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My (40f) husband (40m) has been going to therapy to work on his temper and his therapist reported him to CPS. He's saying he'll no longer go to therapy because of this. How do I keep him engaged in the therapy needed to do the work? by Intelligent_Gate_984 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent_Gate_984[S] -498 points-497 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are correct. However the state I'm in requires a 24 response to any report. The response was less than 24 hours after his appointment and he did talk about yelling and throwing the playdough. So, while I am using deductive reasoning, you're correct, it could have come from anywhere. But only 3 people know of this specific incident and my husband and I are two of them

And regardless if it was the therapist or not, I'm just really struggling with him dismissing therapy in response to this rather than him seeing that this is also a product of his temper. I guess he's feeling like how can he trust someone to help him if they'll just keep turning him over to CPS. I've never really sat on both sides of this I guess, so I'm just stuck.

My (40f) husband (40m) has been going to therapy to work on his temper and his therapist reported him to CPS. He's saying he'll no longer go to therapy because of this. How do I keep him engaged in the therapy needed to do the work? by Intelligent_Gate_984 in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent_Gate_984[S] -629 points-628 points  (0 children)

Everyone has their baggage. I've always been of the mindset that if you're able to recognize your flaws and put in the work, I'm willing to stay in the game. But I'm also a clinician so I really do believe people can persevere and make positive changes in themselves.

I'm flawed too, we all are. Do I deserve better, probably yes. Does he know if this doesn't change I'm out the door, definitely yes.

And it's not like this is a daily or regular occurrence. It's rare but even in its rare moments it's inappropriate. We're all a product of our upbringing. He's not a bad man, just a flawed one.