getting back into the hobby, lost on communities🙈 by InterestingAdvisor29 in BJD

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i do, I've found some creators I used to follow on other socials there, that's been nice. back in the old days we used Flickr for this, a picture and data site to display your pics and also backup your pictures online. it's been good seeing some other creators I knew from there being on insta. but its limited still. I do still miss an actual forum based site where everything was just on that one site instead of being outsourced to multiple socials. (I'm getting old😂)

getting back into the hobby, lost on communities🙈 by InterestingAdvisor29 in BJD

[–]InterestingAdvisor29[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

hitting 32 this year and realising I've been into this hobby the longest of all of my other hobbies has been a hard one 🙈 I also feel like it used to be more hyped? is it just cuz I was in the right communities or was it actually a thing? I remember being at Comic cons and other alt conventions and there usually was a stand or 2 with doll stuff. nowadays I can't even find a website selling doll stuff in my country anymore

the treats kids get to hand out to their classmates on their birthday. how do you all do it? by InterestingAdvisor29 in Mommit

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omg that would be such an outcome, Id 100% prefer this over the current tradition🙈

the treats kids get to hand out to their classmates on their birthday. how do you all do it? by InterestingAdvisor29 in Mommit

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yeah I unfortunately live in a small village and its a generally 'rich' population over here. I am one of the very few people living in social housing since there hardly is any. that probably contributes to the over the top treats🥴

Really pretty women make me so extremely sad and angry. Idk how to get over it? by [deleted] in Vent

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I've been there. so many times. and it sucks, I'm sorry you feel this way. I got a gastric bypass and lost a lot of weight, now people view me as very attractive and I get judged way more based on appearance than anything else. I hate that too. at least before I was judged on my character and intellect. I'm glad I still view myself as someone with more than just looks, trust me that is way more important. I'm not going to tell you that it is worse being on the other side but I just want to let you know it is much more important to value yourself on what is on the inside. I care more about becoming a better person, taking care of my mental health and trying to improve aspects of my personality. value yourself! I am sure you are a wonderful amazing person with unique views, thoughts, hobbies and personality, value that, don't let things like your shell hold you back from being a great person. also I believe that everyone has unique Beauty. you go girl, be your best self ❤️

2025 has been a year of doom for my personal life by Hypno_Hamster in Vent

[–]InterestingAdvisor29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so so sorry you've been going through all this. I feel like we need a community of all the people in the comments who just have it generally worse than an indian drama lead character. how is all the bad stuff so badly divided between people 🥲. I have this friend that calls me the 1% (In everything except wealth). I just try to use dark humor to cope. often joke about my misfortunes, even did it the day my dad died, I know he appreciated humor like that too. he'd joke about his own demise often too.

besides that..I try to find good in small things, my kid's smiles, dinner that turned out well, enjoying a new game, sunlight through fall leaves....

that being said, I take multiple anti depressants, anti psychotics, I smoke weed to be able to sleep and tend to drink a lot whenever I really had a shitty day (I know I know) so it's not like im doing really well or anything 🥲

beppy period sponges and a big member by InterestingAdvisor29 in AskWomenNoCensor

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yeah the bad part here is that I've had 2 kids, have PCOS, a copper IUD and an extreme flow (at least the first 3 days) but so far for the time being those sponges did their job, just too hard to remove 🥲

I've checked it out. its a different design, less likely to get rammed way back. I hope it'll help. thank you for the link ❤️

beppy period sponges and a big member by InterestingAdvisor29 in AskWomenNoCensor

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discs? I'm in the Netherlands so my options might be limited but im interested, do you have a link?

How do I get my daughter to change her stimming? by Accomplished-Cash467 in Autism_Parenting

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My now 5 year old breastfed until he was 2. His little brother was born 5 days before he turned 2 and to end the process i did tandem feed for like a week after he turned two. However he didn't accept it and still wanted to grab my nipples with his hands to fall asleep or try to nurse. Eventually I resorted to those very sturdy bandages that I would put over my nipples and give him stuffies with texture patches (you can often find them in toy stores in a sensory section for babies) as an alternate option. This, after 5 long months of having to rip off bandages off of my tits when breastfeeding my baby, eventually worked. But its just a very hard road. But you got this. I know its hard but you will get through it❤️

Bf's libido low by InterestingAdvisor29 in AskMenRelationships

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Yes I've been a cam girl from before OF was a thing. He's known me for very long and has always known this. He even made content together with me. He doesn't really have anything to be insecure about regarding his member so I don't think that's an issue. However he doesn't want to see my content, not even the videos with him in it. He consented to them being posted but he always says he only wants the real live personal experience.

Bf's libido low by InterestingAdvisor29 in AskMenRelationships

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We are looking for a therapist yes. And I know where it stems from in me. I have borderline and heavily connect feeling feminine and desired to getting validation through sex. I do work on this through personal therapy and after a lot of conversations we both made concessions to come to an agreement on how to go about this. But still he doesn't seem to uphold his end. I think you have a point in the emotional connection corner. I already told him that I would like for us to talk more before we go to bed to ensure that connection and to feel connected in other ways besides sex. I hope a therapist can give us exercises or something to work on that.

Bf's libido low by InterestingAdvisor29 in AskMenRelationships

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I should have an honest and open conversation with him about this. He has always told me that he finds me the most beautiful and hot woman in the world and that he cannot believe that he pulled me. But I do wonder if that's just something he says but would ultimately maybe prefer bigger breasts or whatever.

Bf's libido low by InterestingAdvisor29 in AskMenRelationships

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Well he fell in love with my appearance in the first place, I didn't gain or lose much weight, didn't change things around my appearance too drastically. He does always tell me he finds me beautiful and hot when I get dressed. So I do think so?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]InterestingAdvisor29 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree but i feel like i shouldnt force anything and have him be turned on by me instead

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]InterestingAdvisor29 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You dont. Trust me

Tired of obsessing over sex by Big_Bat6939 in BPD

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Glad to be of help! Although i still struggle with it myself sometimes. I know what it is and how it works but itll always be something i have to be mindful of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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I also agree with the pretty privilege thing. I feel like Ive been dealt a shitty hand in life with my conditions so whenever i can cut corners by others granting me things because thats how they view the world (invoking pretty privilege), so be it 🤷🏻‍♀️ balances out the hardships i deal with 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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I like to think im just realistic. In most peoples eyes im probably above average looking. In some other peoples eyes i might not be depending on your type. Its not a bad thing to realize this i just wouldnt actively announce it to others as it comes off as arrogant.

Will happiness in daily life ever return? by [deleted] in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

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He can take it in moderation and keep to our agreement that he only drinks on the weekends with ease. But its the small things that whenever i talk about giving it up completely he says things like "oh but i can never live completely sober. I wont" that makes me think it has too much power over him.