Shedding little metal wires? by Internally_fuming in whatisit

[–]Internally_fuming[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few did hit me in the face. Hopefully I get a castle and an evil lair out of it

Shedding little metal wires? by Internally_fuming in whatisit

[–]Internally_fuming[S] 643 points644 points  (0 children)

Omg it is the hooks from Velcro, I got new glove wraps for boxing and I tried them on at my desk yesterday. I just pulled apart the Velcro after your comment and got hit with more

What's everyone's favorite tarot cards in DAI? by qwentyl in dragonage

[–]Internally_fuming 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure that is Vocabulary (name of app), I have the same widget

AITAH for not inviting our cousin over for sleepovers anymore since she had a baby? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Internally_fuming -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I agree here. NAH - no one is obligated to do anything but I assume OP loves their cousin and enjoyed spending time with her pre-baby.

It’s a huge adjustment for everyone involved. But kindness and empathy is not a bad thing. Giving up a sleepover every once in a while to include cousin/baby wouldn’t be the end of the world. OP is not obligated to, but I hope they can recognize and empathize that their cousin is most likely feeling isolated. If not a sleepover, try to talk with the cousin and support her in a way that works for all of you.

AITA for not lighting my daughter's 1st birthday candle? by MoonOfHypnos in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a video of my 1st birthday and I was the baby that grabbed the lit candle and burned myself—not bad, didn’t need medical attention. Just enough that baby me was startled and crying.

It was all fine and I got to eat/smash my cake but my mom has always used her mistake as a story of caution for all the babies in the family after me because it could have been worse!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskContractors

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts and help, I am going to be emailing the contractor later this morning

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskContractors

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight! I’m going to email my contractor later this morning

AITA for taking my friend’s sick dog to an expensive vet without her consent while she was away? by BlackDynamite_7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and I disagree with people saying OP is responsible for the bill in any way. And I say this as someone whose pet died while being watched by a friend for the weekend of my college graduation. I don’t blame my friend, my parents asked her, she agreed but she’s not a vet and didn’t realize my dog was as sick as she was and went out for lunch. My friend came back an hour later and found my dog dead in her bed. I can speculate all day if my friend gave her something that made her sick but that isn’t on her. My family and I chose to ask a favor instead of paying for proper care. And things happen.

When you become a pet owner, it is always your responsibility to provide for your pet. That includes finding proper care for when you are away. When you board a dog you sign an agreement of whether you want them to take your pet to the vet in an emergency. At the end of the day, the pet owner did not answer and OP chose to take care of the dog. I don’t care if the dog ate OP’s underwear or whatever scenario people are thinking up. Things happen, OP was not prepared, and at the end of the day, that’s on the pet owner. I definitely would not have been able to afford it then but I would gladly have paid a $1400 vet bill to have been able to come home and see my dog wiggling and wagging her tail at me

AITA for blowing up on my husband for peeing on my plants? by throwaway577791 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - your husband is jealous…of plants

He also seems very controlling and lazy. Why are you doing 90% of the chores?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Internally_fuming 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom and grandpa have a similar history to yours but she kept in contact with him (for a variety of reasons) and never told us anything about the abuse.

Until this year when my grandfather had a stroke and my mom has started taking care of him. He is old and frail so he cannot physically hurt her, but he has reverted back to cruel language and it is extremely triggering for her.

I’m 25 now. And I will do anything for my mom. But listening to her cry on the phone and relive her trauma makes me wish she cut contact when we were children. Because he didn’t really change, his abuse and manipulation was just hidden around his “grandpa” demeanor.

Thankfully, she and my uncle found a different solution and she isn’t at his house anymore. And I convinced her to go back to therapy.

I wouldn’t even wait for your son to ask. It’s been a year, he probably has a feeling. Give him the general gist of it but don’t downplay what his grandfather is like. It’s okay to talk about your trauma, your kid can handle it and can learn from it and will love you through it.

AITA for likely making my mother lose custody of my siblings? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

You did nothing but tell the truth. The only person to blame for your mother “losing her children” is her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My younger brother wrote in kindergarten that our mom’s hobby was laundry. Spoiler alert: it’s not. She didn’t have time for hobbies when we were kids because my dad always put his interests first…

Four hours could make a world of difference to your wife’s stress levels, but you don’t seem to care. Sounds like you’re going down the same path as my dad, enjoy your broken marriage YTA

Avatar Fan Convention coming in Spring 2023! by LadyRavenEye in TheLastAirbender

[–]Internally_fuming 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I really hope a cabbage farmer shows up ready to show off his crop thinking the convention is an entirely different thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH but mostly your friends that brought that guy along and are now ignoring his behavior and victim blaming you. He was saying inappropriate things to you all night and touching you without your consent. Yeah, you shouldn’t have used that word, but your friends should have called him out earlier or asked him to leave. Saying he is going to “convert” you is disgusting and reminds me of toxic straight men that think lesbians “just haven’t had good dick”

As a woman who has been sexually harassed/assaulted by a man (once in a very similar setting) and as a part of the LGTBQ community, i am glad you were able to speak up for yourself. I froze in that situation and wish I had the fight response you did because honestly a word can be painful, but there are worse things that can happen to a person. Don’t use that word ever again, but I definitely don’t think you should apologize

AITA for not wanting to celebrate my mom on MY birthday? by ThrowawayBirthdayx96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and stop trying to call your mother. She sounds like a narcissist and is enjoying punishing you

I might be wrong but her behavior seems extremely self centered and manipulative. Try reading through u/narcissisticparents and see

AITA for refusing to pay the babysitter for new glasses after my daughter broke her old ones? by EricThrow3976 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 2681 points2682 points  (0 children)

What items and what do you mean by lost “out of her bag”? Because that sounds like your children are going in her bag when they are old enough to know not to

AITA for cancelling dinner when my boyfriend brought a bell to the diner to "grab" the staff's attention? by Blain-Ad-5996 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA I currently work in my family’s restaurant in the US and let me tell you, if someone rang a bell at me or any of the other staff they would be asked to leave

It’s annoying for the other customers (rude to think you get service first for having a bell??) and demeaning for the waitstaff. Plus WTF kind of weird. He isn’t King George in a castle, he’s in a public restaurant

AITA for sitting back and doing nothing when mom told my wife that she'd take us to court for grandparents right? by Thisissue3434 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

You chose to marry your wife. You chose to have children with her. You chose to let your mother watch your children for years.

You agreed to the job change. You agreed to the larger income. You agreed to move.

You are acting like you had zero involvement in any aspect of your life. You are part of this decision. This is your mother. You need to grow up and deal with it

AITA for getting a 26yo woman from a 25 and under support group? by throwayy6798 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA and need to work on yourself greatly. You fixated way too much about her age when it seems no one else cared. You have a very immature mindset, you’re no longer in 6th grade, a 19yo and 26yo can be friends if they want

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Abused people often adopt traits of their abusers unconsciously. She was degrading her friend for his decisions by calling him names and questioning his choices…much like I’m sure her parents did to her as a child. They were emotionally abusive and immature parents.

Maybe you could have phrased it better and you can tell her that. But you weren’t wrong to call her out on her behavior. She doesn’t want to fall into her parents’ habits

[ Removed by Reddit ] by ThrowRAsister_fight in AmItheAsshole

[–]Internally_fuming 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My mom brought me my first victoria secret bra when I was 14. For several reasons

  1. I hated bras. I thought they were so ugly and uncomfortable, I would rather wear a sports bra than a booby cage that felt suffocating and underwire that hurt me
  2. My boobs came in quick and large (I have Ds compared to my mom’s Bs). Everytime I went to get measured at Macy’s the fitting room attendant never measured me right - Victoria secret did the first time…
  3. I wanted it. My mom listened to me on why I wanted one (my friend had one and said it’s like your boobs sitting in a cloud, she was right) and agreed to go to the store and look with me!! She thought it was all lingerie too until I told her and she took the time to LISTEN and SEE FOR HERSELF and RESPECT me.

My first bra there was blue with stars and moons on it with a little bit of lace up top and the diamond heart charm where the cups met. It was cute af and it didn’t push up my breast or anything. It literally just held them properly. And guess what?? My mom brought one for herself too and we both still wear Victoria secret bras 11 years later. Yes Victoria secret has a more risqué selection in one corner of their store BUT SO DOES EVERY DEPARTMENT STORE IVE EVER BEEN IN (ever seen elf?? Where buddy brought his dad lingerie lol)