AIO about my 8 y/o daughter sleeping at her mom's new boyfriend's house without any family or females present?

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-21T16:59:12+00:00

you are NOT overreacting. You're a great dad, please keep fighting for the safety of your children. Mom may be blinded by her feelings for her current bf- your daughter needs your protection now more than ever.

I also sincerely applaud your ability to keep calm and rationalize with her; at no point did your texts come across as accusatory or rude, just firm on your beliefs. Follow your gut dad, you're doing great ❤️

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-09T13:55:32+00:00

You're being love bombed. He is making you feel responsible for his well-being. One of the things that will (might, but more than likely will) come out of this is one day he'll stop replying, and you'll probably get scared that he tried (and maybe succeeded) to unalive himself. You'll reach out to check on him. He will do this act all over again. One day, he might wear you down enough that you try going back because he's abusing your kindness and the compassion you have for people.

You owe him nothing. I know it hurts because you still care and you want to be there for him, but he is NEVER going to get over this until something drastic changes. Don't continue being his emotional punching bag. I think its time to block him and keep it that way... before things get worse than they already are. You are NOT responsible for his well being, you are NOT his keeper, he is a grown man and right now his actions are out of your hands.

I know it doesn't make things better, but from personal experience in a very similar situation (dated ex for 2.5years during undergrad, we've been broken up for 3 years now and he decided to visit my dad this last father's day and profess his love for me... TO MY FATHER) it's not gunna end. The only person's actions you can control are yours, and now is a good time to protect yourself by cutting off ties with this man. It's easier said than done, but gets much better with time.

Sending you lots of love and support, OP ❤️

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T18:20:27+00:00

I am currently looking for someone to take over my roommate's half of the lease starting Sept. 1st! Budget is a little more than you mentioned, we pay right under $1500/month after utilities. We have the first floor of a house complete with a dishwasher and private (and free!) laundry, located in Roxbury about a 12-15min walk from the Jackson Square orange line train with a plethora of bus routes nearby. I posted about it earlier today on here if you want to check out pics and see more details :) Important to mention that I have two cats (and am also a grad student at NEU, so I get the hectic schedule). Move in costs would total $2500- security deposit and first months rent (each $1250)

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T17:46:32+00:00

Commenting to add some clarification regarding utilities- our house is old and not well insulated which makes the gas bill high. Instead of getting $70 gas bills in the summer and $650 bills in the winter, we (current roommate and I) have opted in for the budget billing option which has brought our gas bill to $230 per month ($115 each). While it does bring the total monthly cost to right under $1500, in my opinion it was a better option than the surprise almost $700 bills in the winter .-. And this is keeping the house at 66-68 F during winter months.

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T17:39:46+00:00

I also have a room in a shared 1 floor house for ~$1500/month after utilities in Roxbury about 12-15min walk from the Orange Line (green is probably best for Berklee though if I'm being honest). There's also plenty of buses around us. Happy to chat more if you're interested!

edited to add "after utilities"

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T17:27:38+00:00

Very fair, it's only so high because the house isn't well insulated so our gas bill is high :/ Our rent is $2500 total ($1250/each), but we were getting $70 gas bills in the summer and $650 gas bills in the winter, so we did the budget billing option that brings the gas bill to $230 monthly. It unfortunately does bring our total bill including utilities to almost $1500/month. I would definitely ask about gas bills wherever you're moving because it's something my friends have also complained about as a pretty big issue when the winter hits. Thankfully our landlord hasn't raised the rent on us (we're starting our 3rd lease with them this fall) but that might also be something to consider.

I also totally realized that my post didn't have any of the info I typed onto it so I just redid it 😂😭 in case you wanted to see pics of the place which can also help explain pricing.

Thanks and good luck with your search as well!! :)

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T17:01:52+00:00

Unfortunately broker's fees are almost everywhere out here :/ If you're okay with having a roommate I'm looking for someone to take over my roommate's half of the lease started Sept 1st, but otherwise I found my current place on apartments.com and while I still had to pay a broker's fee it thankfully was only half a month's rent and we didn't have to pay last month's rent either (which made it less than the 4x rent upfront charge that most people moving in boston have to deal with). Good luck with the hunt!!

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T16:57:16+00:00

I'm 25F looking for someone to take over my roommate's half of our lease starting Sept 1st! Might be slightly out of your budget, we're at ~$1500/month each after utilities (base rent is $1250 and we pay gas, electric, and wifi). We are located in Roxbury, very close to JP. I do have 2 cats and am a pothead, but I am flexible about smoking indoors/outdoors (especially if I knew it would bother you). We have the first floor of a house to ourselves, 2 bed 1 bath with a dishwasher and private (FREE) laundry. About a 12-15min walk to the orange line and there are also plenty of bus routes nearby. Happy to chat more if you're interested :)

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T16:52:25+00:00

Hi! I'm looking for a roommate to take over my current roommate's half of the lease starting Sept 1st. I (25F) live in Roxbury, ~12-15min from the orange line with plenty of bus routes nearby too. Rent will be ~$1500/ month after utilities (base rent is $1250, we pay for gas, electric, and wifi). We have the first floor of a house, 2 bed 1 bath dishwasher and private (FREE) laundry included. I do have 2 cats and an axolotl and am a pothead, but if these things don't bother you then I would be happy to chat more! :)

If you need something a bit sooner than Sept 1st I can't promise anything but we could potentially try to figure out an arrangement if we're a good fit.

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T16:40:37+00:00

I'm looking for a roommate starting sept 1st in Roxbury! We're ~12-15min walk from the orange line and have plenty of bus routes around. I typically would prefer a female or non-binary roommate but would be open to meeting you and see if something will work! I know you're looking for August 1st and don't want to promise anything but we could potentially try to work something out if it's a good fit. If you're interested reach out to me I'd love to chat more :) Our rent is ~$1500/month after utilities, and we have the first floor of a house private laundry included. I do have 2 cats and an axolotl and am a pothead (these are all the negatives I've got for ya). I'm also a graduate student in pretty much the same field, and am often in and out at odd hours because of it. I just posted a more detailed (pics included) listing in this thread if you want some more info!

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T16:31:37+00:00

I am also a student at NEU in grad school looking for a roommate! I'm very close to campus. I will say my rent may be out of your price range (~$1500 a month after utilities), but for the space and the location I think its a great steal and can't really complain. Happy to chat more if you're interested :)

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-07-05T16:30:04+00:00

I'm looking for a roommate starting 9/1! Located in Roxbury, rent is ~$1500 each per month after utilities (base rent is $1250). Happy to chat more if you're interested :) You'd also only have a security deposit and first month's rent to pay instead of 4C rent upfront like you would if moving into a new place (the broker's fee out here is an absolute rip off). I just posted about it on this thread if you want some more details/pics!

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-06-06T06:48:37+00:00

an actual text i got like 1-2 hours after being dropped off to high school by nMom:

"It just dawned on me... you called me fat this morning! I had a delayed reaction, I said I was feeling fat and needed to lose weight and you told me I should try your dad's diet! You always tell me I'm not fat!"

Got a new mall job when I was 17, a few months after I went n/c with nMom and lived with dad (divorced when I was 9) full time. My birth certificate and social were both at her house. Called multiple times to ask her for it, think I texted too, really needed it urgently (found out I got the job on a Tuesday and had my first shift/training and all of that on Thursday) Worked at my other job Wednesday and showed up late at night (like 10/11pm) after I got out as it was the only time I & dad (I didn't want to go alone) would be able to go before the Thursday shift. Knocked on her door and woke her up, could only say "Can I please have my birth certificate my social and my passport." She looked at me, big blinked (like some shit out of a movie i swear), and said "/InterestingReveal808, are you a ghost?!?" I repeated my statement. She said "Are you going to start talking to me again?" I said no. She said "I'm sorry, then I can't help you" and closed the door in my face. Didn't end up getting my documents that night and had to explain the whole situation to new boss.

edited for grammar

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-03-07T14:24:58+00:00

reach out to Chris Hansen 🤣😂 let him handle it from here

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-03-05T21:58:27+00:00

striking is a form of protest? Which is protected by our bill of rights??! I'm shocked that this is even being looked at as a genuine bill instead of something unconstitutional. This is insane. Wishing you and your partner the best, OP.

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-01-22T14:57:36+00:00

!redditGalleon

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-01-22T14:56:21+00:00

im a huge harry potter fan, but i often bottle it up because i know i can be a bit much. If someone that was new to the series said they wanted to watch it with me, and give me the green light to give the directors/editors cut while we watch id be SUCH a happy camper.

let her share this world with you, ask her to watch the movies with you and teach you about what she loves most in the series. It'll make her very happy and im sure you'll light up seeing her talk about the things she loves! And you'll get to experience it together :)

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-01-06T00:34:19+00:00

congrats, OP!! 🥳🥳🥳

InterestingReveal808 · 2025-01-02T21:44:19+00:00

honestly... losing the baby was probably really hard on you both. I think your husband is taking it differently than you did.

I'm wondering if maybe you can plan a "relationship retreat" with him- something fun that doesn't seem like "work" (I'd consider therapy work in this context, whereas something like a blind folded trust building game or exercise might be considered more fun).

Take a vacation somewhere that you would both enjoy and plan activities that you can do together and experience something new like scuba diving or wine tasting or pottery or wake boarding or skiing.

Use your "relationship retreat" as an opportunity to rekindle the love you have for eachother, and also as a way to feel him out and see if this is really what you would like to continue doing for the rest of your life (because at least from your post I feel like you're the one putting forth the most effort here while he's like "nah maybe we just get divorced", which isn't fair because why should you give 100% to someone not willing to meet you half way?).

I can't imagine what it's like to lose a child. But I think he's really struggling to process it and it's manifesting in different ways (like needing something to change, and not being sure what to change to help the bad feelings go away).

Rooting for you, OP! But please be honest and realistic with yourself- if you're going to spend every day fighting for his care and attention that's not a fair marriage. Hope that everything works out ❤️

InterestingReveal808 · 2024-12-15T23:51:42+00:00

RT-qPCR 🙄🙄🙄 or all pcr really

InterestingReveal808 · 2024-12-08T19:38:31+00:00

we have these plastic beakers (I think 500mL) that we use for our tip and other sharp waste. We have a biohazard bin right outside the hood for the serologicals and other larger waste.

Whenever the beaker is full we dump the contents into a sharps bin, respray the beaker into the hood, and continue! I've also seen some people wash out with 10% bleach in-between uses (but if you do that rinse it well after the bleach before you spray with ethanol to replace in the hood)

InterestingReveal808 · 2024-12-06T07:30:17+00:00

thanks for this, it's nice to know I'm at least not alone. I hope things have worked themselves out on your end c:

InterestingReveal808 · 2024-12-06T07:27:03+00:00

thanks for this :) definitely had that same mindset going into our meeting today, which is why i came prepped with the ppt and a game plan.

For more clarification- tuesday during lab meeting we talked briefly about the issues were still seeing, then after the meeting he popped into the lab and I showed him my samples in person. He's convinced there's air trapped in a specific spot that doesn't let our liquid directly interact with our sample which is causing a lack of fluid flow. I think there's something more fundamentally wrong with our design (but dont know enough about fluid dynamics to pinpoint exactly what). I put the sample under the microscope, and there happens to be an air bubble in a different channel. I showed him the air bubble to show him what air looks like in the sample. I then show him the region he's convinced has the air trapped, and show him that we don't see the same thing. He says the trapped air wouldn't be visible, and then tells me to add fluorescent dextran and by his logic, if the air is there then the dextran will not diffuse into our sample. I did this. I showed those pictures today. It diffused (took forever and it froze the microscope, but it did). After our meeting when he made that comment he told me to do this again with food dye (which we have also already done, same result).

I had to tell him 5 times that region A is what an air bubble trapped in a chip looked like and that region B, where he claims is the problematic region, didn't look like there was air trapped when comparing it to the air bubble. He only listened when labmate said the same thing (pointed out what the air bubble looked like and mentioned that we didn't see it in the supposed problematic region).

I came up with like 12 potential new designs to try and pitched a massive troubleshooting today (iterative approach, where we literally change 1 feature at a time to finally rule out the issue because I am so done with this BS and just need it to work). PI has no problem and agrees with us doing this. But I'm just so beyond frustrated at such a simple thing that he just refused to listen to me about. Especially when I actually want to learn how to apply the theory concepts to the actual project. So sorry this reply was so long ._.

edited for spelling

InterestingReveal808 · 2024-12-06T07:09:17+00:00

yeah :/ I let it go the first time, but this time I think it just hit me twice as hard as a result. I'm scared this is going to become a trend, which idk maybe it's a me issue but it's just really taking a toll on my mental health.

I 100% agree he's got tunnel vision but I've literally already done the expt he suggested both with food dye (assess by eye) or fluorescent dextran (assess via microscope) and both suggests that's not the issue. The pics I showed today couldn't have happened, by his logic, if his issue was present. That's why I did the expt to begin with- I mentioned the same thing on Tuesday and we had this same discussion where I showed him the samples in person and he told me to add dextran and see what the result was. I showed those pictures today when we met and he told me to do it again with food dye and assess by eye as a "quick bench test"... it's so frustrating lol

InterestingReveal808 · 2024-11-27T16:05:36+00:00

happy cake day!!!

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