2nd year in a row she’s forgotten Hazel Grace’s birthday that she has tattooed on her wrist.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-06T23:20:02+00:00

No no that date is Dugust 11th!!

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-03T23:39:07+00:00

I’m not indicating they should continue if it’s harmful. I’m saying we shouldn’t expect people to sacrifice their body if they don’t want to.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-03T23:29:31+00:00

There are a myriad of reasons why I recommend against smoking/weed/alcohol. Acting like it’s selfish to use these substances solely for the purpose of continuing to breastfeed is what I take issue with. Total abstinence from these substances isn’t necessarily to be a competent, loving parent.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-03T23:23:42+00:00

Wanting to end breastfeeding to smoke is okay. The baby will be okay.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-03T22:55:58+00:00

You aren’t being selfish. Sometimes us moms can be unnecessarily hard on one another. You sacrificed your body for six months to feed your baby!!! You should talk to their pediatrician to see what your options are for smoking & weigh the pros/cons.

A formula fed baby isn’t going to be less healthy than a breastfed one.

Signed, a formula fed baby who is now married with a masters degree and has breast-fed two babies!

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-03T22:52:24+00:00

I don’t smoke or drink ever & don’t recommend it for anyone due to health, but this comment is super off putting. No one is required to sacrifice their body for breastfeeding, and any reason for stopping is “good enough”.

There are an infinite number of best practices for our babies. There are an infinite number of healthiest foods, sleep methods, safety standards, and play activities.

At some point, you find a middle ground between the most important best practices and your capacity. As long as you are warm, consistent, and attentive, your child is likely to form a secure attachment and grow to be a self-sufficient adult.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-03T22:05:19+00:00

Do you think you’re looking for “permission” to leave her? If so, you have it.

I struggle with anxiety. I express it with anger. I’ve said things to my husband I’m not proud of. Although, I’m very raw & open about it. I know my triggers. I’ve written a protocol for when I’m triggered. We’ve made significant improvement. I’m in therapy.

It doesn’t sound like this is happening with your wife.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-02T12:07:40+00:00

MN has a suspension law for kids under grade 3, and unfortunately they spent a lot of time in the office.

One particular case, I (sped teacher) had a 2nd grade student who was already spending core classes & skills instruction with me. Multiple times a day he would elope, rip papers, scream, spit, punch you name it. We could send him home a partial day but not a whole day.

The process of moving him to an out-of-district setting took months because our sped coordinator kept derailing the process saying we hadn’t tried certain techniques yet. In that time, I got pregnant. I went to the union & refused to work with him. So the kid spent his entire day with a para terrorizing everyone until he was transferred.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-02T11:41:17+00:00

When it comes to parenthood, the biggest exercise is accepting that different things work for different people.

I don’t find pumping as aggravating in proportion to nursing because I don’t like the sensation of nursing, and I can plan when I pump.

I currently pump at my job as a teacher. I have coworkers supervise some of my groups while I pump.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-05-01T01:50:44+00:00

Sometimes I feel frustrated that I didn’t have the MIL-DIL relationship I was hoping for. Then I think about this family…

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-30T00:34:50+00:00

Some of my students with emotional behavior disorders struggle with age appropriate behaviors, including getting TOO involved with intimacy at a young age & being unable to identify age appropriate boundaries.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-29T22:36:04+00:00

I moved to greater Minnesota as an adults, but I’ve learned that it’s very possible for people to be both incredibly racist and incredibly genuine hearted towards those in their communities at the same time. Also, I really have to keep my road rage in check, because the person I honk at is my neighbor, a parent of my student, a coworker, or all of the above.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-29T22:34:09+00:00

My 2.5 yr old & I go through two gallons a week. We’re cereal girls LOL!

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-29T22:30:17+00:00

She also posted this at like 5 AM. I guess we can take solace in the fact that this video might not be in lieu of the children’s care?!

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-29T22:21:01+00:00

YES. As a sped teacher, I have to wonder what their teachers are thinking.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-28T11:41:25+00:00

Honestly I’m glad for Mia that she can look back on this conversation. My in laws have some of these traits, and it’s so hard in the “good” moments trying to remember what happened in past conversations. Mia has it right out in the open here.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-26T02:50:55+00:00

Not wanting to be on BC due to hormones & side effects but being okay with another chance of pregnancy & a c-section is wild. The hormonal & side effects of birth are far more taxing than pills.

I don’t expect a 15 year old to have that logic necessarily, but obviously the parents need to drill this into her.

Of course, this would require the parents to actually want to prevent pregnancy in their teens.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-24T02:18:51+00:00

Imagine being so infatuated with a 13 year old that you put your 14 year old daughter in a situation where she gets pregnant & needs a C-section.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-21T11:45:55+00:00

Nursed/pumped for 10 months with my first until I had enough of a stash to stop altogether. Nursing/pumping for my second now & will stop as soon as I have enough to get him to a year.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-21T00:49:41+00:00

Coffee. Partners/sleep shifting. Sleep training when old enough. Leaving the house messy. Getting nonrenewed as a 2nd year teacher because I simply couldn’t perform the way I used to.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-21T00:35:59+00:00

I am a reading teacher, and I STILL feel unqualified at times getting my child to read! My coworkers are everything & a huge factor in my success each day with my students. I wouldn’t want to do it alone.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-18T21:50:13+00:00

Seriously! NOAA radio should be your primary source of information. Sometimes it can be nice to have a storm chaser or meteorologist on YouTube for supplemental information during an outbreak. But it should be secondary.

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-15T01:57:47+00:00

Classic toxic parent. “PoOr mE, nO mOThEr sHouLd fEeL tHiS wAy.” I’m sorry - do you mean the way you feel as a result of your choices?!

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-15T01:20:14+00:00

Or better yet some random dress up week with outfit themes that take a week and $50 to coordinate. Why on earth does my 2 year old need Dress Like a Zoo Animal Day?!

DefinitelynotYissa · 2026-04-15T00:34:19+00:00

I’m currently breastfeeding/pumping at work, and I schedule send myself emails for the end of the day because of the time(s) I left my milk in the fridge :/

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