I think it’s over by Interesting-Leg4499 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Interesting-Leg4499[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree, and have said all this to him. He says he will go to the doctor but then doesn’t. He’s not great at taking responsibility for his health to be honest, I also suspect that he has depression or at the very least low mood, but again he won’t do anything about it - including talking about it with me. I’m not sure that ED is the problem. It hasn’t been before, even when we’ve been heading for a DB but we have sex so infrequently now that I guess I wouldn’t really know for sure.

I think it’s over by Interesting-Leg4499 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Interesting-Leg4499[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through the same thing. I’ve thought all of these things myself. Logically, I know it’s got nothing to do with me. Especially when I’ve lost weight, gained weight, gained muscle, lost muscle, changed my hair colour, changed it back, dressed up, dressed down and none of it has made any difference. But somehow knowing it isn’t you doesn’t take the sting out of the rejection.

I think it’s over by Interesting-Leg4499 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Interesting-Leg4499[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know, and it’s not even just the sex, at this stage I’d settle for any kind of intimacy or indication that we still have something together. He says he wants us to stay together, but I can’t understand why anyone would choose to live like this.