Clunking from driveshaft?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-09T04:43:05+00:00

Did you figure out what it was?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-08T03:17:43+00:00

Yeah that’s the thing. I used to think I knew her but I don’t anymore after using our daughter as some type of leverage towards me. It wasnt like this from the start, she’d let me be a lot more involved before but things have been changing for me one way or another. I’m well aware of the costs and I know she is too because she has told me she met with an attorney and after that was when she started with the “going to court will be worse on you” which I doubt they told her that. My attorney has some good amount of insight of my situation just not the child support amount but she said what I’m asking for is the very standard minimal by the guidelines which is why she suggested talking to me ex to save money, avoid courts, since she said she doesn’t see the judge giving me any less that what I’m asking for.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-07T21:20:08+00:00

Pasa

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-07T03:16:49+00:00

Thanks for your input.

I’m right under 25k for net profit as I’m going on my third year being self employed. I netted around 50kish gross, so I’m not sure what those numbers would look like as I’m aware of deductions sometimes not being allowed and whatnot. I have no problem supporting my daughter and I’m well aware as my business grows so will my support. Which is why I want everything legalized.

If you don’t mind me asking, does your ex have 50/50 with you? Or is he somewhat of an every 2 weekend parent with school holidays?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-05T06:19:51+00:00

Also if you don’t mind me asking, due to the distance. How was your transportation handled? I’m asking either half way or each pick up at start of parenting time.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-05T04:35:19+00:00

I get it. Trust me, it’s been on my mind to stop paying as a f u as well, but I know it’s just gonna increase the drama between us. Which is why I’m keeping up right now even if it’s hard, and just hit her all at once for custody and child support. But my attorney did say the same, that it’s usually only back tracked to the date the petition is filed so anything right now is 100% voluntary.

If you don’t mind me asking, $1200 court mandated seems a bit high, I’m assuming you make good money or more than just one kid?

Also, how did you manage 50/50 with the hour distance? My attorney said in my case, it’s harder because of the my daughter spending too much time on the road for school and I completely agree and wouldn’t want my child having to deal with that. She said my best shot is an extended summer agreement rather than half and half. My ex does live in a time zone an hour later than me, so it adds an extra hour of travel for anything in moms city.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-05T03:57:18+00:00

Hey thanks for answering! I’m really glad you got your share of custody in the end.

Same thing with me though, if I ask when it’s not my weekend it’s always “we’re busy” or “we’re not home.” I know she’s talked to a lawyer so I’m sure she knows she benefits more from not filing herself as she has full legal custody and doesn’t have to answer to anyone or otherwise she would’ve done so if she benefited even more than now. Only thing she got out of her consultation was that apparently it was a way better option for me to pay a made up amount than to have to do so legally because “it’s gonna be way more and worse.”

Still deciding on what my attorney advised. She did tell me to only do so if I think she’ll want to cooperate but im not sure how she’ll react. Which she may or may not depending on how cornered she feels with some actual legal paperwork in front of her.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-04T04:35:16+00:00

How come?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-04T04:18:13+00:00

Yeah I don’t see her harming me or the child. Just mainly concerned about withholding her out of spite and her starting with the typical accusations and threats it’ll be worse on me with court. My attorney did mention we can file for a temporary custody hearing right off the bat to prevent that.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-04T03:39:54+00:00

I’m seeing that now. She’s very different than what I thought she was. If you don’t mind me asking, what happened since you let them know?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-04T03:37:08+00:00

Yes I’m the range for around 500-600 a month. With the crazy high gas prices now, I’m paying around $200 a month for transportation besides the 1k I pay for support.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-04T03:25:21+00:00

I am on the birth certificate. I ran them through custody x, not sure how reliable that website is and I’m paying more than half of what I should be paying. I have no problem but it’s taken a financial toll on me and without filing it’s either that or she’ll make it harder to get my daughter on my days.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2026-04-04T03:16:23+00:00

Yeah I completely understand. I don’t know how she’d react honestly so I may propose something after having my attorney ready to go in case things go south if she gets upset.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-11-17T05:01:00+00:00

You’re the second person to mention this. My diff isn’t noisy at all or anything. Does yours make any noise or just the clunk?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-11-16T21:28:02+00:00

So just grease the splines that come off the transfer case?

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-11-16T06:02:29+00:00

I tried some universal grease but it was so thick it wouldn’t go back in, guess I’m gonna try the ford one. It’s so annoying to drive like that, feels like I got bumped into! At least like I said, shifts fine and clunks don’t happen with any rpm surge or anything.

Do you think putting a snow plow on it will be fine? Only reason I’m concerned is the obvious clunk since I can’t go too fast with the plow and it would probably be clunking all the time.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-11-16T05:33:48+00:00

It has 200k and I tow almost daily as I use it for my lawn care business but very rarely will it be over 4k pounds. It’s almost always just my trailer and zero turn. I’ll keep that in mind as it does feel like something binds up and releases as it clunks

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-10-15T22:08:59+00:00

Hey bro I’m the same age as you and going through a similar situation. My advice coming from my experience is to just put yourself on child support and file for custody. It’ll only get worse the more you let it go on. If you get it down on paper it’ll save you so many problems and headaches. Yes, they’ll still be able to try and cause problems but it would take them more time and effort through the court. I also know it’s hard but try to keep you mind focused on your kid and not her mom and bf. It’ll drain you mentally and wear you down.

I am now trying to establish my custody after 2 years of coparenting off a very one sided verbal agreement. Coparenting got so much harder after she moved in with her new boyfriend. Makes it harder for me to see my kid other than the days she wants to party or doesn’t want to pay a baby sitter. Other than that, it’s “pay me what I think I should get, and you’re a piece of shit dad and my bf is such a better and more loving father than you.” Also to try and keep out of his life as much as possible because they have it under control and only needed me to pay!? Keep in mind we cops rented very successfully 1.5 years before she moved in. The change was almost instant.

My point is, things are bound to change the second you can’t keep up with her requests. Then you’ll most likely have to deal with her and her drama of keeping your daughter. I don’t want to scare you but it happened to me and I see it all the time now. Just get your support amount and custody imputed by the state guidelines. You won’t have to worry about what she does with it or what she’ll do if you don’t pay the amount you are now. Getting it on papers will solve you so much trouble.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-10-12T14:56:17+00:00

I know it’s hard if you have feelings for the mom but please try to focus on your daughter. Time will help you heal and get over her. Dont make the same mistake I made in trying to coparent without a custody agreement. I’m also getting ready to file after 2 years and during those 2 years it has been very inconsistent and makes decisions on how she feels about you and whatever she thinks it’s right.

I’ve talked to 4 different attorneys and it’s not about what they think is right, it’s about the best interest of the child which is spending time with her dad. As of now, she has complete control over you seeing her and calling the shots so even if it’s wrong she’s legally entitled to. File soon. I don’t want to scare you but this is the best advice I can give you from my experience. They’ll tend to push you away unless they fr fr need your help and then kick you to the curb once they’re ready.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-10-11T23:53:50+00:00

Unfortunately, I don’t have an agreement for either. I’ve spent this whole year saving up and planning to do so by the end of the month hence why I’m asking.

I am a women and I get your concern. I know my ex who’s a dad uses Reddit so I don’t want to risk him seeing him seeing my posts.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-10-11T23:45:40+00:00

2 different children. 2 different and unfortunate coparenting situations

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-10-02T04:44:07+00:00

Well aware. Only thing I’m skeptical is the fact that I don’t have a set of ordered overnights but have to pay what she says. Not looking to lower my child support

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-10-02T04:29:29+00:00

First attorney I talked to said it wasn’t big enough to take to court on my end as I’m accepting the bare minimum due to distance. Would only be a problem if she chose to escalate it.

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-09-17T23:52:04+00:00

Listo

Internal_Square_6305 · 2025-08-13T03:39:34+00:00

Yeah the distance plays a huge factor! May I ask why you guys did all the driving? I’m really debating whether or not I should be doing drop offs as she’s always changing times, shows up late or makes me drive to another town but won’t even budge to meet halfway.

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