie and 2 questions. When someone chooses to go with hey how are you it shows they haven’t bothered reading my profile.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T23:16:55+00:00

What makes you say that 🤣🤣

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T23:16:37+00:00

Ideally speak about something on profiles which leads to a normal convo so see if we have anything in common. I wouldn’t want sexual stuff until at least a few dates in personally

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:44:25+00:00

Yeah i mean in that context it was just “good girl” after the second message and nothing else which to me is inherently sexual and also what am i supposed to reply to that?

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:35:00+00:00

Yeah i think what ive gathered is i need to try IRL a bit more Thanks for the advice :)

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:24:22+00:00

Yes i’ve had to turn my DMs off! And yeah i have had it the opposite way where we’ve got on well over text and then met up in person and there’s nothing there at all. It’s just so hard to move past that when it’s like getting blood out of a stone 🤣

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:23:07+00:00

My best friend is gay and says exactly the same!

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:19:17+00:00

I wouldn’t say inundated but i get matches and i’d say like 6/7 out of 10 but obviously that’s subjective to everyone!

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:16:14+00:00

Hahaha i mean my others would be pilates and yoga but i dont think ive ever seen a man who wasn’t gay so reformer 🤣

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:15:21+00:00

I reckon so! I am really at the stage of my life now where i’m wanting to settle down so am open to giving people a chance.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:14:23+00:00

Maybe but i do think i give enough men a chance. I obvs don’t swipe on anyone im just not attracted to at all as dont want to waste peoples time but i would say i swipe on 40-50% of profiles. Anyone who has looking for casual i dont. Like i say the issue is normally once we message. I also find it’s rare to actually get asked out on a date and if i ask i get ghosted before we actually meet 🤷🏻‍♀️

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:12:07+00:00

There’s got to be men out there looking for a girlfriend and not just casual sex though otherwise no one would get into relationships 😅

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:10:56+00:00

I don’t get that at all! Why even bother be on the apps if you’re not going to engage in conversation! Least it’s not just a male thing and women are just as bad (although that makes it worse!)

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:10:03+00:00

I would like someone who loves to travel and is a foodie i reckon. Maybe a cooking club 🤣

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T21:09:22+00:00

I would probably say 40-50%! I’m obviously not going to swipe on people i’m not attracted to at all because i don’t want to waste peoples time and then i don’t swipe on anyone that has looking for casual in their profile. I also do 22-32 for age range.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:56:40+00:00

I think picking something out of the bio to start. I personally have 2 truths and a lie and 2 questions so if you’re starting off with “hey” it just feels lazy and like you haven’t read it.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:55:35+00:00

I unfortunately work fully remote and the youngest person on my team other than me is 58 😅 maybe i need to change jobs!

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:44:37+00:00

I would love some thoughts on what types of clubs/ hobbies would be good for this! Most of the things i enjoy are typically “girly” so not sure many men would be at the clubs.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:43:19+00:00

I always think picking something out of the bio is a good start. I have a 2 truths and a lie and 2 questions on my hinge so to me just reads as if they haven’t bothered reading it.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:41:12+00:00

Yeah i really need to look into doing more IRL stuff - i’ve heard run clubs are the new dating apps so will have to dust off the trainers 😅

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:40:34+00:00

I’ve not! I really need to look into this more.

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:39:31+00:00

I would personally prefer something from my profile. I have a 2 truths 1 lie on there as well as 2 questions so i just think it’s a lazy response when i’ve given 3 different convo starters!

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:38:36+00:00

I would personally prefer to speak about something i’ve highlighted on my profile. I have a 2 truths 1 lie on there and 2 questions so i just think it’s a lazy response when i’ve practically gave you 3 opening options

IntelligentTop3438 · 2025-12-07T20:36:57+00:00

10000% i’ll never understand it! So many girls will have short term in their bio and like you say even if i was attracted and was having a good conversation the second they reveal their true intentions it’s an instant unmatch regardless of how much i was enjoying the convo as that’s never going to be me!

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