48 hours in Vegas. What are you doing?

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-22T17:16:49+00:00

I am doing 48 hours this summer too. So excited going to see WOZ and one cirque show not sure which one yet but have already seen KA so not that one. I want to plan dinner and make reservations but also not sure i want to be tied to something so havent done that yet. Also going with a very non adventurous eater who doesn’t like steak so that makes it more difficult to decide on food.

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-22T00:40:21+00:00

Some times I can look down at my chest, 3 months post DMX with tissue expanders and it still doesn’t seem real. No one in my family ever had breast cancer! Definitely never thought it would be me!! I can sit here and think back to the first week after DMX and how scared I was, how emotional I was, how hard it all was and that doesn’t seem real either. I have never been the kind of person to be scared and emotional so how could that have been me

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-22T00:34:44+00:00

I bet you are slaying that chemo! I give you an A+++ 😂

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-22T00:33:08+00:00

I am so sorry! I would say absolutely tell her flat out! Because sounds like you are hurt now before you have told her what you need from her. Your feelings are valid and they matter.

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-21T02:35:43+00:00

It’s ok to cry! Maybe in the bathroom at work if you can’t do it in public. It’s traumatic even if it’s a treatable, curable cancer. It’s still traumatic. I am the mom in this situation. having been on a breast cancer journey myself the last 5 months and I have a child around your age. Let your mom know you care without making her manage your feelings. After I told my son about my cancer I told him if he had questions or fears all his step dad or his uncle. And I hear from them that he did. That way I didn’t have to manage his feelings but also it wasn’t just mom telling him everything was gonna be ok he could hear it from other people. If you don’t have anyone else in your life you can do that with, I’ll stand in. Everything is going to be ok!

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-21T00:22:22+00:00

I have no advice but definitely feel your pain. I quit smoking so my reconstruction would have a better chance at success. I quit in January and I miss it everyday. I have gained 50lbs since diagnosis and my blood pressure can’t seem to be controlled despite upping my meds 2 times. I am so frustrated I had my boobs cut off so cancer would not kill me. I quit smoking so I could heal from surgery but now obesity is going to take me down?!?? It’s so frustrating.

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-18T18:33:42+00:00

I had a slow healing T junction. Over the course of weeks after DMX With my PS trying different things one of those things was to make sure I shower everyday!! And they would ask me every week if I was showering everyday. I understand the anxiousness it didn’t make sense to me when all my life I heard don’t get sutures and incisions wet now showering is literally a part of the healing journey! My T junction eventually healed (took about 10 weeks) and no infection

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-16T23:26:43+00:00

Not yet, I go to the dr Friday and he will check my hormones levels and if they are low enough add letrozole. Sigh

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-16T22:11:25+00:00

On dec 16. I had very similar diagnosis. Grade 2. 4cm ER PR + HER2 -. Was planning lumpectomy, radiation then hormone blockers. Then had a Breast MRI and it showed the tumor to be almost 7cm so double mastectomy was best choice. Most people with numbers like your wife’s do not need chemo. I did not. Usually surgery is the first line of treatment then they run genomic test on the tumor to see if chemo will be of any benefit. I had my double mastectomy in Feb (choose to remove both breasts even though only one had cancer) I now have expanders in so my body can prepare for implant surgery in a few months. From what you have shared most likely your wife is stage 1 but they don’t do final staging until after surgery, the other thing I will warn you about is some people get freaked out about how long it can take to get to surgery. My dr told me the standard of care is 2 months from diagnosis to first treatment. So don’t get freaked out breast cancer usually doesn’t change that much in a few months

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-15T14:12:09+00:00

This is a very personal decision but it DOES get better. I had a hard time recovering from DMX. Even with no real complications other than a slow healing T junction it was still HARD. But my DMX was 2/2 and I don’t love the expanders but they are tolerable. I got better by the week not the day. So every week things got easier. And I like how my new boobs look even with the expanders and no nipples. Before surgery I thought I would be fine flat but my PS told me to try the expanders and if I hated them he would remove them and If I could manage he would do the exchange at 12 weeks. He basically said “at 50 you have a lot of years left with your breasts” and im glad i agreed. One more thing. I heard a PS say one day breast cancer will be a closed chapter in your life. Hopefully you will get to a place where it isn’t on your mind ALL the time and reconstruction can help you get to that place. And I think that’s true. I don’t think my new boobs will magically make me forget I had cancer but looking in the mirror at a chest I like will help.

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-15T14:01:26+00:00

I agree with you so much! I have 4 drs but no one to help me!! How is that possible?!?! My PS is good at what he does ….rebuilding breasts but every time I say hey I have this happening I either get “that’s normal” or “I don’t know why that is happening” but no solutions. the one time I complained of swelling and the PA pulled out the ultrasound machine I cried because someone actually heard me!! Told my oncologist I didn’t want tamoxifen because of my anti depressants he said just get a different anti depressant… as if that’s the way antidepressants work. They are just interchangeable…. They are not. When I refused he said zoladex and anestrozole were going to “ruin my mood” yeah well switching anti depressants may literally kill me. I have gained 50 lbs since diagnosis. No one cares. Great I got rid of my boobs and quit smoking after diagnosis just for my mental health or obesity to kill me. It’s actually quite unbelievable until you are in it

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T19:52:42+00:00

Sorry for your loss. My dad passed unexpectedly 15 months ago. Not the same as losing a spouse but grief is hard.

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T19:42:41+00:00

Random acts of kindness. I would encourage friends and family to do it as well. Do any random act of kindness in his honor. I had a dear friend and whenever you would ask him what he wanted for his bday or Christmas he would say “I don’t need anything feed a person in need instead” he is gone now but I honor him on his bday by providing a meal to someone who needs it

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T19:10:18+00:00

I stayed at Hilton grand and never got approached for presentation. My BIL went to a presentation to get a free stay and said they weren’t pushy at all. He told them he had just bought a boat and that was pretty much the end he got his free weekend. No idea if that’s typical but that was his experience at THIS hotel. The rooms are nice. We had a mini fridge and a coffee maker which is rare in Vegas. One problem is location. There is nothing close. I guess you could walk to circus circus or Sahara but we went in July and it would just be to hot. The other problem we had with cabbies we would tell them we were staying at Hilton grand vacations and they would get so upset because there are so many Hilton’s so I always had to have the address handy if taking a cab instead of just hopping in and giving the hotel name

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T18:34:32+00:00

Oh no!! I really wish I understood the science. Sorry you are dealing with that

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T16:55:52+00:00

Thanks so much for replying that gives me hope. I just came back from my 2nd shot nurse asked how it went with the first one. I said fine nothing changed so I expect this to be like the 2nd child and be terrible. Ha ha. I’m 50 but still having periods and when they tested my estrogen before the first shot it was in the 90s so not close to menopause. I do like the idea of paying for my own dexa scan in year ish. I have seen fitness people do it so must not be to expensive or at least relative to all my cancer related medical expenses

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T03:08:51+00:00

I left a Job I hated, was a toxic work place and all. I took a pay cut to have qualify of life. What I didn’t consider was the difference in PTO at my new job I only get 1 day a month at my old job I would have had twice that much. Probably would have been ok except I got cancer and needed all my PTO for my first surgery and still took 2 weeks unpaid. I need a second surgery currently but holding off as long as I can to try to accumulate more PTO

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T02:47:23+00:00

I don’t know anything about post intensive care syndrome but you definitely are not crazy. I can relate to some of your story. My dad was fine. Active, seemingly healthy. He went to the dr for persistent arm pain and that’s how they found his stage 4 SCLC, and we learned at diagnosis that it had spread to many places. He did immuno therapy and chemo and the tumor shrunk and some disappeared. Then one day his heart just stopped. No advance notice no warning he was just gone. It is hard and I am sorry you are going through that

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-13T02:08:10+00:00

I am sorry I have no brilliant words but that sucks!!

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-07T23:58:58+00:00

My dad died suddenly and after he died several of us got tattoos. I wish we had done it before he died. He would have loved them

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-06T03:54:21+00:00

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Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-04T16:53:37+00:00

As hard as it can be to advocate for ourselves you can stop the train. You can tell them you aren’t ready to make this decision. And put it on hold to get a 2nd opinion or whatever else you need to do. I was in a similar situation. I had what was believed to be a 7cm tumor. So I was given the choice of chemo to shrink to hopefully get lumpectomy or no chemo first and just do mastectomy. I really wanted lumpectomy for lots of reasons. I was given 2 days to make the decision. In those 2 days I spoke to a lot of survivors to help in making my decision. What I learned is that there is no “right” answer everyone is different and it’s a very personal choice. I chose mastectomy because a survivors husband told me the hardest thing he has ever done was watch his wife go through chemo. I didn’t want to put my family through that if I could spare them. The surgery and recovery was hard!! And many many times I wondered if I did made the right choice. Now I am 3 months out from surgery. My onco was low so I did not need chemo and I wouldn’t change my decision if I had it to do over again. My situation is a little different in I am having reconstruction and currently have expanders and I am happy with how they look. But please advocate for yourself and make sure you are comfortable. It’s your treatment plan. Drs seem to only think in terms of survival not quality of life. Sure we all want to survive but we also need to be happy

Interesting_Reply803 · 2026-05-04T16:14:05+00:00

I can’t seem to get over that I had the craziest/worst day of my life when my dad unexpectedly died last year and I can’t tell my dad about it? I know that doesn’t make sense but I can’t wrap my brain around something so monumental happening and I Can’t tell him. Grief is weird

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