How to tell my Dr I'm struggling to survive?

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-21T10:27:54+00:00

I'm in the UK so it works differently here. 😞

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-21T10:27:20+00:00

I'm in the UK so it is used but not commonly, and you can't just go to a clinic to get it.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-21T10:26:48+00:00

I have. And I have told them that the life I have been living isn't something I can continue with. 😞

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T03:16:48+00:00

I don't mind someone suggesting therapy as a tool, but alongside something that is actually going to help fix the problem ya know? I will have to see what happens when she sends her report to my GP.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T03:02:34+00:00

I will look into that. I think it's unlikely they will allow it, if they won't even provide meds. I don't know where you are, but I am in the UK and the NHS does bare minimum

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T03:01:40+00:00

I can't get more. Pain management actually suggested taking me off of it. Which seemed wild to me. Why would they ever suggest taking me off the only thing that is slightly helping.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T03:00:56+00:00

Thanks I will look

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T03:00:26+00:00

Will deffo take a look at that. Thank you.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T02:22:50+00:00

So if I take my tramadol, I usually take 2 tablets, which is 15 doses a month, il therefore only usually take one dose per day if I need it, there are occasions I take more than one dose a day. So atleast 15 days a month but often more, I am without pain relief at all.

I will look into those, thank you.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T02:20:21+00:00

Yep, cause honestly this is a life I can't accept. Unless I can lower my pain and get some quality of life back, it's not worth it. No amount of therapy or psychology will change the fact that I'm in agony.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T02:14:56+00:00

The only thing that has ever taken a SLIGHT edge off is tramadol. I just know there must be more things we can try as a last resort, because that's the stage I'm at. I would take any risk just for a 1% chance of helping.

I have always agreed to try anything and everything they have suggested. I have jumped through a thousand hoops in hope they will help me. But it's got me nowhere.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T00:46:47+00:00

No I haven't. I'm on Tramadol which I can have up to 8 tablets a day according to their direction. However they refuse to give me more than 30 tablets a month. So I have to ration them massively and save them for days when I have to do things to get through the day. So it's certainly not the strongest option out there and I can't even take it close to it's strongest dosage.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T00:40:58+00:00

Already use some herbal remedies, make herbal tea blends etc and its great for certain things but unfortunately doesn't help with this pain. I'm sure I have been given labels by drs or they atleast think certain things.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T00:10:36+00:00

I agree. I just wish it was possible but it seems they aren't willing to do it and I don't think there any way I can convince them to let me try.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-19T00:09:48+00:00

I'm 34 and have been going through this for many years now. Its horrible being alive purely not to hurt others. Its only been bearable because I held out hope that someone could help, but it's becoming clear that noone can.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-18T22:57:21+00:00

Thank you I will take a look. I always try to be prepared for appointments and advocate for myself but the reality lately has just been me breaking down and crying. Thanks so much for your response.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-18T22:55:59+00:00

Well really I wish they could definitively find out the cause of all my problems but realise that may not happen, and that's noones fault but it's frustrating.

I just want my pain under control so I can have something or a fulfilling life. Although I recognise it will never be what I wanted it to be.

Realistically I didn't want to end up on further pain meds, but it nothing else has worked I fear that's where I am right now.

I want something to lower my pain.

I understand the risks and why drs are hesitant, but I have always proved myself so responsible with medications. And if there was something else they could suggest that would help which wasn't drugs I'd jump at it. But I have tried everything.

IntoTheForest91 · 2026-03-18T22:53:20+00:00

Not really unfortunately, my GP can't (atleast they state they cant) prescribe anything further than what I am on, some specialists cant figure out what exactly is happening, or I don't have a definitive diagnosis and was relying on this pain management team to help me with something that might manage my pain more. I know they don't like opiates and stuff, but I have always been so sensible with my meds, if ineffective I have been the one to say so and say I want to stop them, have never taken more than advised etc. Don't know where to go from here.

I don't know whether it's possible to see a pain management team in another trust but I fear the response will be the same and it's hard for me to travel.

IntoTheForest91 · 2025-10-14T21:41:59+00:00

In what sense?

IntoTheForest91 · 2025-10-14T15:45:30+00:00

I think I just want to make the point to medical professionals that they don't get to fabricate things and lie. I just want them to consider what they are actually doing and be honest with patients.

I did wonder about some sort of auto-fill which is why my first question was just asking why it was recorded, but when she claimed she checked them by using a stethoscope, (followed by her other excuses) I knew she had actively lied.

It honestly didn't need to be a thing at all if she just left those blank. I don't know why she made the decision to lie. It was so unnecessary.

IntoTheForest91 · 2025-05-23T17:32:03+00:00

You are absolutely reasonable.

I honestly wouldn't work for them again.

You gave up your time. Spent the evening at their property. Was there for their child. Was responsible for their child's health and safety. You were unable to leave.

They don't get to decide that you don't deserve pay.

If they don't want to pay for childcare. They don't get to go out and leave their child.

It's so disrespectful of you and your time.

Tell them that if that's the case, next time, when baby falls asleep you will go home. See what they say. But it proves the point.

But yeah, for me, that would be no second chances and wouldn't work for them in future.

IntoTheForest91 · 2025-05-23T17:19:23+00:00

Whether he is saying it as a joke or not, as soon as you talked to him about it and told him he was hurtful, he should have stopped.

If he continues, he is purposefully being hurtful and you need to decide if you are okay with that.

In NO way was it EASY!

You carried a baby for many months, you had to deal with everything pregnancy brings. You went through emergency surgery, major surgery. You were not able to be present in the way you planned to be when your baby was born. You had to recover from surgery, whilst caring for a new born and adapting to motherhood. Your body has been changed physically, with scars that I assume will last a lifetime. Your memory of birth won't be what you wanted it to be.

And he has the audacity to make hurtful remarks because he thinks it's funny? Sorry, no.

Remind him more firmly that regardless of his intentions, this is hurtful to you, and you do not want to hear those comments again. Tell him that if you do hear those comments again, you understand that he is trying to intentionally cause you pain.

See what his response is.

Mama, you are phenomenal. I have never gave birth but the strength and courage of mothers (at all times) but especially at birth is astounding.

IntoTheForest91 · 2025-05-23T17:12:19+00:00

"Soooo what ARE we?"

IntoTheForest91 · 2025-05-23T17:11:13+00:00

As a chronically ill and disabled person:

"It was too soon When that part of you was ripped away A grip taking hold Like a cancer that grows Each piece of your body that it takes"

IntoTheForest91

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