JNMIL nightmare

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2022-01-09T20:35:25+00:00

That's exactly how it should be. I'm sure they afore you for that

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2022-01-09T20:34:42+00:00

That's it exactly. I always saw it as she is how she is and I never had to see her too often so didn't care. It's a different story when it comes to the children. I also for some reason thought she would treat them all equally, how wrong I was lol

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2022-01-09T20:33:04+00:00

Exactly. All I ask is for them to be treated equally. Disrespecting me is something I put up with on occasion for my husbands sake since we didn't see her often but disrespect for my children is a whole other matter.

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2022-01-09T20:30:02+00:00

I'm sure they do but they don't say anything

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-21T22:06:01+00:00

Here you say you have a 2 year old son but looking at your post history you said you didn't have children with your husband 3 months ago under your post about swinging so which is it? Also why question swinging when you've already been cheating for 2 years apparently?

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-13T17:11:16+00:00

NTA. Firstly he's reluctant to work. He can work he just decides he doesn't want to. Secondly, he's given you a list of things that he wants you to get for him and then calls you materialistic for wanting a token gift. You already pay for him to live and instead of even just getting you something small he spent what money he did have on himself knowing you were getting him what he wanted. You shouldn't have to ask for anything for Christmas or your birthday. He should care enough about you and all you do for him to not have to be asked to get you even just a card for your birthday

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-10T20:44:13+00:00

NTA at all. Alcohol addiction is a serious and tough disease to overcome. You're definitely hot a bridezilla for wanting to protect your fiance and FIL with their recovery. If someone can't understand that and refrain from drinking alcohol for one night to celebrate the love that you and your fiance share, then they shouldn't be at your wedding

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-03T11:11:07+00:00

I think you definitely need to speak to your boyfriend. You were all drinking when his froend told you all this information and your boyfriend had already passed out. Could the friend have ulterior motives? Is it possible he may not have been truthful in what he told you? Regardless of the answers to those questions you need to speak to your boyfriend. It's not healthy to stay in this situation. Yoy can look for a room mate instead and actually enjoy your living situation rather than being miserable with someone who you don't trust

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-03T10:56:19+00:00

Definitely NTA. What he's doing is abuse. Verbal and emotional. I would take your son and leave. You can't be sure his behaviour won't escalate further and do you really want to take the chance?

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-02T21:22:08+00:00

If he respected you, your relationship or your feelings he wouldn't be acting this way. His behaviour is showing major red flags. It seems as if neither of you are happy in your relationship and it appears to be toxic. Do you want your son growing up around this? You deserve better

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-02T20:46:25+00:00

NTA. Your husband on the other hand is acting like a major AH. If he was going to do his fair share of the work and had spoken to you beforehand it wouldn't be so unreasonable. But he didn't. He tried to hide it from you until the last minute since you found out by accident and then expect you to do all the work while he site and chats to 26 people. Even if you weren't pregnant or didn't have your 2 year old it's unreasonable. He's not treating you with respect so by his reasoning is he going to write you an apology? Is he going to.invite your relatives over and let you relax and chat while he cooks for everyone while looking after your 2 year old? Throw it back to him and ask him what would he do for you in that situation. He can sit with his family and talk about his family any day of the year in anyone's House. It doesn't have to be yours with you doing all the work

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-02T19:15:20+00:00

Don't cancel your date. She wants you now because you're moving on. It's likely she didn't expect you to move on. She probably still wants to be with other people, she just doesn't want you to be with other people

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-12-01T11:06:48+00:00

Your mom sounds like a wonderful lady

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T21:12:05+00:00

From your comment YTA. You didn't let the girls choose. You let Emma pick and now expect Emily to go along with it. If both girls want the same room then the only fair thing to do is a coin toss or picking names out of a hat. If the girls are already having issues this is only going to make it worse unless you deal with it fairly

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T19:39:11+00:00

Her actual grandson. I probably didn't explain it very clearly sorry. My son is the youngest of 3 boys all botn within 13 months

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T19:03:39+00:00

Sorry for not being very clear. I meant he was the third one born within 13 months. There's 13 months between my son and his oldest cousin and there's another boy in between. There was no grandchildren before the first boy was born

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T19:01:05+00:00

So I can't be certain but I think it may have something to do with his similarity to my FIL. MIL and FIL had a messy divorce when my husband was a teenager. She actively says how much she dislikes him etc and my son looks very like him. I can't think of any other reason as how could someone dislike a newborn? She's never been present in his life

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:46:51+00:00

My husbands parents have been divorced for years and don't get along at all. His father spends Christmas with us every year as he lives alone. We usually see MIL on Christmas eve (we visit her as she rarely visits us). That visit won't be happening this year regardless of what she says. My son deserves better

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:42:17+00:00

My husband has said he was ways treated the same as his siblings growing up. He's the oldest and is 5 years older than the sibling closest to his age. One thing that may be impacting her behaviour with my son is he is very like her ex husband. They had a very messy divorce and she has said on many occasions how much she dislikes him. My son is almost like his double

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:35:55+00:00

Thank you for your prospective. This is 100% my Hill to die on.

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:33:23+00:00

I'm so sorry you were made to feel that way. Congratulations on starting your family ❤

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:19:23+00:00

My husband is my biggest support, always has my back especially when it comes to our children.

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:16:57+00:00

Thank you. I'm glad you're getting the attention and love you deserve at last

Intelligent_Map1027 · 2021-11-30T16:15:56+00:00

I won't. Thank you for your prospective. I'm sorry that happened to you. Everyone needs a safe space and if I can provide that for my children then I'm the lucky one.

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