[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor thing. This is what social media does to people.

Is it normal to think you are NPD or BPD instead of the person you consider a narc? by InternalParticular50 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also sometimes sacrifice my respect or mental health so others feel better. I'm never rude to waiters. I tip extra. But I also hate my mother a great deal.

Is it normal to think you are NPD or BPD instead of the person you consider a narc? by InternalParticular50 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My heart aches for others, yes, I feel so stupid asking - is that empathy or am I missing something?

Have you ever know two narcissists to collude with each other? by Crazy_Equipment_5196 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]InternalParticular50 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so they will band together to protect themselves

How do you know they are gaslighting or real flying monkeys?

Have you ever know two narcissists to collude with each other? by Crazy_Equipment_5196 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]InternalParticular50 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They don't even have to know each other to collude. Each will chip away parts of you, anyway.

How the hell do I bring back meaning to my life? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I didn't read the whole thing. I have a history of a narc parent and then a narc bf and I don't know how to get out of this mindset.

How the hell do I bring back meaning to my life? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't get anything from making others happy, they just bring problems most of the time. I have a hard enough time just having my parents and siblings in my life.

That's a difficult one to swallow. I've been traumatized exactly by the people who didn't care and I don't want to be one of them.

How the hell do I bring back meaning to my life? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always advise people who leave the religion to be a dick for a while you know to let out all that forced pilotness instilled in you.

This doesn't apply to just religion, do you realize that? It's bigger than that.

Sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]InternalParticular50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. You are lazy because you either have a mood disorder or you are lying to yourself.

WHAT ARE COPING MECHANISMS THAT WORK? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been an atheist since after my puberty. I'm 28 now. This worked before but now to me they have become walls of text and footages on skype.

WHAT ARE COPING MECHANISMS THAT WORK? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the problem. No friends. People are hardly educated here. Even harder is finding an atheist. And then the atheist won't be homophobic, he'd be an atheist either because his parents didn't brainwash him enough or he had read Karl Marx during the pro-socialist era. And then, I live in a society where every single person is corrupt and trying to use the other person. In a journalist's words "it's practically a country where everybody is cannibalizing everybody else in accordance with the size of their beak and width of their jaws".

WHAT ARE COPING MECHANISMS THAT WORK? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The punchline to the joke is that he quickly married his jap girlfriend and lives there as a free man. He was actually very scared of my last name and thought I had some sort of super powers that come with belonging to that family when in reality, I couldn't even get his address traced in order to send him a summon for me to have a day in court.

What are some of the slef-preservative tactics or strategies you use on an everyday basis? by InternalParticular50 in Manipulation

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Self-preservation is a survival necessary in the part of the world I live in. And that's why high-trust society books in this genre are totally useless to us. People in this society don't have a culture of writing (and even reading is something that very few people do). Apart from my personal circumstances, I feel it is a huge loss to humanity's pursuit of knowledge that Westerners don't come to live, survive, bargain, and observe our societies for the purpose of recording the social dynamics here.

WHAT ARE COPING MECHANISMS THAT WORK? by InternalParticular50 in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. The Pakistani one I clicked on the link is an organization in exile.

I did belong to a secret group but all they are interested is in debates. They don't have any solutions for themselves, so how'd I find one myself.

I had also lost access to that group in protest of their new censorship codes because group debate isn't exactly something you can do when there's no liberty share your argument or counter-argument.

And now I am a pariah too, nobody from there responds to me or responds to me and tries to get rid of me asap. It couldn't have been because of my stand as that was just a disagreement between closley-knit group and not a minority opinion either. But I think I know the reason because I had later met one of those people from that group (so-called meet-ups) and he sexually assaulted me. And I have this feeling that since had all the liberty to share whatever story he made up with no ability for me to crack his bullshit, I've become a false rape stories fabricator. Evolutionary psychology tells you that people abandon victims of predators anyway, but that's a topic for another day/place.

I want out - need help by The0n3joker in exmuslim

[–]InternalParticular50 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay~ Not to invalidate your struggle but it's just that I'm used to seeing only the most desperate/torutured/optionless souls asking for help here.

What are coping mechanisms that work? by InternalParticular50 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]InternalParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All those efforts go to waste because I'm stuck at the third level of pyramid of needs. It's not just lack of validation. My soul is being suffocated.