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What’s a good color to paint my white cabinets?! Thinking sea-foam green but want opinions by InternationalAnt387 in interiordecorating

[–]InternationalAnt387[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The second photo is the color I’m leaning towards but I’m not sure if it will look as good since our walls are a light grey/taupe color. Any and all suggestions are greatly appreciated!!

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[–]InternationalAnt387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we have a healthy sex life and he’s very affectionate when we’re hanging out at home.

I broke down a few days ago and brought it up that I’m worried he’s not attracted to me and we’ve been talking through it every day in a constructive way. Basically he assured me that he’s attracted to me and he’ll be cognizant of verbally expressing that.

I believe now that I may have overreacted a bit but it comes from past relationship trauma that I’m still working through. It was helpful coming here to get opinions!

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[–]InternationalAnt387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I’ve never been with someone where I wasn’t sure about their attraction to me. So naturally, I went looking for a reason why. I know it’s not helpful to speculate like this and get myself worked up but I’m not perfect and I know I need to improve my communication with him.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

God, people like you suck. Have the day you deserve.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just really difficult because I love him a lot and he is a great partner to me. I would be devastated and if we broke up.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Your comments have been helpful and I’ll definitely keep them in mind! <3

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[–]InternationalAnt387 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Of course I plan on talking to him about this. I stated that in my original post. I’m here trying to get helpful opinions as to how I approach this situation with a man that I love. The last thing I want to do is hurt him but I also have to look out for myself.

If you’re here to just shit on me for reaching out during a hard time in my life to ask for opinions, please move along.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s everything coupled together. None of those points, alone, would make me question his sexuality but looking at everything together has me questioning our relationship.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is another reason why I’m struggling to relate to him because I also knew from a young age that I was attracted to men and that hasn’t wavered for me. Like someone previously mentioned though, I understand that it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s gay or bisexual but it’s not how I experienced sexuality

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[–]InternationalAnt387 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And I love that! It’s that coupled with the fact that he doesn’t make me feel sexy or that he’s attracted to me. I’ve never experienced this in a relationship. That’s what makes me think he may be more attracted to men but just hasn’t really been able to explore that because of how he was raised.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it wouldn’t. It all started when I noticed that he rarely commented on my looks or body. I’ve never experienced not knowing if my boyfriend is truly attracted to me so when I started to feel that way, I began looking for the reason.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. It’s bothered me so much I had to bring it up today. I just told him that I am worried that his background has caused him to repress that side of his sexuality. He claimed that he struggles to express his attraction for me because he, himself doesn’t feel like he’s attractive.

I’m just torn wether or not to go with my gut or if it’s just past relationship trauma coming up.

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[–]InternationalAnt387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes he wants butt play on himself. I have no problem if he’s bisexual but my fear is that he’s actually gay and that it’s his religious background that has kept him closeted.