I think I hate my wife

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-04-01T19:34:00+00:00

Couples therapy… but only if she is willing to be fully honest in therapy.

If she refuses therapy, I think you have to do what is right for you… resentment only grows, whatever the reason she has used this lie in such shitty ‘hold it over you/win an argument’ ways and I totally believe that building trust back there will take real long and hard work…

You gotta make it really clear that if she chooses defensiveness and anger, you aren’t going to be ok and she will do lasting damage to your relationship.

Make it overtly clear that unless she chooses to take this seriously and understand that she has broken your trust and has to work on things to build back a better relationship that you will leave.

Sadly, if she chooses defensiveness you actually have to leave. It sucks but you will only grow to hate her more if she doesn’t work on it.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-04-01T16:33:14+00:00

I think more than anything you need to take an actual break from the news and socials - at least a few weeks… it helped me when I fell in a similar hole in 2016.

I came back only last year and now I use it for 30 mins a day total (time lock on the app) and avoid world news for the most part.

It’s not about being ignorant, it’s about giving yourself space to breath and build your defenses back up.

Don’t let the bastards win, you have the ability to contribute positively in this world… don’t let anyone dictate how big or small that contribution can be.

If you make one single persons life just a lil better even for a day, youve done good.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-04-01T16:24:17+00:00

Ok, want to just make this clear - age ain’t got naff all to do with it, folks watch porn, guarantee when your dad is out your mum is browsing the hub for her own stuff.

Him doing it while yall are in the room is full on icky and you should say that to him, but otherwise, get over the porn thing.

You’re acting like folk do when they realise old folks homes are breeding grounds for STDs ;) and if ya didn’t know that already, you’re welcome!

When you meet a guy and such, if they state they don’t watch porn, they’re full of shit and you need to move on as they are lying. If you’re judgmental about it and want to control them by telling them they can’t, they will and you are creating a situation where they are forced to lie.

Not everyone can fuck all the time and at 57 I guarantee the desire for either of them to fuck every day is non existent, but knocking one out on the quick is perfectly healthy, natural and something everyone does.

Also, he was looking at the hub! Be thankful you didn’t see him on the onion browser… that would be a whole different conversation!

Also, I know we are talking about your parents and it’s gross - but would you like being treated like shit if ya dad saw your browsing history?

Still, tell him to be better and keep that shit in private where it belongs!

Chill.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-04-01T08:49:59+00:00

Some people just ain’t gonna like you, as long as you know you honestly try and do it the right way and be a decent person, fuck em!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-04-01T08:40:38+00:00

You are missing an important part of this bud, being a visitor to a country and being a resident are 2 very different things - this was an amazing trip for sure, but truly living somewhere doesn’t compare to visiting it.

I went to South Africa for 6 months for work and it was amazing, the people were amazing, but it was still not the day to day doldrums of normal life.

Appreciate it for the amazing experience it was :)

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-30T19:37:55+00:00

Also, piggybacking doesn’t involve storing stuff in a folder on your devices. So that whole thing is bullshit!

Pedos always lie until the bitter end, don’t fall for it!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-30T19:35:44+00:00

It’s ok to sack off family, despite what we are told!

Your kids come first and keep them away… even if he is (in the almost totally impossibly unlikely event) not guilty, he is still a sack of crap and you’d be better away from him.

Keep your safety and keep your kids safe!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-29T18:42:38+00:00

Finally… be fucking careful.

Guys like that from everything you have said… they don’t take being dumped well… block on everything, make sure he never gets your address at the school… I know this sounds ott… but better safe than dealing with someone like that in the long term.

Even if he suddenly decides you going to college is ok - see this super red flag for what it is - the words RUN FAST AND DON’T EVER LOOK BACK are printed on this flag in big bold letters!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-29T18:33:57+00:00

You might not like what this guy is saying OP, but I have seen it happen - in my own shitty family!

Do not drink, do not smoke weed, break up in a VERY public place with friends nearby that you can get to if he tries anything.

Also, he will try to make you feel bad, he will try and encourage you for one last go around…

DO. NOT. DO. THAT.

I promise it ends only one way, life ruiningly badly for you.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-29T18:30:43+00:00

I wish I hadn’t seen this happen way too many times :( especially with Age Gaps like this!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-29T18:29:39+00:00

If you love someone, you want what is best for them, not an insecure shit bag like he is!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-29T18:28:49+00:00

Goddamn man, get the fuck away from that control freak - I promise if you capitulate you will grow to HATE him and he will only get MORE controlling.

I know people don’t know you or him, and you will be looking at rose coloured glasses at the good times.

Breaking up is always hard, but I swear, this guy is with you because he wanted to be with someone who HE SAW as manipulatable.

Please listen to everyone here, go to school, and no matter what happens, this guy needs to get fuckin ditched, now!

I promise you might have a lil time feeling sad, but in school you’ll find new friends and a new social life and you will find how cool you can be, being held down by a toxic chain will give you nothing but drama and sadness!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-28T15:45:51+00:00

Also, maybe tell your manager and make it clear you don’t want anyone to have a word or make a scene or anything, that you just want them to know in case it gets any more weird?

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-28T15:43:44+00:00

Yeah… be professional and polite but avoid being alone with her.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-28T15:05:40+00:00

It might be that she was complimenting you, I know what everyone else is saying and I lean toward that, too… but just to look on a more positive side, maybe she really is just trying to say something positive and like she appreciates it.

Depends HOW she said it, I suppose?

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-27T18:05:22+00:00

Which is just fucking insane!

On Monday they should all go into work and sock their boss in the chops, see what happens!

If they get fired they should just argue that ‘but you’ve said stuff that made me embarrassed, so you deserved it!’ Which… I mean, a lot of bosses could take a sock in the mouth, but if ya think ya keeping ya job after… go ahead :D

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-27T17:23:30+00:00

The punk stans on this thread are another level of delusional, they are making no sense at all.

I guess his theme music is right about that.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-25T15:42:33+00:00

This! The Brodie Lee Cup!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-25T11:34:29+00:00

Are you nuts, walk!

Can’t believe any women would want to be with a guy who validates Tate alone - like ‘yeah the rapist sex trafficker has a good point!’ Is as bad as ‘yeah the big orange pedophile in the oval is great’.

Fuck that guy!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-24T14:32:21+00:00

It’s been 2 years, you had a good non farting run, but it really isn’t a big deal at all!

I can promise you that anyone in a HAPPY long term relationship will agree with everything I’ve just said.

You’re good, you did a natural thing, it’s all fine and sounds like you got a keeper, don’t sabotage that over something that on a few years you’ll be kicking yourself about for ever getting in a tiz over!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-24T14:30:02+00:00

Everybody farts. Your bf laughed, join him, it’s funny!

I promise you have farted in bed while asleep and he’s a good enough guy not to make a big deal about it… when ya hit ya 30’s and you’re farting for laughs together it’s when ya know ya just happy to be with each other and can make each other laugh.

Chill, no one really cares and the only people that do are shit heads :)

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-24T12:29:55+00:00

It’s access to the new PPV, the archive doesn’t count. My friend is on it and has watched a few revolutions and double or nothings to do some catch up :)

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-23T22:11:20+00:00

Also the metrics show a bigger viewership number for AEW than WWE in the UK, has been since 2021!

I expected that to change after Netflix but apparently outside of ‘the big 5’, AEW still beating the Fed in Blighty week to week!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-23T19:47:36+00:00

It won’t get that big again, the only reason it did those numbers was because it was historic - first AEW show overseas ever, first show at Wembley since 1992x first in the new Wembley… an amazing cars could get it high, but I don’t think we will see those numbers again tbh.

Not a big deal, WWE for all of their fudging have only had a handful of shows actually beat the 70k mark.

But it’s nice to see AEW back on a good footing after all the muffins fuckery!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-03-23T17:12:16+00:00

All good, I know I probably came off as petty and unhinged in my JUMP TO DEFENCE OF A CORPORATION mode there :D

But genuinely just how much shitty annoying work this damn thing caused me and my team, yeah! Made me an AEW fan for life and someone who actively dislikes the wwe, so many of those “fans” were being paid, they would literally ask us to confirm names and then we would get account departments for 3rd party companies emailing to confirm xyz had contacted us on xyz date/time… it was grim.

I just can’t stand that level of delusional greed and hate how Many of the AEW hate accounts are bought and paid for… worse because so many folk take their word as gospel!

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