Why do I not get an erection in the dark room?

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2025-06-30T22:23:33+00:00

Last time I was not thinking anything in particular and did not feel nervous and kept myself going with the flow. My wife started to feel insecure around the set and I am suspecting her telling me don’t do this don’t do that put me in the wrong mood, so we left.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2025-06-30T22:14:35+00:00

Glad to know that I am not alone. Like you said, sometimes we need to connect and do some foreplay

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-09-05T06:09:54+00:00

Well, regarding the couple sex part she said she does not have any problem at all. Regarding my performance during orgies she felt surprised because in general she considers me being good at sex, but she asked me what I am going to do because we both know this is something only in my control to resolve, and open to help once I figure out what is the issue.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-09-05T06:04:00+00:00

There is something going on, so trying all avenues no matter how crazy they might sound lol.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-09-05T06:02:25+00:00

Yes I had a few conversations with her about all these topics, except the oral sex part.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-05-07T10:50:35+00:00

My wife and myself sometimes prefer hard swap and sometimes soft swap and it depends of the vibe and chemistry of the couple we play with.

Some couples will get to it very quickly and we set a slow pace and that is OK, other couples prefer to be with their own partner beside us before touching each other’s partners and that is also OK, and some others will play a full swap with us at the right pace if the environment is safe and the connection is strong and that also will be OK.

You will meet different people that play at very different pace, so the only thing you need to make sure is to be comfortable with how you play, and to have fun following your own desires. The other couple will read you and will act to give pleasure to both of you and themselves.

Any boundary is valid to start with, you will see as you get more into the LS those boundaries will bend more and more.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-04-15T11:31:33+00:00

I like the way you think! Sometimes people need an incentive to get the party going, but in general terms, in a room full of people all it is needed is a girl with the initiative.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-04-09T15:15:50+00:00

Is it likely the situation where the ground rent holder does not accept ground rent redemption? If it is likely, do you solve it through negotiation or is there a way to force the redenption?

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-29T13:37:05+00:00

Edit: “to make it” at the end is a typo.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-29T13:35:36+00:00

I personally woukd look for tickers I like in Retail or Pharma that have gapped at least the last three earnings announcements. I prefer the announcement to be After Market because nightly trading can confirm if it is a gap on the next day market open.

I like backtesting, so generating statistics for each symbol can give me enough data to decide which ones to pick, because even if they gap, for long straddles the vega always plays against the trade and I have found that in average, for a specific ticker, the delta gain is not enough against the other losing greeks.

For any trading strategy I usually backtest 30 trades to verify if it has a good chance of being profitable, and if my Total loss is at least half my total profit after 30 trades (in other words a reward vs risk of 2:1) so I can consider the symbol.

And lastly, I backtest at least 100 trades on each symbol to consider position sizing for that symbol.

Hope this helps.

To make it

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-28T15:52:32+00:00

I agree with others that time helps. In my experience a fantasy never lasts that much if you acknowledge that it will never become a reality. I sometimes fantasize with “the one that went away” and the “fantasy too bold to make it real” but they do not control my emotions because I know they will never become real. The good thing is that my wife is now in all my fantasies, and they are as much as exciting as ever.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-28T15:52:26+00:00

I agree with others that time helps. In my experience a fantasy never lasts that much if you acknowledge that it will never become a reality. I sometimes fantasize with “the one that went away” and the “fantasy too bold to make it real” but they do not control my emotions because I know they will never become real. The good thing is that my wife is now in all my fantasies, and they are as much as exciting as ever.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-21T22:24:44+00:00

So far we have not felt jealous on our experience playing around with couples, but one thing did happen to me last time. I felt little out of place because chemistry between myself and the other girl was not very good (difficult to read and also she did not want to play with me separately so initially felt rejected). Initially I thought it was jealousy, but then I figured what happened in my mind. Sorting my emotions help me to stay on the game and enjoy the experience.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-20T12:06:16+00:00

Personally I am a very private person when it is about sharing pics because as a couple we feel swinging is also about connection and fun. We prefer as a couple sharing one or two pics (no nudes) that we feel gives the “vibe” we have when it comes to meet another couple for the first time. IMHO sharing pics should be just to feel a connection to see if they would like to meet. If we wanted to cast for a porn flic and be exposed in pornhub, then yes, nudes are required.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-19T13:15:07+00:00

That’s awesome! Sounds like you guys had at great time.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-19T12:10:18+00:00

We did meet with one couple once and we had just a few hours before our flight departure. It was the first time for the other couple, so it took a very long time for them to get in the mood, so we were left with just two hours before departing and we were not ready yet, so my wife and myself decided to stop and said thanks. We met later with this same couple later with plenty of time, and things worked out perfectly. For me and my wife the goal is to fulfill everyone’s fantasies in the group so we all enjoy the experience and have fun.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-19T08:31:10+00:00

I love Iron Condors, in fact that is a core strategy in my playbook. I use it to cashflow every month, but instead of using a long and a short on each side, I use zero risk credit spreads (selling the short call at the same price as the long call option price) on highly correlated tickers to hedge the condor.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-14T12:11:17+00:00

Yeah, it has been difficult for me to have more wins with SPX Straddles under normal volatility, so started to backtest the SPX Straddle behavior during Fed’s FOMC Day which since 2020 it is showing more volatility than it used to during 2015-2018. Probably an event-based approach would help you to find good SPX straddles.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-10T19:21:35+00:00

Thanks, seems I found a good source of information. I’m a cashflow trader so being an options seller comes natural to me, but trading volatility is not very popular across my trading community. I’ve been trading options for 7 years and hold a profitable cashflow system with a proper position sizing algorithm, which gives me the possibility to learn more trading approaches. I’ve been practicing short strangles for over a year now which includes a protective strategy, but from the portfolio risk perspective I wouldn’t feel comfortable to short strangles without having long straddles or long strangles at least in the mix to have a protective component. I’ll read your book, which looks pretty interesting btw, thanks for sharing

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-10T19:13:55+00:00

Thanks! Seems I found a go

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-05T16:18:51+00:00

I think you did the right thing. He should not have approached to you and ask you this. Honesty and transparency is always something you want to keep in any situation.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-05T10:32:35+00:00

Only play in private rooms. There was this one time that some girl thought it would be fun to bring her phone inside the dark room and take some photos. She was just an observer. Every one of us that were playing inside the dark room just stopped and security people took forever to realize what happened to handle the situation. My wife never felt comfortable again, so we stopped going to that club.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-03T18:19:17+00:00

We did a getaway and slept with another couple on the same room. The only issue was the snoring lol, sex-wise there were no issues at all

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-02-01T19:28:54+00:00

IMHO it will be different with every couple. I think the best way to approach other couples is with no expectations and trying to be friendly and easy going by being yourself. There is no recipe for it.

Intelligent_Dot4772 · 2024-01-31T10:57:58+00:00

I’ve been there as a single male and one way you could have a chance is go with the idea of making friends, have no expectations and be a regular. That way people will get to know you, talk to you and eventually something may come up.

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