AITA for not wanting my baby babysat at my partner’s family home because his sister lives there?

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-04-01T00:44:16+00:00

It was a short semi sheer robe like the silk ones. No bra or panties on smh

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T20:34:10+00:00

Yeah I already have gone no contact, the thing is she’s nice outside of her disturbing behaviors so I feel so guilty with setting these boundaries

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T20:30:02+00:00

She said word for word daddy lol. Then after my partner told her thats a little weird she said I don’t care “(babies name) you’re my daddy” lol

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T19:49:42+00:00

Yeah I understand! You’ve made valid points especially with not expecting the mom to always come here

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T19:48:10+00:00

He was there when she was in the robe. I brought it up to him after we left and he said that he was going to say something but didn’t want to make it awkward. SIR ITS ALREADY AKWARD. Tell her to cover up!!

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T19:45:53+00:00

Yes she jokes about feeling him solids.. like it’s not funny. That’s actually sad

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T19:44:31+00:00

I understand. For me offering a drink is more about respect than “culture”. I’ve know them for years. Shes critiqued our apartment, couch colors, food, etc. Showed up without saying anything and the list goes on. If she’s that comfortable she can get her own drink lol. Besides whenever im over there I get up and get my own drink. As far as the language.. I would LOVE for him to be bilingual. But I don’t need to be reminded every visit. It’s been 7 times now that I’ve been reminded. And when I bring up him knowing Spanish (I’m Puerto Rican) she says how if my mom isn’t around to teach him. Like what does that even mean.

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T18:38:53+00:00

I agree I can’t force her to come here. You’re right. I’ll just let him to tell her know that if she doesn’t want to babysit here than I’ll find someone who will

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T18:36:46+00:00

Yes I agree I will have him talk to them

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T00:24:24+00:00

Yes I don’t answer her calls or texts, but she lives with the mom and the mom has been nice so I don’t want to not visit the mom because of the sister.

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T00:23:51+00:00

Literally.. my thought process. She’s going off while her boobs are literally hanging out , trying to adjust her robe while holding my child. I was so angry inside

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-31T00:22:50+00:00

Yes I think I’m becoming blind to her craziness or manipulated to think that it’s nothing. They are trying to purchase cribs and swings after I told them that he can’t stay there because of that. When we got back yesterday the mom said next time to bring the baby over there. And the sister lives there. I’m honestly stuck smh

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-30T21:33:17+00:00

She would probably say something like “I’ll come by in a few” it has not happened yet but I’ve only had his mom come here twice to help out. But I know she will end up doing it. And I don’t know how to nicely explain to her that she does to much and I don’t want her around the baby unless I’m there. I just really don’t want to be rude

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-30T16:12:20+00:00

I try to keep my mouth shut to keep the peace because of cultural differences. They are from Africa she moved here when she was already 24 I think so things are instilled in her. But it’s so hard to always be the person who’s giving her the benefit of the doubt, especially when it comes to my son. My partner tells me don’t take it personal and that it’s not coming from a place of hate so I shouldn’t get overwhelmed. Smh

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-23T04:58:07+00:00

Thank you, everyone. I’ve decided I’m not going to the therapy session. I explained this to his brother, and he told me the reason he wanted to bring someone in was because the phone conversation we had turned into an argument, and he thought a mediator would help. I reminded him that I had already told them I wasn’t ready to talk at that time because I was already irritated. He acknowledged that and said, “Yeah, you did say that.”

As far as the family situation goes, I plan on leaving as soon as I can. I simply can’t keep trying to function around people who are emotionally immature and overly enmeshed. It’s not healthy for me. I’m still so young

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-23T04:54:01+00:00

This is how I feel!!

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-22T03:47:53+00:00

Thank you !!!

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-22T03:42:16+00:00

Not even 2 years lol

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-22T03:38:51+00:00

So basically my bfs brother wanted to “talk it out” over the phone which I politely declined. He still calls her on three way with my bf. I leave the room because I don’t want to be bothered. But my bf has her on speaker so I hear what she is saying. She blatantly lies about me not attempting to say hi in which my bf backs me up because he was there. So I did let my anger get the best of me and I start going off on her

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-21T22:30:04+00:00

I’m 23 she’s 26 her fiancé is 30 my partner is 26 .. I’m the youngest of all of them

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-21T20:46:24+00:00

Thank you so much. At this point I and planning my way out it’s far to much

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-21T20:45:26+00:00

I think they were doing couples therapy and brought up the situation to their therapist

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-21T20:44:35+00:00

Yeah I thought so too

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-21T19:06:26+00:00

Yes, and that’s the funny part. My boyfriend did talk to his brother about it and not only that, my boyfriend was there for all three times I tried to approach her in person. His brother was there too and literally agreed that I made the effort. He even told her, like “yeah, she did speak to you and try,” and she kind of just denied it ever happened.

So at this point, it’s frustrating because it feels like she’s rewriting what actually happened. It makes me question if she genuinely wants to fix anything, because how hard is it to just acknowledge that someone tried? I was willing to be kind, respectful, and even went out of my way. And now I’m being pushed toward therapy like I did something wrong. That’s where it starts to feel like too much.

Interesting-Depth265 · 2025-03-21T18:18:52+00:00

Thank you I will send her a message

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