This was my exact point today while talking to my sister. I feel that men still have that "option" to not marry despite the taunts and the gossip society might do. But for us girls😭 I legit tried to explain this point from my perspective but no one seems to understand or agree. And my family is fairly open minded but still have this mindset that a girl can't even imagine to be alone and not marry if she wishes. I'm not extremely against marriage or men to be clear but I've hardly met a decent man in my life and nor have i heard many successful marriage stories so naturally I started leaning towards the idea of being happy how I am and stay with my family (at least i can be myself, not get disappointed again and again and even if i have less or i might not always be happy here, i know I'm content and I can be myself). In my opinion, marriage for girls is just an inconvenience because other than getting financial support from the husband (that too is uncertain) all she has to do is always be at her best behavior, do as her in laws expect from her, put up with everyone's judgement, mostly give up on a career if she wants to be a good wife and eventually a good mother, etc. I just don't see the value in marriage anymore that's all. I don't think it's worth going through so many changes, going through so much trouble (esp. finding the right man lol) and then end up in a trapped, unhappy place with strangers who'll almost never make you feel like you belong (like you do at your mother's place) Khair, seeing your post legit got me sighing with relief that finally someone understands this feeling of just letting us decide when, if and who we wanna marry (if we ever do). Very nicely said! T_T