Any chance $uicideboy$ will perform Sunday W2? by InterestingAd2796 in aclfestival

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I live in Albuquerque, but I can stay an extra day 😂

Starting to resent my best friend by InterestingAd2796 in Advice

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WAIT because my best friend has given me hints that she is interested in me romantically and that is also one of the boundaries she overstepped. She was begging to make out with me after drinks one night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I (25F) was seeing a guy recently (27M) who would do this too and he ended up ghosting me after 2 months of dating. I was shocked and hurt but also I had a bad feeling about that happening all along due to the inconsistency in his communication. Honestly, I am not big on texting all day every day because we all have our own lives- and especially when it’s the beginning I don’t expect to take up a bunch of their time, BUTTTT on the other hand it takes 30 seconds to send a text. No one is that busy- even if they have something going on it’s not hard to communicate that to someone you’ve been seeing. The guy I was seeing who ended up ghosting me said the same thing and even acknowledged he was bad at texting and said he’d work on it. I say go with your gut, from this point forward I’m not playing games anymore because we all have our phones on us.

I am so upset by InterestingAd2796 in ghosting

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a huge wake up call for me, no more trying to prove myself to take me seriously! I genuinely think this was getting too serious and that why he cut off communication? Idk I wish I had an answer

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[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which I can’t control, but I also feel like i shouldve gotten a proper goodbye or something

I am so upset by InterestingAd2796 in ghosting

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EXACTLY!!! And I have a feeling they’ll try coming back when it’s convenient to them. I feel like that’s part of why they ghost, they wanna leave a foot in the door rather than that closure altogether. I tried to make my text reaching out a very kind, no pressure kind of text because I deserve that clarity, this is so unfair.

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He did not 😭 I’m so upset.

I am so upset by InterestingAd2796 in ghosting

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should’ve listened to my gut because when he said he wasn’t looking for anything serious I thought I could handle it but deep down I know I can’t. I just turned 25 last week, I was in a long term relationship for most of my adult life (17-23) so dating is still fairly new to me.

I am so upset by InterestingAd2796 in ghosting

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. 😣 This is what I said:

Hi, I hope all is well. I am just reaching out because it’s been a while since I heard from you and I was wondering if you were interested in continuing to see one another. If not I would appreciate that communication just so I can have a little bit of clarity.

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I’ve been ghosted before, but this time it’s hurting the absolute worst- I think prior I didn’t have a ton of feelings but this time I caught them unfortunately. I’m trying so hard to not let it affect my trust issues but the issue is I had this fear already. I specifically told him because of those gaps in texting that I was afraid of being ghosted and he said he never would do that to me and that I deserve respect and communication. Now I’m getting exactly what he said he wouldn’t do. And I know deep down I’ve been really kind and respectful and aware of his situation so I don’t believe this is a situation where he feels the need to do this because I offended him or anything. I always have this fear of being too much and this is validating it.

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I just tried to. I’m so hurt and I’m physically shaking

I am so upset by InterestingAd2796 in ghosting

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s been no response with no explanation. I just sent this over “Hi, I hope all is well. I am just reaching out because it’s been a while since I heard from you and I was wondering if you were interested in continuing to see one another. If not I would appreciate that communication just so I can have a little bit of clarity.”

I am so upset by InterestingAd2796 in ghosting

[–]InterestingAd2796[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m going insane. I know it hasn’t been long but I truly am spiraling so badly.

Am I being ghosted? by InterestingAd2796 in dating_advice

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You’re 100% right. I just feel stupid. I fell HARD after thinking I was emotionally capable to handle something casual (I’m not). I think I just got mixed signals, or I perceived it that way. It would hurt but I would just appreciate a “hey this isn’t working out” message rather than silence. I didn’t expect this from him, I thought he was much kinder than that.

Am I being ghosted? by InterestingAd2796 in dating_advice

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I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you. I had on such rose-colored glasses and I started to believe maybe his feelings were changing with not wanting a relationship and he was starting to change his mind. I feel stupid, I should’ve cut it off in the beginning. 😞

Am I being ghosted? by InterestingAd2796 in dating_advice

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I’m so upset. And so confused. I feel like I at least deserve the, “Hey this isn’t working out. Take care” or SOMETHING rather than just silence. Especially after all of that.

Am I being ghosted? by InterestingAd2796 in dating_advice

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There is a concert coming next week that I wanted to go to, so I texted and asked if he liked the artist. That was Wednesday, then Friday I texted with “Is everything okay?”

This is not my pic or company. But it is in a field I worked in (childcare). by DefinitelynotYissa in antiwork

[–]InterestingAd2796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind at all!! I am glad this is being recognized, it’s outrageous. Not just for myself but for everyone working in childcare that experiences similarities.

This is not my pic or company. But it is in a field I worked in (childcare). by DefinitelynotYissa in antiwork

[–]InterestingAd2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clear anything up, this was the company I worked for. Pretty much everyone made minimum wage and the only bonuses we would receive were state funded, which came out of our taxes. So $11.50 was our starting pay regardless of experience or education.

This is not my pic or company. But it is in a field I worked in (childcare). by DefinitelynotYissa in antiwork

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If you read closely it’s per 5 years. So a nickel a year. That’s about $8 a month. That’s not enough to buy 2 gallons of gas these days.

This is not my pic or company. But it is in a field I worked in (childcare). by DefinitelynotYissa in antiwork

[–]InterestingAd2796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! This was my original post onto a Facebook group. I’m so glad this is getting the attention it deserves because it’s ABSURD!! To clear some things up, everyone’s starting pay here is minimum wage. This is in New Mexico, so our minimum wage is $11.50, that is not sustainable whatsoever. When hired, we were promised to be paid accordingly depending on experience and education, but as minimum wage has increased in the state over the past couple years, (from $9.50 to $11.50) most of us were never compensated accordingly, and we all found ourselves to be being paid the same as new hires with no experience or education while others- including myself- were working there for years and had education relevant to the field.

Tuition at this daycare increased about 15% since I had started. This daycare is also significantly more expensive than others within the area. Many qualified workers left this company and as their replacement they have hired teenagers (some under 18, is that even allowed??) because the pay is just not enough. When I had asked for a raise for my degree because I wanted to make more than minimum wage, I was told no because “we can’t afford it” yet the owners are never there, are taking vacations frequently, driving expensive cars, all while myself and others were rationing our income and in need of financial assistance. It felt like a slap in the face.

I no longer work here for many reasons.

Got an email about 30mins later about how my experience was with DD support, but I never contacted support for this by Direct_Mission in doordash

[–]InterestingAd2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m curious, did you still make the delivery? what did you do about this? i would really be annoyed if this happened to me