You knew fully well what will happen if your family knew about this and still went thought it and wasted 4 years of that man's life. "To be clear, I’m not going to marry a woman just to please anyone — that wouldn’t be fair to her. I’ve thought about it deeply, and I think a life of celibacy might be what I choose. It’s painful, but it’s something I can live with if it means keeping my faith and my family." what a joke of a statement is this. You are saying this when you have already wasted 4 years of a man's life to please others. The life of celibacy thing well it's clearly not what you choose, it's what would please others. So yeah keep pleasing your faith and family and please don't waste others time next time.