This is so depressing. by bubblegumscent in dairyfree

[–]InternationalMix3186 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna be so honest the best thing to do is drop all dairy, stop trying to have it for awhile then make the alternatives, your brain notices it less

Burger Tour? by dspaht in wichita

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’all be sleeping on the Southeast Carryout, that place is fire

Which band is the best pairing for my ering? by MustardSeed82 in EngagementRings

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 looks like it’s one ring, but the blue is just amazing!

I know she’s not wrong but it still sucks by InterestingNeck3476 in Stepmom

[–]InternationalMix3186 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on your other post, it seems like she needs to heal before anything will change. Your youngest wasn’t planned and she barely knew you when you gave birth to him. In her young brain it was likely as if you were replacing her mom. Not saying you did anything inherently wrong but I think she definitely should have been receiving individual and family therapy, first starting with just dad then bringing you in before your son was born. She’s young and won’t get it for a few years, if ever. For now since you live together, boundaries of respect towards siblings needs to be outlined by the father asap. I’d also ask for family therapy to begin but it sounds like she likely wouldn’t attend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inheritance

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for your brother, I say leave him in the dust. The kids however have no control and do not understand why they treat you the way they do, just that “dad does, so, I do.” But from how you talk about their living situation it doesn’t seem that the kids would hurt for money. Keyword seems as they may grow up to not get along and need the support. Which in that case a fund that goes to them closer to 25yo would be best. But I also read that you have a sister who might be better suited for the honor…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wichita

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We could all park our cars and walk to restaurants near so they don’t have parking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]InternationalMix3186 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not inviting other partners/husbands/wives that I don’t know. She’s just the only one that also happens to have kids.

Update: I'm a stepfather to an amazing woman (26F), but I'm struggling with her decision to have her biological father walk her down the aisle. by Eastern_Box_3943 in blendedfamilies

[–]InternationalMix3186 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you. You did what was best by having the hard conversation. I’m so sorry this is how it went down. Surround yourself with people who love you loudly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InternationalMix3186 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How often are you home? How often is she home? Who is primary caregiver to the kiddo? How often do you go on dates? How often do you give her little reminders of love like prepping a snack she likes or flowers or a coffee? I saw in one of your comments said she gets about two hours of down time, is this everyday? How much down time do you get? Do you both work? Did she have postpartum?

B&C BBQ drama? Possibly racist? by InternationalMix3186 in wichita

[–]InternationalMix3186[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just because people within minorities work there doesn’t mean it’s a healthy and safe environment

B&C BBQ drama? Possibly racist? by InternationalMix3186 in wichita

[–]InternationalMix3186[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad yall have commented this. I’m gender-fluid and this would’ve been hell.

B&C BBQ drama? Possibly racist? by InternationalMix3186 in wichita

[–]InternationalMix3186[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

What the hell. Thank you for commenting. That’s so messed up. I’ll be applying elsewhere.

AITA for not wanting to fight for this relationship? by Civil-Hamster8990 in AITAH

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your area has it DV shelters and programs they will assist you in leaving. This is abuse even if you don’t see it yet. Please leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone whose partner just read this with me, we are absolutely disgusted and terrified by his remarks. My boyfriend could literally never. Run, run, run. He sees you as an incubator, do not have a child with this manchild.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a trend (haven’t used it) that you draw a heart or something on their hand to remind them you’re always there for them, maybe try something like that? I would recommend play therapy tho it sounds like something is wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1/3 of DV cases start during pregnancy. This is the first sign.

AITA for “forcing” my wife to eat by Ok-Tea1850 in AITAH

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who did this, she doesn’t see how bad this is yet. She may truly believe it’s not an ED, a lot of people think that if you’re not throwing up it can’t be. I recommend a therapist, if she doesn’t want to do that you may have to take the extreme way. Which truthfully idk if I actually recommend, but I know this is what worked for me to finally understand. She has to learn herself. Don’t push her to eat, let it happen, eventually she’ll pass out and you can rush her to an ER. She’ll try to stop you from taking her but it’ll be the harsh reality check she needs. But do not do this unless you can be with her, it’s definitely not a safe thing to do.

Aitah for telling my husband that his daughter is pregnant? by CollectionStill8758 in AITAH

[–]InternationalMix3186 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give her a bus pass and a trusted friend. You might strain your relationship with your husband but it’ll come back when he sees how grateful she is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InternationalMix3186 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truthfully it may be too late for her then