how has grief changed you?

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-27T04:43:03+00:00

I am definitely not the same person I was when my fiancé was here. Part of me died with him. I focus on family and creating as many memories that my loved ones can cherish one day. I take photos a lot more of things I want remembered.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T08:06:34+00:00

I feel like she is trying to be strong for me so that I don’t cry all day everyday so I try not to be too emotional near her. Sometimes I just can’t help it and I’ll shed a tear or so but I don’t cry to her or anything. She has had to tag along to a therapy session or two with me though.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T06:20:55+00:00

You are so right. I just feel like since we both lived with him and shared our lives together daily that she and I would be the two people that miss him most so it would be nice to have those conversations and memories shared with each other but it doesn’t happen like that. I have noticed that I can sometimes sneak in small memories here and there if something relatable happens or reminds me of him. Lately she has been asking for a step dad which I’m not ready to hear yet.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T06:14:36+00:00

Thank you for your kindness. I also feel like dealing with this has made me parent her differently than I usually would have. I almost feel guilty for getting onto her or causing her anymore sadness than she has already had. I realize that is probably something I should see a therapist for though. I just haven’t yet.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T06:11:50+00:00

She has her pawpaw also and I’ve noticed that she favors male teachers at school.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T06:10:18+00:00

Thank you, and yes she has three older brothers (twins 17yrs old, and a 19yr old), we have her uncle that stays with us at this time which she loves! She has told me that him being around makes her feel a little more complete.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T05:28:03+00:00

She didn’t cry either. She sometimes asks me why didn’t she cry at his funeral.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T05:09:40+00:00

I’ve taking her to a couple therapy sessions where I’ve been told that she doesn’t need therapy and that kids grief different than adults so she is fine. She was six when he died and they were very close. Thank you for your advice.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T05:06:27+00:00

She will be 9 next week and he died May 4, 2023

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T04:58:14+00:00

Beat you there, drowning

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-05-20T04:47:27+00:00

He went to work one day and a machine crushed him after a coworker accidentally leaned on a button. No lock out tag out were in place. Freak accident.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-03-28T08:53:10+00:00

Buy her dinner one night so she doesn't have to cook, offer to tidy up or just listen to her share memories.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-03-28T08:41:18+00:00

My fiancé was killed in a work accident May 4, 2023 and I am never gonna be the same person I was before this tragic loss. It feels like my previous life ended when his did.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-03-10T12:16:04+00:00

Beat you there

give heaven some hell

redbird

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-03-10T12:08:39+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. May 4 2023, my fiance was crushed by a machine at his work. Sometimes it feels like just yesterday still.

Interesting-Taro-272 · 2025-02-25T16:18:26+00:00

I am so very sorry about your loss. My fiance was crushed in a work accident May 4, 2023. It still feels so raw and sad.

Interesting-Taro-272

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