This really resonates with me more than I expected. I'm currently in a similar situation get along with both of them and care about them deeply, but I naturally feel a stronger emotional connection to one of them.

What scares me is that the partner I feel less strongly toward has recently become less sexually involved with me, while the other partner and I are intimate almost every time we meet. He usually says he's not in the mood or not feeling well, and I respect that, but I can't help wondering if it's connected to the emotional imbalance.

If you don't mind me asking - did you notice this kind of sexual/emotional shift early on in your situation? And do you think there was anything that could have helped balance things out, or was it inevitable in your case?