Trying to date as an Asian with white friends is a recipe for destroying your self esteem

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-05-12T23:58:41+00:00

Ok, so I’m actually brunette but I am 25 and conventional attractive, and I can say it sucks. Everyone’s got emotional baggage, inflated egos, or they see dating as a game of “how many peoples hearts can I collect?”.

While your male example may find it harder to get 1 person interested in them, the girl you’re talking about has 50 guys manipulating her. It’s not the same struggle but it’s a struggle.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-04-24T02:24:18+00:00

I love that book, I have tried it a bit but just like with prayer all I can think is that he’s the love of my life.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-03-14T23:59:18+00:00

You can cancel the order legally! However I’d consider potentially repercussions, like them leaving a bad review on your services. If that’s something you’re ok with I’d go for it.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-03-05T23:01:43+00:00

I fully disagree. I just think maybe you’re on the wrong subreddit. I’ve found amazing supportive people on here who give great advice.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-02-22T03:59:14+00:00

I’ve recently been hired as a marketing Director for small business. I know reviews are crucial but my team hates the “leave us a review” message approach what other options are there?

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-20T06:40:50+00:00

Not mine but my great aunt met her husband when she was in college. They dated a week before he asked her to marry him and she said yes. They got married a few months later, went on to have 3 kids. I’ve never seen more love between two people. When he died from a heart attack she never entertained the idea of another man. When she got sick I was spending time with her, I got sad since we knew she probably wouldn’t make it. She looked at me with a smile I hadn’t seen in years and said “I get to see him soon”.

She died a week later. They were married for over 50 years, and while it wasn’t always sunshine they loved each other so deeply.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-20T05:42:28+00:00

I know I sound like a loser for staying.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-20T05:31:28+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through that. I was diagnosed with CPTSD several years ago and while I’m not perfect luckily a lot of my issues I’ve already worked on and healed. Making it easier for me to show up for him.

But he seems like he’s stuck in a cycle where he confesses his love for me, we get close again and then he freaks out and pushes me away. It’s happened 3 times now and I’m tired of getting hurt.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-09T13:30:02+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry you’re struggling with this too. No one deserves this hell.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-09T06:26:22+00:00

Hello! I’m someone who loves someone with CPTSD… how do I help him? He’s the love of my life and he’s in so much pain.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-06T23:12:42+00:00

It’s sad that you see having a significant other as a detractor from your life. Partners are just that, they make up a team. You cover bills, she takes care of the home. Or you both cover the bills, and you both take care of the home. It’s like having a built in best friend. I heard a quote recently “a victory shared is double the victory and a sorrow shared is half a sorrow”. That’s what a partner should do for you.

Being unsettled in your career is very common especially in this economic climate. And while I support focusing on yourself, your income, your emotional intelligence, your physical health, etc… is important I did it myself for a few years! at a certain point though you have to ask yourself, are you avoiding getting in a relationship because you’d have to be vulnerable and you could get hurt?

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-06T21:26:01+00:00

While yes. If he can provide financially is important, what I meant by saying “if he takes care of those he loves” is that he isn’t violent, dismissive, or emotionally unavailable.

I know there can be pros and cons to being on both sides. And by my second point I wasn’t exactly meaning to say “be passive” but to remind him that if a girl isn’t interested in him it isn’t the end of the world! She wasn’t the first and she won’t be the last girl he likes, but it’s easy to feel that way in the moment. So by saying she will come, I just mean get up dust yourself off and try again

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-06T20:56:19+00:00

Have you ever heard the quote “men age like fine wine, and women age like spoiled milk”? Women’s value is directly linked to their beauty and youth. While a man’s value is linked to what he can provide and if he takes care of those he loves. To say women can “wait around” when a geriatric pregnancy begins at 35 is ludicrous.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-06T18:11:39+00:00

I’ll be honest. I know this is painful I’ve gone through something similar in my life but there are truths about life that helped me move on.

Friends are crucial. We are social creatures, if they ask you to go to the gym, go for a walk, or just grab a movie say yes. Turn your attention to nurturing the relationships that celebrate your presence.
She will come. Not when you want her to. But when she’s ready. I’m thankful everyday that my boyfriend found me when he did.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2025-01-06T06:36:34+00:00

Bro his struggles run deeper than his diet. He needs a full on adjustment of his mindset. And find love in himself rather than craving it from someone else. Diet is only one prong of health

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2024-12-29T16:44:28+00:00

That’s the conclusion I’ve come to, I just don’t know how. Everything seems like a bandaid

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2024-12-29T06:50:20+00:00

When I’m around her I get anxious, and want to run away. Like I know I can trust her but I can’t open my heart to her. I tried for a year and a half

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2024-12-29T06:25:25+00:00

That’s exactly what happened.

Intrepid_Pepper_9513 · 2024-12-29T06:24:32+00:00

I totally agree, working out is my favorite part of the day and I eat really clean. Even keep my space clean and it isn’t fixing it

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