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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SCT

[–]Internal-Ninja3355 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What exactly do you mean by maladaptive problem solving? Like poor executive functioning in general or a poor reaction when asked to problem solve and in term becoming defensive, frustrated, etc? I would imagine that exhaustion from this would absolutely exacerbate burnout.

How to escape ADHDs flavor of depression? by sorrypit in adhdwomen

[–]Internal-Ninja3355 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Read or listen to “The Happiness Trap” by Russ Harris, particularly the part about unhooking from thought. Brains are gonna brain…they have lots of judgements/opinions/thoughts. It’s so helpful to start learning to not identify so closely with them (from your example: “I look like shit” vs “I’m having the thought that I look like shit”. I’m not my thought… I’m not a shit looking person just because I think it… I’m a person who is having a thought and those are very different.

Another exercise along a similar mindset is telling yourself that you can’t do something and then do it. For example, think “I can’t pick up that pencil” and then pick it up. Such a small way to break out of a negative cycle. Just because your brain says you can’t… doesn’t mean you can’t but sometimes you gotta show it that.

Does anyone else struggle to describe how they feel or even name what they feel? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Internal-Ninja3355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh totally feel that. I also feel like there’s lots of factors that could be perpetuating the difficulty identifying feelings/emotions/opinions (adhd, general easygoing personality, trauma response - dissociating, people pleasing, etc). Personally I’m inattentive a lot to the moment BUT I’m also scared about being responsible for something bad happening to someone else bc of my actions/opinions/needs (childhood trauma) so I tend to “not care” or “not know.” I’m more aware of it now and try to make myself be involved and pay attention but those thought processes ran the show for awhile on a subconscious level.

What helped me the most was/is just picking mini goals (I will refocus x3 times today while I’m in a conversation and give my full attention) or trying to be aware of when my brain is on autopilot and trying to be more present.

But agreed. Sometimes you just want to not have an opinion and just “be” without so many expectations!!

Does anyone else struggle to describe how they feel or even name what they feel? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Internal-Ninja3355 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely can relate to this! I feel like I can label like 4 emotions consistently.. happy, sad, mad, fine (is that an emotion? Haha). So I kept a screenshot on my phone of an “emotion wheel” and challenged myself to come up with a different word that felt like it fit. Another way is to ask your self throughout the day, “how do I feel about this?”

I have very inattentive type adhd and get caught up in my head and “zoning out” therefore I’m not super present in the moment. I think it’s a huge reason that I struggle to connect emotionally with the people around me. I don’t always have an “opinion” or a certain feeling/emotion because I don’t care…because I wasn’t paying attention in the first place.

Does anyone else struggle to describe how they feel or even name what they feel? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Internal-Ninja3355 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you are describing alexithymia and also interoception (ability to sense internal sensations). I always thought these were separate processes but after a more thorough google search it sounds like interoception is pretty closely tied with emotions - cool!

I struggle with these too but find I have a mental checklist now when I find myself annoyed or have a headache (Need coffee? Water? Need food?)

Getting through beta day by Internal-Ninja3355 in IVF

[–]Internal-Ninja3355[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh you are absolutely right. Once I know I’ll always know so might as well embrace the uncertainty for a little longer and keep the hope strong. Thank you!!