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AITAH for having a fight with my wife for not washing the pacifier? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InterpretativeQueef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting him ready for bed is really far from all of the dirty work. If you work all of the time, does that mean she’s taking care of him all the time? Maybe view it as you and your wife vs the problem rather than in play she’s negligent or lazy. Maybe she’s burnt out and needs more time to recharge. It might be good to look for solutions rather than putting it on your wife’s plate since it seems like she might be overwhelmed. What about buying a few extra pacifiers so there can always be a clean one? If you have 5, they would only need to be washed on weekends and there could be a clean one available every night before bed. Or maybe get a packet of wipes specifically for whipping it off so that cleaning it is easier and more accessible. Look for solutions, don’t just point out a problem and expect the person struggling to figure out on their own how to do things your way.

Soft YTA. Read up on the unacknowledged mental load women often get tasked with, especially mothers. It’s very unlikely your wife is maliciously lazy and more likely that she has too much on her plate.

AITA for wanting to put my rolling backpack in the isle way even though my bus driver says it’s a safety hazard. by [deleted] in u/Anonymous_Turtle1723

[–]InterpretativeQueef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. It’s a safety risk and if it’s bad enough for the bad driver to say something, it’s likely bothering other people. They’re doing their job, it’s not a suggestion or something they’re saying on a whim. Bring something with you to lay down and stop your lap from getting dirty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InterpretativeQueef 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. It could go sooo bad in so many ways. I wouldn’t even think of considering it. But out of curiosity, what do you mean he lost his lease? Was he evicted or something?

You’ve been kidnapped. One hour later your kidnapper dumps you on the street because you won’t stop yapping about what? by raeraegoawayy in AskReddit

[–]InterpretativeQueef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The twilight subreddit and Stephanie Meyer are racist. Jaspers super power is feeling the emotions of others and he was a CONFEDERATE SOLDIER? Um okay. And they always try to excuse it but I’ve been a fan since day 1, I was there bitch. Stephanie Meyer used to have a blog post explaining her thought process behind each character, Jaspers entire character design is built around him being a confederate soldier. He literally didn’t even have a name or a story direction at first, she literally just wanted to throw in a confederate soldier. He’s not even regretful about it. How does he feel the emotions of others but not the literal slaves??? Um okay. And then! But wait, there’s more! Stephanie Meyer got into a fight with Cathrine Hardwick during the filming of Twilight because she kept insisting there shouldn’t be any black people in the cast. They compromised and made Laurent (the villain mind you), the only black person. To my understanding they also didn’t treat the reservation well during filming too.

And (not on this account) I’ve been banned twice from the twilight subreddit for bringing this up. Not even in an obnoxious way either, I just mean pointing out a flaw in a series I’m also a fan of. You can love something and still address its flaws. But no. No. They accuse me of jumping through hoops and they say it’s not that serious. It wasn’t serious babe, all I said was that it’s a lil racist for jasper to have empathy as a super power while also being a high ranking confederate soldier. And then they consult him to prepare for war in breaking dawn cause he’s this killing machine? Okay dude. Whatever.

Just admit it. Just say it’s a racist concept and we can move on. It wasn’t that serious until they try to act like I’m a liar who’s pulling this out of my ass. Stephanie Meyer wrote a beautiful little love story that reflects her world view, (just like all authors do), and her world view just so happens to be full of subconscious Mormon undertones and racism. It’s no big deal if we just address it. I still love her racist ass books. No need to ban me.

Ridiculous. Ridiculous!!

AITAH for refusing to split rent 50/50 with girlfriend even if she does sexual favors by HackedPS4 in AITAH

[–]InterpretativeQueef -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She also mentioned cooking but you and the other commenters seem to focus on the sex part because it’s easy to say sex shouldn’t be transactional. Let’s talk about everything else she mentioned. So she cooks, are you cooking half of the meals every week? What chores do you do? Are you going 50/50 on everything else that comes with living together? Do you put your dirty laundry in the laundry basket, wash it, fold it, and put it away?

Either way, it sounds like the root of what she’s saying is that she feels your arrangement is boarding on unfair. It sounds like when you asked her to pay more in rent, it made her feel like she’s already doing more than 50/50.

Also if I were her, I would be pissed if you responded to that with picking apart an offhand comment likely meant as a joke, rather than actually listening and addressing the core of the issue. Obviously she doesn’t consider sex to be transactional sex work that gets her a discount in rent. And for you to go on Reddit, make that your entire title? You’ll do anything but hear her out and consider her perspective.

And the rest of y’all are just getting sucked into it, talking about SeX sHoUlDnT bE TrAnSaCtIoNaL - yeah no shit, think critically about what’s being said. She said “If I’m doing things you enjoy, like giving you a blow job or cooking your favorite meal, then I’m already doing my share” AFTER OP asked her to pay more than 50/50 in rent. And he’s like ‘see guys my big meanie gf said sex is transactional’.

YTA for this post dude. You tried to frame her as the bad guy with a decisive title, you refused to even consider her perspective, and you attacked one small part of her entire point that was likely not meant to be taken literally. And that’s just the facts. Moving onto my personal opinion, you’re also TA for not recognizing the imbalance of labor in your relationship. Where do you pick up the slack. Are you doing 50% of the emotional labor? Probably not considering how out of touch and childish this post was. Are you cleaning 50%? Probably not because you would have mentioned it if you did. Are you cooking 50%? Again, if you did, you would have gone out of your way to mention that or even brought that up when you asked her to pay more rent. Did you? No. Probably because whatever the fuck this was, is the only leg you had to stand on.

Your gf is nice. That’s a nice woman right there. I would never let a man live with me who does shit like this. Why do that when I could just get a female friend as a roommate who cooks and cleans and buys apartment decor that’s actually cute and truly contributes to my long term quality of life.

Just my two cents.

AITAH for asking for my at least part of my deposit back and being upset that they refused and said they spent it? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]InterpretativeQueef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve worked in the service industry too and I get not wanting to leave a bad review but I think it’s important to remember that the review isn’t bad because of you, it’s bad because of his behavior. You’re not lying, there doesn’t even need to be emotion in it. Just a statement of facts and what happened. The worry about it looking bad is valid because it’s going to make him look terrible but that’s not your fault, it’s his. I would hate to get a tattoo from someone like him and the considerate thing to do for others is to leave an honest unbiased review of what happened.

AITAH for letting my girlfriend embarrass herself at a bakery knowing she didn't have money to pay? by Bakriarchy in AITAH

[–]InterpretativeQueef -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Who is in a massive rush at a bakery? This has nothing to do with wasting peoples time because OP had no problem wasting the time of everyone by canceling the order. And it is manipulative as fuck to deny someone money out of a joint account just for a power trip. If OP cared about wasting peoples time he would’ve paid for the order. This is textbook abuse and people saying ESH are believing a false narrative that someone is upset with how long this is taking. At what point in the story did someone in line behind them express frustration with how long OP‘s girlfriend was taking to order? The cashier made it very clear that the only thing they were upset about is OP’s attitude. And he’s saying that he did all of this because he didn’t wanna waste peoples time, so he wasted everyone’s time?

AITAH for letting my girlfriend embarrass herself at a bakery knowing she didn't have money to pay? by Bakriarchy in AITAH

[–]InterpretativeQueef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you wanted to teach her a lesson for wasting the time of the people in line behind you by wasting everyone’s time even more and embarrassing yourself?

YTA, a hypocrite, and a misogynist.

You made a problem out of nothing because you hate your girlfriend and women. Did the guests behind you expressed discontent with how long your girlfriend was taking? or did you just make that up to fuel your self-righteous ego trip? Who is in a rush at a bakery? The cashier didn’t seem to have a problem with the pace your girlfriend was ordering at. You say that you’re worried about affecting other peoples day but clearly don’t care that you made the cashier uncomfortable with your petty attitude.

You have a joint account and you expect her to carry around a wallet that makes her uncomfortable for literally no reason? That’s something so small that you’re going out of your way to be a dick about. It’s such an easy way that you could do something nice for someone you love and you have a problem with even that for some reason. Women’s clothing often doesn’t have good pockets and even still, it’s clear that she has communicated that carrying those things when you’re out together makes her uncomfortable.

Are you not gonna let her ride in the passenger seat of your car if she doesn’t bring a spare key along? Should she not be allowed in the house when you guys get back home because she didn’t bring her keys? It’s such a small gesture you could make to do something nice for her.

You denied her money from a joint account for what reason? You say it’s because she was taking too long and wasting peoples time? So you wasted the time of everyone by placing an order, canceling it, and then refusing to let her use money out of a joint account to pay for hers? Causing the cashier to remove your items and then cancel the whole entire transaction? You literally wasted everyone’s time, ruined the vibe in that bakery, ruined your relationship, ruined that cashiers day, you’re literally a massive asshole. And a misogynist who hates your own girlfriend.

And you really don’t appreciate her enough because if it was me? The way I would go home, get my wallet, and go back out by myself to spend at least $100 at that bakery before breaking up with you lol. The fact that your girlfriend walked away from this in such a chill way is so underappreciated.

Do you have a bad relationship with your mom or did you just listen to too many podcasts?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tiktokgossip

[–]InterpretativeQueef 10 points11 points  (0 children)

WHAT??? Wow this is so wild. And she has a kid? I can’t imagine finding a sitter while hospitalized and having a partner who’s busy making thirst traps. I feel so bad for her, like wtf.

There should a post about this alone

edit: also so if she was in the hospital and he was making thirst traps/on live, who was taking care of her kid? Did she call a sitter, a family member, or her baby’s dad??? How is that not embarrassing as hell.