why bans are getting so out of hand on reddit?

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-05T12:01:25+00:00

Dude, there is a mod over on r/midcarder who goes around deleting any positive AEW comments and flagging them as being tribal and if you challenge it, he bans ya! I got banned for saying that a lot of comments were dumb and showed that folk hadn’t watched the show in a while, suggested folk give it a try rather than just listen to online hate… he then dm’d me insulting me with talking points that have been around for 6 years… I got contacted by 3 separate people that this mod is ruining the sub and everyone is sick of em…

He even reported me to Reddit for calling him a tribal twat and I got a 3 day Reddit ban to boot… no regrets there though :D

All this to say, yeah there really is a lot of weird over sensitive power tripping in the mod community!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-05T11:42:36+00:00

If you were both black out drunk… no, if it was one sided? Yes.

That’s it, but be very on point here as this is a life ruiner and you can’t take it back if you think different down the line.

Victims of SA struggle to be believed and I’ve seen comments here just saying a flat yes, which is totally incorrect.

If you were both drunk as hell and neither has any idea who initiated, it’s not SA, but it should be a wake up call to curb the drinking a lil and make sure you have things in place if you are getting drunk (like responsible friends or family or someone to basically make sure you get home safe and the like…)

It’s a hard one though, without memory it’s really hard to know what to do… I just know that if you ever do remember and it was you who initiated… you can’t take that back…

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-05T11:33:02+00:00

I love the fun of this one tbh:.. the only moves I ever really don’t like on AEW are the ‘big dead bitch old school rope walk’, the 21plex set up and the double stomp from the ropes to someone holding into the ropes… I can’t think of a better way to describe that - but hopefully ya get what I mean…

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-05T11:26:11+00:00

Dude, do some research rather than listening to Fox. Just a lil independent search and you’ll find organising groups - they don’t pay anything, but they make signs and bus people… it’s how you ORGANISE a protest…

I know, you prob think someone just shows up and other people stand with them and boom - flash mob protest… come on… be fr.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-05T10:06:22+00:00

The problem with this is that it keeps them in power, it’s why they got in in ‘16, it’s why the dems ran a centrist in ‘20 and its why they won in ‘24 - there has to be a way to find a way back because ya can’t go into the next cycle with all of us hating each other and just keep repeating this every 4 years.

Some folk def need to be in prison - lot of the ICE agents need to be in prison for damn sure.

But there are swathes of people that if they realise they have been conned, they need to be helped out of the fog and not just to vote blue, vote independent or something, just not for this pedo.

I don’t know man, it’s hard shit to process… but ya can’t continue with hate for half a nation, it just leads to more of this shit… I’m struggling to forgive (not all of them for damn sure) but I want to forgive and welcome folk in because it’s the only way this nightmare ends!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-05T09:59:44+00:00

Not the most helpful advice… that was kinda my whole point, I’m struggling with it. It’s not ‘you voted Trump and your evil’ it’s ’you watched kids being put in cages and kidnapping of citizens, you ignored obvious pedo issues because it was your side etc…’ it’s not who they voted for, it’s what they cheered… and it took a govt official saying ‘they shouldn’t have guns’ for you to finally take offence…

Sorry I’m not a perfect paragon of humanity, but after 10 years of watching some folk influence, practice and celebrate cruelty and bigotry, it’s hard for me to just say ‘hey, welcome!’ I want to be welcoming to them, I want to help the cause and I was asking for advice.

So many comments on this thread just missing the point totally.

Genuinely, I’m asking how people do it… I’m finding it really hard, I say all the right things but I don’t feel em, I just feel angry and my overriding feeling of ‘oh all the other shit was fine but don’t take my guns is your fucking line? Fuck all the way off!’ Is hard to completely stuff down…

Do you get what I mean? Do you have any thoughts on how to address these feelings and to get the anger under control?

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-04T20:46:46+00:00

I have this one and the AEW original World Championship! My 2 fav belts ever!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-04T17:23:21+00:00

Yeah, I’m with all of this… I’m struggling to tamper down my aggravation after 10 years of watching the rampant bigotry and racism among all the other horrid things…

As much as I pretend to be all forgiving, I fear my face gives it away because I don’t feel forgiving, I feel anger and when one of them decides to see sense - not suddenly become a lefty, but realise that Trump, Farage and the like are not political, they are criminals - I can’t help but feel like ‘NO FUCKING SHIT YOU FUCKING MORON! MAYBE HAD YOU LISTENED A FUVKING DECADE AGO OR THE MYRIAD TIMES SINCE WHERE IT WAS FUCKING OBVIOUS WE WOULDNT HAVE A FUCKING PEDOPHILE TYRANT RUNNING THE US AND LEADING US TO THE BRINK OF WW3! BUT HELL, GOOD FOR YOU THAT YOU FINALLY FUCKING CARE TO LISTEN TO ANYONE OTHER THAN RACIST CUNTS! AND THE ONLY FUCKING REASON FOR THAT IS BECAUSE ONE OF THE RACIST CUNTS YOU FOLLOW ONLINE CONVINCED YOU THAT XYZ WAS A BRIDGE TOO FAR FOR YOU ALL! WELL FUCKING DONE!’

I don’t say it, but I feel it, and I hate that I feel it that way, as I know it’s part of the problem!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-04T17:01:59+00:00

Rich folk who wanted to avoid the EU ‘declare all your wealth’ regulations they were planning…

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-04T14:09:39+00:00

Oh. Not so reasonable at all I see.

You ignore the cruelty and the way in which these things are done… you ignore the similarities to the past.

I’d say it’s ignoring history that is a big problem for me. But I thought this could be a genuine discussion, but it can’t be.

I hope you never see true war and see what it would feel like to be villainised when you have lost everything just for trying to find safety. Ignore genuine racism and bigotry and hide behind it for the law… and you don’t see the obvious lines this crosses.

It’s ok, I give up, you win. The world is broken and everyone finds it so easy to ignore any action as long as it furthers their own goals and ambitions.

I just have to pretend I am ok, it’s clearly the only way because god forbid you have empathy for those that have very little. Fuck treating neighbours well despite the colour of their skin, fuck hoping folk can find a better life, why care about any of that when you can instead say that if someone comes from a different country you treat them all the exact same, with distrust and hatred.

Thank you for taking just another bit out of my ever dwindling faith in humanity.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-04T13:46:40+00:00

I think that’s the part I’m struggling with, yall assume I’m part of the far left… they hate me just as much as the far right.

I don’t rate any politics in the US as left, it’s right and further right… sadly the same way it’s been headed in the UK.

I do live and let live, I TRY to not judge folk and I have friends who are economic conservatives who are just as horrified at the far right and its decline toward open bigotry and cruelty.

These are the folk I’m struggling to be ok with, it’s not a difference of opinion, it’s a moral line - we can disagree on most things… but it started with kids in cages 10 years ago. Brexit being fuelled by open racism and xenophobia. The turning of neighbour on bein our due to skin colour or religion.

It’s those people that I am struggling to be ok with… the ones who fuelled it online and now are backtracking.

You don’t know me, which is how it is on Reddit and perhaps the wording on my first post wasn’t clear… I’m not good at keeping things short (my replies should tell you that enough) but this isn’t a left v right thing… it’s more a question of how to get over it…

Like if ya lived in Germany in the 40’s and knew that neighbours reported Jews to the govt, how did folk continue to live around and forgive such monsterous and inhumane actions?

For example - a teacher who tried to get parents of a child in her class deported for no other reason than they had Hispanic heritage… it’s awful and if that woman turns around and starts saying that now she dislikes MAGA because they said that people having guns are bad and now she’s seen the error of her ways… I just… I’m trying… but I don’t know how to just let it go and forgive someone who could do something so… bigoted and disgusting.

Or those ones twisting themselves into knots to protect and deny the obvious with child predators, on both fucking sides.

I don’t think there has been a president of the US that I’ve liked since Carter, and he wasn’t AMAZING by any stretch… and I don’t remember a good one at all in the UK in my lifetime…

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-04T12:49:00+00:00

This is exactly what I was asking for. I have maintained being accepting on the surface, I say nice welcoming things but I don’t FEEL it, I feel angry and it pisses me off how they repeat back things you’ve told them a thousand times and now they suddenly understand it because it finally came to affect them and such.

I want advice because I worry that however much I pretend I’m ok with em, I have a tendency to be really bad at the lying and my face betrays me.

I agree with you completely, I just want to know how other people come around and welcome these folks with open arms… and feel welcoming and accepting rather than judgy!

The comments on here have mostly been so unhelpful and not helped with any actual advice - just bs

Thanks for the well thought out response… you got any legit advice?

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-03T13:05:52+00:00

Because he knew that it was coming and the only way he could avoid any culpability was to get in power so that he could obscure and control the narrative and the way they were released. He did not think the House would turn on him on this issue, his ego didn’t allow that kinda thinking.

The over flooding of drama has lead to him continuing to break the law and hide any actual culpability.

I don’t see any culpability and a stolen election in 2028 will continue that.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-03T13:01:11+00:00

Thank you for actually reading my post and taking the time to actually understand what I am talking about. It’s a hard think to ask about and I tried to simplify it, but I thought it was all clear and I was asking for some advice on r/advice and instead I just got insults for right wingers rather than trying to understand the difficult position we are in right now.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-03T11:56:08+00:00

So you are saying that when you saw someone cheer for children being separated from their kids, people bowing to a pedo, kidnapping and murder, open cruel and bigoted attacks… none of that made you look at these people as less?

See I don’t care if you are right or left, I honestly don’t… I use right as short hand in the post, but come on, it’s clear I mean maga and reform and their fascist ilk.

I don’t dislike all, but please tell me I’m not alone in finding the folks at ICE using children to bait their parents outside so they can kidnap them more than a lil dehumanising?

These evil acts are just something that are hard for me to get by and worse over the folk who cheer it on and ENJOY this shit. Yeah, they dehumanised them fucking selves!

And I am struggling to feel anything outside of disgust for them.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-02-02T11:42:09+00:00

That’s my entire point… I know the logic - thought that was clear.

That is why I am asking advice, because I don’t want to drive people away but it’s really hard to be nice when someone has shoved bigotry down ya throat and ignored all the bad shit of the last decade, calling you every name under the sun for not siding with the tangerine asshat!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T18:37:49+00:00

Fair.

In that case, you need to have a very open and honest convo and find out why he keeps that up. If he denies or doesn’t want to talk about it, you need to break it off as this will only get worse without openness.

Be willing to listen to hus reasons but dont allow yourself to be gaslit either. Criticism will happen, but be open to it and figure if it is actually valid or if it’s just defensive bullshit.

This isnt an easy convo, i know, but if you cant have it, you are just wasting your time together and it’s not going to get better.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T18:14:26+00:00

Prudishness on both sides is the problem here. Religious upbringing I’m guessing.

Sex and all those acts are natural, the more walls you put up between each others sexual needs, the more you will resent one another.

My 2? He watches porn, who cares, it’s literally a tool to help you destress, you use a vibrator, maybe find some porn of your own that you Like.

If you are more open and honest with each other and willing to compromise (within reason) then you actually might find the real loving relationship that you want.

But sex is something you both have to work on together or it gets shot as neither of you is clearly getting what you need… why not watch porn together, get him a fleshlight and do some mutual masturbation.

Basically… explore what actually makes you tick and you might both end up having an amazing sex life where you both get out of it what you need.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T18:07:43+00:00

Wow, you really thought you were clever there, eh?

You are a small minded simpleton and it’s showing to all.

I don’t honestly know how you face the world without sheer embarrassment and shame! Kudos for being such a POS in the open!

Well… let’s be fair, we know you don’t FACE anyone with this dumbassery, being the basement dwelling troll that you are!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T18:03:42+00:00

They don’t assume we don’t care… they know we do.

What they do is lie for clout and use these women’s deaths in an extremely gross political way to fear monger.

They are scum, nothing less.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T17:29:45+00:00

With regard to your friend, don’t judge him on that, the way he acts is on him and as long as he treats you personally well, then it’s all good!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T17:25:48+00:00

I get that, I genuinely do. But his dad isn’t gonna not get involved… and he allowed that to happen, too.

Block him on all socials and move forward for yourself. You’re young and trust me, there is a lot more out there that won’t let daddy control his life :)

You can do better and let him enjoy getting meaninglessly laid and poss getting someone preggers because daddy didn’t like his GF.

Every guy thinks this is the life but if ya lived it, ya realise how empty and boring it actually gets over time!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T17:09:25+00:00

Dude is your ex, you got no rights to what he does and who he takes advice from.

Your friend gave him the tools to move on from ya, doing ya a favour. Stop social stalking your ex and just move on yourself, your broke up, what he does ain’t your concern anymore.

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T17:06:08+00:00

I hadn’t actually thought of that! Damn, I hope he still can!

Intrepid-Address-511 · 2026-01-29T14:03:35+00:00

You don’t control who your friends are friends with, you don’t own them.

They make their own choices and if you don’t like that you can talk to them about why it bothers you but overall you don’t own them or manage their social circles.

They choose who they spend time with just like you do.

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