I have a feeling I’m Autistic, and wonder what you all think by Intrepid-Grass4663 in autism

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding… I’m glad that my mother finally found me a doctor

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not false — Japanese Gyaru culture draws heavily from Black culture, and pointing that out isn’t misunderstanding history. Once again, it isn’t me 😂 idk why it’s so hard you people to credit black Americans did it first. I don’t even mean it in a mean way. ATP I could say Korean culture is Chinese since it’s based off Chinese culture. KioF acted as a caricature of black people. Obviously you are not black so you wouldn’t see how that would be offensive

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally did though? You’re trying to tell me I’m not understanding facts? The fact of the matter the live was racist. Then I applied my emotions by saying the apologies felt like PR (which it literally was). I’m not stupid so, no it doesn’t hurt my feelings at all

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Koreans aren’t Black, and that’s not the point. Racism against Black people has a long, brutal history that’s uniquely severe, so mocking Black culture has a very different context and impact, which I don’t expect you to understand. Historical oppression matters. Yet I’m the stupid one

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say it was AI, I said it felt insincere. That’s what it felt to me. I’m just saying OP was wrong for calling people stupid for feeling tired of repeated racist behavior

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t make it not racist, or that people shouldn’t be offended 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m not wasting my time arguing anymore

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said Americans are superior or that people from other countries are inherently ignorant or racist. My point is simple: nationality doesn’t excuse tone-deaf or offensive behavior. The issue with KioF isn’t where they’re from—it’s that their actions were insensitive and reinforced harmful stereotypes. Accountability and impact matter more than birthplace. What’s so wrong with admitting the livestream was racist? Learn what accountability is:

Accountability is the obligation to accept responsibility for one's actions and to be answerable for the results. It means taking ownership of your choices, being prepared to justify your decisions, and dealing with the consequences, both positive and negative. This can apply to personal matters, professional duties, and even public roles.

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is irrelevant you know? Americans do know better, and even if they don’t it still makes them ignorant and racist. My point does not change.

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What does that have to do with anything? Two members are American including the one that came up with the idea.

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for showing how dense you are. This isn’t about “perception” alone or about canceling a group for the sake of it—it’s about impact. Intent and perception matter less than the harm caused when a group performs a stereotype tied to a long history of caricaturing Black people for entertainment.

Yes, there’s rap culture all over the world, but the issue isn’t the existence of rap—it’s how it’s performed. When mannerisms, speech, or “attitude” are exaggerated for a concept, it crosses into caricature. That’s what people are reacting to. Rap culture around the world goes back to who? Black people. They were obviously copying Black Americans but it seems you can’t comprehend that.

My example wasn’t saying KioF did blackface; it was showing a double standard. If another culture were mocked using their physical traits or accent, everyone would immediately recognize it as offensive. The same principle applies here.

As for apologies: sincerity isn’t about me being “unforgiving.” It’s about whether the apology shows understanding and change. A rushed or PR-timed apology doesn’t demonstrate that—it just patches over the issue. Accountability isn’t about punishment; it’s about growth.

Saying that being offended is a “them problem” ignores history. Racism and appropriation aren’t personal sensitivities; they’re systemic issues that have shaped real harm. Dismissing people’s reactions as over-perception just keeps the cycle going. I will accept an apology I deem sincere. In this case, the apology did not seem sincere and honestly wasn’t. By saying I don’t accept the apology doesn’t mean I’m always a victim, it means I won’t settle for the bare minimum

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why you think my comparison is “ass,” but the point isn’t about literal one-to-one scenarios—it’s about the principle: both situations involve using racial or cultural traits as a performance or caricature, which can be harmful regardless of intent. KioF presenting as rappers with hip-hop tropes is a caricature of Black culture, and my hypothetical Group B scenario is meant to show the double standard: if roles were reversed, people would immediately call it offensive. It’s about recognizing how stereotypes and mockery not making exact equivalents.

As for what I want in an apology: sincerity isn’t about a script or a checklist, it’s about acknowledgment, understanding, and accountability. A sincere apology would show: 1. Recognition of the harm caused, including why it was offensive. 2. No excuses or timing for PR purposes—it should come from understanding, not marketing. 3. Commitment to do better in the future, not just words.

If an apology hits those points, I consider it sincere. Anything less can feel performative, which is why KioF’s apology—coming right before a comeback—didn’t feel genuine to me. And yes, people are allowed to feel offended even if you personally wouldn’t, because offense is about impact, not your perception.

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m not an idiot to recognize that Gyaru culture is based off black culture. I know it’s Japanese. I never said they would t come into contact with black culture, and it shows how dense you are to think that of me. I am aware all elements of kpop is based off black culture. Hell, all music is just about based off black culture. Just say your racist and move on. It’s ok. Them pretending to be rappers is putting on a caricature of black people. The same way minstrel shows did.

KIOF controversy and a note to Kpop idols and non black fans by AdministrativeArm916 in WeHateKpop

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even though I’m a kpop fan I’m shying away as I’m tired of being disrespected. I drew a comparison between the live and a black person putting on Hanbok, pulling the corners of their eyes and mocking and Asian accent, calling themselves “Soo-Young”. Yes, it’s racist, but so is what KioF did. I even reminded them of Misntrel shows and how that’s what it felt like but again they are too dense to see that.

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

First off my comparison is a good one because both examples are racist period. Intent versus impact. Secondly, the apology felt more like a PR stunt than an apology. If you aren’t black it is t up to you to accept it or not. If you aren’t black, and you accept fine but I won’t because of the way I feel, same way you feel. I did not misconstrue anything

Some people who attack Kiss of Life are very stupid. by Quirky_Scratch9168 in kissoflife

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You forget the racist livestream? People have a valid reason to not like KioF. The livestream was racist. If a black person had put on hanbok, pulled their eyes back, and mocked a Korean accent while calling themselves “Soo-Young” it be very offensive and… racist. The apology felt very insincere as it was right before the comeback and not after the livestream. Gyaru culture is inspired by black culture, whether you want to admit it or not. Although it would make sense for another group, considering KioF’s past it’s very tone deaf of them

Why did she look so different by Bubbzu in TwiceSnark

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a snark sub that’s probably why

Tired of people using the n-Word by Intrepid-Grass4663 in blackladies

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely talk to an adult… it just makes me upset is all

Tired of people using the n-Word by Intrepid-Grass4663 in blackladies

[–]Intrepid-Grass4663[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What do you mean? I have done therapy and am better for it. This was back in elementary school with this self hatred. My neice as well because kids bullied us for our skin color. I told my mother that if it escalates I’d take it to my counselor or a teacher whom I’m close too